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28 Jul 2012, 7:06 am

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My parents are fairly supportive of me being on here because they've spent the most time with me and know I'm on the autism spectrum. They knew I was unhappy about being different and not knowing 'why', so they're happy I've discovered people with the same problems. My sister makes fun of it, though, and says I don't have Aspergers. I think she resents me a bit because she doesn't have the same problems and therefore didn't get as much attention when growing up. Sorry, sis.

Your parents are the only people that count here. Children tend to make fun of other children with issues or who are different unfortunately. And your sister needs to have a talking to.

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28 Jul 2012, 7:09 am

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Your parents are the only people that count here. Children tend to make fun of other children with issues or who are different unfortunately. And your sister needs to have a talking to.

I think it happens in any family with disabled children and non-disabled children. My mother had two deaf siblings and felt the same resentment. My sister is a close friend of mine and tolerates my quirks, even though she says they're not autism. I just don't listen to her opinion about autism.

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28 Jul 2012, 7:16 am

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May I ask what your quirks or at least your traits are? You may send me a private message if you like. The only thing I can think of as you not maybe being Autistic is that your traits don't fit into the Autism Spectrum or you don't have enough of them to be considered Autistic since many normal people have some quirks as well.

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28 Jul 2012, 7:34 am

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I have sensory sensitivities to touch. I stim a lot and have a lot of repetitive behaviours. I can't make eye contact. I take things literally. I spend a lot of time alone pursuing special interests. My mother has described me as socially ret*d. I have meltdowns.

I also have developmental dyspraxia, which is hard for even my sister to deny.

My sister doesn't think I have AS because I'm more outgoing than she is and can answer phones and stuff. I might be 'not shy' but the number of faux pas I make is high. She's quite introverted and she doesn't see how someone more extroverted than her can have autism. I'm still introverted by all standards, but she is extremely so.

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28 Jul 2012, 7:56 am

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I have to say you most certainly have enough traits that puts you on the Autism Spectrum. Sensory Overload and pursuing special interest are most certainly traits of Aspergers. But the ones that I have spoken with that has been diagnosed with Aspergers, not only pursue special interest, but obsessed with objects like I am. They also have repetitive behaviors and stims like I have. But, I have many traits. You are not socially retared just because you lack social skills and may possibly have social awkwardness. But you are skilled in some things and maybe there is something you even excel in. I use to work in an office where I assisted those with there unemployment claims using computers, filed papers and worked as a receptionist. I did find some of these tasks hard to deal with because I was dealing with people, with many of them being unruly. I hope I never have to work in another office again though I've had plenty of opportunity. Since I've been diagnosed as being on the Autsim Spectrum office work and Autism don't mix very good because of dealing with other people. I do excel in artwork and even became professional when I started selling it.

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28 Jul 2012, 9:13 am

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Who are those 4 guys in your avatar? Sweet? Quicksilver Messenger Service? Blue Cheer?

Black Sabbath. But I had to use www.tineye.com

I already knew it was Black Sabbath

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28 Jul 2012, 9:16 am

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But that's harmless. It can even be beneficial. Experimenting with letting go of some of the "act" and letting your more natural behavior come out is healthy and normal for people who have just been diagnosed. You have to discover your own mix of "normal act" and natural self--how much effort you make to communicate versus how much you're willing to look atypical in exchange for comfort and function.

Anyway, the idea that people with autism have to try to "look normal" is not something that everybody agrees with, especially not autistic people. It's better, at least from my perspective, to focus on what's effective. You have to communicate, get along in the world--but you don't have to blend in. Being "normal" shouldn't be your goal because there are many things that are "normal" to the rest of the world but completely unnatural for you. Sometimes it is just more effective to do things your own way. So long as it hurts nobody, it is perfectly acceptable--and don't let anybody tell you different.

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28 Jul 2012, 9:18 am

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I started bathing less..

I heard all these stories about aspies and hygiene, so I figured it was okay....[true bro]

This is an obvious example of WP causing unwanted behaviours.... plain and simple

Much of the NT world is about 'pulling your socks up.....'

here we can slob out without guilt or shame

guilt and shame motivate many of us

I think those are the worse motivators....and typically only lead to negative outcomes.

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28 Jul 2012, 9:23 am

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If you ignore the bad, it's fine.

that is a joke right?

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28 Jul 2012, 10:46 am

WP is the only place I can talk about and learn about AS. Shrinks, case workers, etc. only will say it's mild and not a big problem. They do not have to live with our condition. WP can help you, but keep in mind a large number of NTs will never understand or accept us.

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28 Jul 2012, 10:59 am

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You are so right. And I agree with everything you say 100%. Kudos!

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28 Jul 2012, 4:47 pm

re autism: Doctors are freaken useless. Create more harm than good.

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28 Jul 2012, 5:17 pm

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re autism: Doctors are freaken useless. Create more harm than good.

And they can't agree on anything. That is why there are so many debates about whether we are HFA or Aspie.

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28 Jul 2012, 5:38 pm

I am doing my very best to become less NT. It is three and one-half weeks since my diagnosis came out of the blue and made it all clear. I feel a freedom like I have never felt before. Today I went to the grocery store and watched two NTs interact in typical NT style. It was something I had seen before but never in that way. I watched and understood I was seeing two aliens interface. They were tuned into each other, relaxed and exchanging words and cues effortlessly; cues whose subtle meanings shall always be a mystery for me.

I don't have to try to do that. If someone asks me a question I can give a one word answer with my expressionless face and when they look at me weirdly I can look right back at them weirdly too. It is now their problem, not mine.

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28 Jul 2012, 5:49 pm

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when they look at me weirdly I can look right back at them weirdly too. It is now their problem, not mine.

That's my attitude nowadays. Except at work, of course.

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