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08 Jul 2012, 12:51 am

Chris71 wrote:

Okay, based on a lot of feedback so far, what if the question of "do you wish to be normal" were to be interpreted as this...

"Do you wish to be Neurotypical (but still be a genius NT physicist, NT mathematician, NT writer, NT poet, NT artist)"
- remember the vast majority of university professors out there are probably NTs. And very smart people too.
- you would still have a lot of intelligence, genius, unique way of looking at things, but not have the downsides of AS.

What would your response be to that?

The DOWNSIDES of aspies is that their are too many neurotypicals and not many aspies.
So, no I do not wish to be 'normal' I wish our society had more aspies. Then I would automatically
be 'normal' because then we wouldn't be a minority.

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08 Jul 2012, 2:05 am

If I'd understood at an early age the meaning of these lyrics --

Quote:

I see friends shaking hands, saying "How do you do?"
They're really saying "I love you"

-- I probably would have been normal and enjoyed saying "How do you do?" Because I would have understood I was really saying "I love you," if not "I would like to like you."

Simplistic? I suppose.

And yes, I do wish I were normal. Not more normal. Just normal. Someone who fit in easily and was accepted as a friend instead of as an oddity, a person judged and ridiculed for being different.

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08 Jul 2012, 2:09 am

Joe90 wrote:

Oh how can people be glad to not be normal?!

I think I must have empathy then, because it seems like I'm missing being normal even though I've never been a normal person before....

That's not empathy, or rather a sign of empathy. It's more a sign of envy, which is a normal human emotion.

Being unable to understand why people might be comfortable, satisfied, happy with who they are is a sign of a lack of some degree of cognitive empathy.

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08 Jul 2012, 2:21 am

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08 Jul 2012, 2:52 am

Yes and no. I would like the ability to socialize better and more consistently, but would not want to lose my unique attributes related to AS.

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08 Jul 2012, 3:05 am

Sometimes I wish I was normal but if it was imposed on me I would probably be angry if it meant I wasn't 'me' any more.

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08 Jul 2012, 3:57 am

No I wouldn't like to be normal, I know their life quality is better, but It just feels that they have a simplified view at life. They care too much about little meaningless things. Maybe I'm just being rebelious, but I was born this way, sadly there's no place for a thing like me to live.

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08 Jul 2012, 5:13 am

This question tears my head in half...
i understand that theirs perks to both sides.
im sure my artistic and musical ability would not be anywhere near what it is today without as.
along with my philosophical understandings.
but i find myself widely unable to relate to or trust other people.
generally im by myself somewhere. be it at home or wandering the trails.
everyone seems so far away. like animals
-its ok to look but stay away
-they communicate differently
-they act differently
-they smell differently
-they express differently
-dont look them in the eye

but maybe if i was nt than there would be someone around

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08 Jul 2012, 7:35 am

Yes, if only to see what it was like. It may be possible I would be even less happy.

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08 Jul 2012, 9:05 am

The question is far too vague to answer properly, but if I it means "would you rather not have AS than have it" the answer is "yes". If it means "do you wish you were average" then "no".

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08 Jul 2012, 10:55 am

No.

From what I observed, a lot of "normal" people are boring people that fit into one mold or another. I'm not some "wannabe different" person or anything but it really bugged me that these people would just conform to the norms without questioning some of it... like someone else said, I'd rather more people be like me. Perhaps this is why I never really gelled with a lot of people, because they just seemed so cookie-cutter.

All my friends break this mold in some way and I get along much better with them than most of society. It's like we form kind of an underground group of odds and outs or something, haha.

I've always felt this way. It's like I'd try to get why people were doing this or that, and then I just realized they weren't worth my time, and that I should find people more like me.

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09 Jul 2012, 4:29 pm

When being odd has me at a disadvantage.......*sigh* ......otherwise Ive grown quite fond of myself ;D

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09 Jul 2012, 10:04 pm

Normal is a dryer setting

Do I wish that I was Neurotypical? YES!!

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10 Jul 2012, 12:07 am

No way. I'd completely lose the person I've been for the past 48 years, not to mention my musical abilities (which I live for).

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12 Jul 2012, 2:33 pm

On days when my depression is very bad, I fleetingly wish I was normal, or more like everyone else so that I would fit in and feel like I belonged somewhere. But, this kind of adds to my depression as I hate the idea of having to change who I am in order to be accepted by others. Besides, I often like being abnormal.

At times I feel like I'm a unicorn and wishing to be normal is like wishing to lose my horn and be an ordinary horse. I wouldn't be as lonely, I'd be useful to society, but the great magic of my soul would be denied, perhaps even destroyed by such an act.

As for being NT, I don't know if I'm an Aspie but I certainly don't feel typical, the typical mind seems to want to abandon that which makes the world a magical place. I'd say I'm idiosyncratic, and I prefer that to any sort of normalcy.

I don't want to be able to enjoy smalltalk, I don't want to dance on the surface of life while there is so much going on beneath. To me, the world of normality is the tip of an iceberg, and all that is fascinating about life, ignored by typicals minds, is under the surface of the water. I can't get to those places by being sociable. I do not see as deeply when I am pretending to be normal.

What I would like is if people would stop expecting me to be normal.

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12 Jul 2012, 3:31 pm

I don't see any real need to change. I have a fairly fulfilling life. It may not be considered 'normal' (whatever the hell that is) but I am reasonably happy the way I am. A stereotypical NT life holds no appear for me whatsoever.

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