How do you deal with funerals?

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I only went to two. In both cases, I didn't know the deceased. I just acted generically like everyone else, internally thinking about completely unrelated things, and rushed to the food as soon as possible, with the central objective of being forgotten.

I truly don't understand the purpose of funerals. It seems such a lavish expense for nothing...

Agreed.

I've never liked the idea of a funeral. Generally at funerals most people will hardly have known the deceased, let alone loved or cared about them. So why even bother attending? Some will say it is to "show respect", I'm not sure how you can express respect for someone you didn't even truly know. The only funerals I've attended are my grandparents, and one other because my mum wanted me to be there. I've never cried or shown any real emotion at a funeral, I prefer to mourn on my own.

I can't stand the wakes and avoid them when I can. Having to respond to distant families attempts at socializing with me despite the fact we wouldn't talk at any other time. All the while I couldn't care less about them with the feeling most like mutual is just an exhausting and pointless social ritual to me.

When my time eventually comes, I would like a simple service at the graveyard where I will be buried, with only close friends and family in attendance.

the same applies for marriage also

many people invite near and far people for their marriages and it seems odd attending the wedding of someone you barely know.

i remember my childhood neighbour called me up for his wedding i attended the same we were not in touch so many years and only because he invited me i attended it.......but after that he never kept in touch and once i remember i added him on a social network he didnt even bother to add me so whats the purpose of attending any marriage or funeral of person you are barely in touch with.......