Are you self-supporting, on disability, or what?

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Are you self-supporting, receiving disability, supported by family, or what?
I support myself 100% by working 34%  34%  [ 60 ]
I'm on disability (for example, SSI or SSDI in the USA) 24%  24%  [ 42 ]
I'm supported by family (parents, spouse, other) 27%  27%  [ 48 ]
Other (please specify) 16%  16%  [ 28 ]
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09 Jul 2012, 4:13 pm

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Self-supportive.

Sometimes you've gotta suck it up, find a job you can do/tolerate, and deal with it... "miserable" or not.


You make it sound so easy. Is there really a job out there for someone with noise sensitivity and sight impairment?



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09 Jul 2012, 4:34 pm

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Sometimes you've gotta suck it up, find a job you can do/tolerate, and deal with it... "miserable" or not.


Some people can't do that. Sometimes there aren't any jobs that you can do/tolerate that you can actually get.


At some point in time, most people who can communicate in this forum could perform SOME job that is available during some time in their lives. Being on welfare for 50 years would be a travesty. The available job that a person can do might not be one they like, or one that is respected or "meaningful," and they might not keep that job for many years, but we can at least find something we can do for a while. If you can physically perform the job, and you're looking at starving and being homeless-- what you "tolerate" is a hell of a lot more than when you have some family or welfare aid to sponge off for years. The purpose of welfare should be rehabilitation.

It already is. Why do you think that it isn't? Welfare was ended under Clinton, 20 years ago. There is now only "workfare," which you can't get without working.

As far as disability payments, you can't get that on the basis of not liking your job. You need doctors supporting your case, and even then it's difficult to get approved.

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Aside from, say, triple amputee war veterans who suffered strokes, PTSD, and all sorts of horrors or, say, terminal cancer patients, we as a society rely on welfare way, way too much.

How do you know? Because people on the radio tell you stories that aren't true?

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Sometimes it's necessary to find a way to support your own life... and if that's truly impossible, to allow your family to support you.



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09 Jul 2012, 8:52 pm

Wandering_Stranger wrote:
ooo wrote:
Self-supportive.

Sometimes you've gotta suck it up, find a job you can do/tolerate, and deal with it... "miserable" or not.


You make it sound so easy. Is there really a job out there for someone with noise sensitivity and sight impairment?


Yes. I work one.

There's plenty of stuff a person can do at all levels. Noise sensitivity could allow for things like house cleaning, library work, stock room stocking...

It CAN be done. Thinking someone with mental or developmental issues can't EVER work their entire lives is doing them a disservice. They CAN. Sometimes it takes treatment and rehab, but they can do it. Especially if there's no welfare to fall back on.



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09 Jul 2012, 8:55 pm

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How do you know? Because people on the radio tell you stories that aren't true?


Actually, I've worked with many people to find them jobs. Many have serious disabilities and bad injuries, but we aided them in finding jobs they CAN do.

It's amazing how anti-work people can be. You work to live. Society can't support everyone.



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09 Jul 2012, 9:09 pm

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Yo do realize employers can fire employees who can't keep up or don't fit what the company wants in an employee, or they can choose not to even hire you. One can be as willing as they want to work but someone also has to be willing to hire them or let them keep working.........unless of course they can create their own job because they are that creative, but of course not everyone is capable of starting their own business.


Which is why you train for and seek a job you CAN do... not those you can't.

An employer doesn't know your life story at the interview. They don't know how you'll perform, except by what you tell them and your work history. If no work history, there are plenty of employers that are willing to hire those without work experience. Furthermore, there are organizations that work with, train, and place persons with disabilities. In those instances, the employers know the person's disability, as they came from a disability workplace support organization, and work with them... often giving them more patience than other employer's.

And, yes, you have to be willing to start entry level sometimes, or, say, be a library janitor. Doing that is self-sufficient, contributes to society, and helps you move ahead in life. It's more than possible if you find jobs you CAN do and are willing to do any "class" of work.



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09 Jul 2012, 9:35 pm

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Self-supportive.

Sometimes you've gotta suck it up, find a job you can do/tolerate, and deal with it... "miserable" or not. Actually, working can make you feel productive and take your mind off of worse mental quams. Better yet, having a plant/pet/kid to take care of gives you an excuse to get out of bed. Assuming you don't want a plant/pet/kid, a job and volunteer role gives you a reason.

Chin up. You'll find a way to support yourself again, be productive, and enjoy life.


Yo do realize employers can fire employees who can't keep up or don't fit what the company wants in an employee, or they can choose not to even hire you. One can be as willing as they want to work but someone also has to be willing to hire them or let them keep working.........unless of course they can create their own job because they are that creative, but of course not everyone is capable of starting their own business.

I wouldn't mind working.......but who is going to hire someone who might cause problems for the business if they freak out and damage people or objects. Sure I could always not mention it, but then if I get put in a situation that sets me off there would be no covering it up and then I would feel like an ass for allowing that to happen by lying about my mental state.

I imagine your comment is more for the OP, but that is just my perspective on that particular topic. If one has supported themself before it is likely they can again.......the trouble is when you never really have been in a totally self sufficient position.


When I was 22, I was prone to panic attacks and found going past the mailbox exhausting from sheer stress. I did eventually find ways around it. My dad repeatedly attributed it to lack of maturity. Back then I took serious offence to that, but looking back on those years, I have to admit he was right. I did experience a developmental delay and at 22 I was not yet ready to be on my own. During most of my 30's I worked at a primate sanctuary. -- that place was as much a sanctuary for me as for the residents. Almost no people around, and lots of critters to socialize with.

Put your hacking hat on and look at your situation again. How things are now is not necessarily how they will be 10 or 20 years from now. Put your hacking hat on and think outside the box. Look at your special interests and related subjects, and dare to dream of something you CAN do. Where there is a will, and enough time, there is always a way.


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09 Jul 2012, 11:43 pm

ooo wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:

Yo do realize employers can fire employees who can't keep up or don't fit what the company wants in an employee, or they can choose not to even hire you. One can be as willing as they want to work but someone also has to be willing to hire them or let them keep working.........unless of course they can create their own job because they are that creative, but of course not everyone is capable of starting their own business.


Which is why you train for and seek a job you CAN do... not those you can't.

An employer doesn't know your life story at the interview. They don't know how you'll perform, except by what you tell them and your work history. If no work history, there are plenty of employers that are willing to hire those without work experience. Furthermore, there are organizations that work with, train, and place persons with disabilities. In those instances, the employers know the person's disability, as they came from a disability workplace support organization, and work with them... often giving them more patience than other employer's.

And, yes, you have to be willing to start entry level sometimes, or, say, be a library janitor. Doing that is self-sufficient, contributes to society, and helps you move ahead in life. It's more than possible if you find jobs you CAN do and are willing to do any "class" of work.


All my work history includes getting fired because I could not keep up and came off as screwed up in the head, I am sure that is really something to brag about. And no amount of training is going to change the fact that if I am in too stressful of an environment I will probably flip out and hurt myself, others or damage any work equipment around.........its not in their best interest to hire me so why should they?

And I know you think I think I am above certain jobs even though I already explained its more like I think I am below most jobs....I would not mind doing entry level work but who is going to hire someone who cannot work with people and who could freak out and damage things at prett much any minute. Also I really don't care about this society.......it never gave a damn about me so why shouldn't I return the favor and not give a damn about it.

I don't see what you keep going on about class for.......I am flat broke and too dysfunctional to work most jobs, what the hell kind of class is that? that is more like below even having a class. And when I end up homeless because my family is full of drama and people who set me off I am sure it will be very classy :roll:. Anyways if someone wants to hire me I'd work...........but who wants to hire me and if they do why wouldn't they fire me when they find I am too slow and too likely to go off on the other employees, customers or whatever equipment is around.


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09 Jul 2012, 11:44 pm

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Sweetleaf wrote:
ooo wrote:
Self-supportive.

Sometimes you've gotta suck it up, find a job you can do/tolerate, and deal with it... "miserable" or not. Actually, working can make you feel productive and take your mind off of worse mental quams. Better yet, having a plant/pet/kid to take care of gives you an excuse to get out of bed. Assuming you don't want a plant/pet/kid, a job and volunteer role gives you a reason.

Chin up. You'll find a way to support yourself again, be productive, and enjoy life.


Yo do realize employers can fire employees who can't keep up or don't fit what the company wants in an employee, or they can choose not to even hire you. One can be as willing as they want to work but someone also has to be willing to hire them or let them keep working.........unless of course they can create their own job because they are that creative, but of course not everyone is capable of starting their own business.

I wouldn't mind working.......but who is going to hire someone who might cause problems for the business if they freak out and damage people or objects. Sure I could always not mention it, but then if I get put in a situation that sets me off there would be no covering it up and then I would feel like an ass for allowing that to happen by lying about my mental state.

I imagine your comment is more for the OP, but that is just my perspective on that particular topic. If one has supported themself before it is likely they can again.......the trouble is when you never really have been in a totally self sufficient position.


When I was 22, I was prone to panic attacks and found going past the mailbox exhausting from sheer stress. I did eventually find ways around it. My dad repeatedly attributed it to lack of maturity. Back then I took serious offence to that, but looking back on those years, I have to admit he was right. I did experience a developmental delay and at 22 I was not yet ready to be on my own. During most of my 30's I worked at a primate sanctuary. -- that place was as much a sanctuary for me as for the residents. Almost no people around, and lots of critters to socialize with.

Put your hacking hat on and look at your situation again. How things are now is not necessarily how they will be 10 or 20 years from now. Put your hacking hat on and think outside the box. Look at your special interests and related subjects, and dare to dream of something you CAN do. Where there is a will, and enough time, there is always a way.


What special interests?


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09 Jul 2012, 11:59 pm

If you truly have no special interests, then look at your ordinary interests. What do you enjoy doing? What do you find interesting?


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10 Jul 2012, 12:37 am

ooo wrote:
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How do you know? Because people on the radio tell you stories that aren't true?


Actually, I've worked with many people to find them jobs. Many have serious disabilities and bad injuries, but we aided them in finding jobs they CAN do.

Finding people who are injured jobs is not the same as finding people who are disabled jobs. If SSA declared them to be disabled then how did you find them jobs? Oh yeah, because they weren't actually disabled.

What did you do when their income was too low to cover medical expenses, but high enough that their SSDI/SSI and Medicare eligibility was threatened?
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It's amazing how anti-work people can be. You work to live. Society can't support everyone.

Society doesn't even come close to supporting everyone.

Anti-work? That's because there is no such thing as disability, only a lack of desire to work? That there tells me that you are an ideologue who is not interested in reality.



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10 Jul 2012, 3:22 am

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When I was 22, I was prone to panic attacks and found going past the mailbox exhausting from sheer stress. I did eventually find ways around it. My dad repeatedly attributed it to lack of maturity. Back then I took serious offence to that, but looking back on those years, I have to admit he was right. I did experience a developmental delay and at 22 I was not yet ready to be on my own. During most of my 30's I worked at a primate sanctuary. -- that place was as much a sanctuary for me as for the residents. Almost no people around, and lots of critters to socialize with.

Put your hacking hat on and look at your situation again. How things are now is not necessarily how they will be 10 or 20 years from now. Put your hacking hat on and think outside the box. Look at your special interests and related subjects, and dare to dream of something you CAN do. Where there is a will, and enough time, there is always a way.


Bingo.

With time, training, treatment, etc., most people CAN work at some job at some point.

Yeah, 10 or 20 years can change many things. People thinking "oh, I'll never work" and having it in their heads that the only thing they can ever do is be dependent on society is... sad. Find a way to do what you CAN do. Thinking "oh, but I'll flip out"... so find something you WON'T flip out on. Get therapy, meds, whatever... instead of bumming around relying on society forever. Willpower overcomes many, many obstacles. Like you say, "where there is a will, and enough time, there is always a way."



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10 Jul 2012, 3:31 am

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If you truly have no special interests, then look at your ordinary interests. What do you enjoy doing? What do you find interesting?


Or even thinking about what you're physically capable of doing.

If you're out of shape, going into construction and manual labor isn't the best idea.
If you can't stand people, customer service isn't the best idea ever.

So many people just think "I'll just get fired.. no one will ever hire me.. I can't do any job." Newsflash, yes, you can... IF you try. "Ever" is a long time, and... I find it hard to believe people saying that when they're teens or twenties. That age means they're not old enough to have tried for decades to get a job. It's giving up before you've even started. And, no, a few years of temp jobs, getting fired, and job applications is not lifelong trying. When you fail or get fired, honestly evaluate what went wrong. Then, make changes in your life and try again at something you're more likely to succeed it. Education, looking at interests and abilities, special accommodations, etc. plus willpower and honestly looking at what you can't and can do can help a person find a job they can do.

It's not even trying to support our own lives that gives us a bad name.



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10 Jul 2012, 4:01 am

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I had to check other because I retired after about 45 years of employment. I got a job in 1967 and moved out of my parents house. Even though I've had some serious job related issues I managed to stay employed until I retired in 2009. I'm now on Social Security that was taken out of my paychecks every week and still on my own. I also get a small pension from a place that I worked at for 19 1/2 years. But, I'm still perfectly capable of working part time, prefereably as a backhoe loader operator to supplement my SS and be busy. But it is a b***h out there and no one wants to give me a chance. I don't want to work in nursing homes at Goodwill, Walmart, in an office or any boring job like this. I would rather not work if I can't for once do something I would really love to do.

I would have thought that counts as self-supporting. You paid into your Social Security and pension plan for long enough - nobody's given you any free handouts. You didn't even retire early. Until very recently women in the UK had a normal retirement age of 60. But as usual the bankers got their sums wrong and now they're trying to fob their problems off on the rest of us.



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10 Jul 2012, 7:10 am

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With time, training, treatment, etc., most people CAN work at some job at some point.


It's not just about training and treatment. Some employers are quite ignorant when it comes to disability. I'm "lucky" that the assistant where I volunteer, is sight impaired. The job I've possibly been offered, the man's son has Autism.



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10 Jul 2012, 7:13 am

How and where do you get all this training and treatment with no money and no insurance?



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10 Jul 2012, 7:20 am

I suppose I could work if these things were met (typical box stacking work; can't organize self-employment):

Someone drove me to work and picked me up
no one told me what to do other than a list of things that had to be done
said things that need to be done have to be a part of a plan that doesn't change (I do this only at that time)
nothing spontaneous put on me
people don't talk to me
people aren't around me
I can have breaks whenever I wanted (I'd get the work done)
all of the paperwork and whatnot (bank stuff) is done for me

Government thought I was too much of a bother (they'll get anyone a job if you have a single iota of ability).