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What is your sexual identity?
Asexual 17%  17%  [ 37 ]
Bisexual 12%  12%  [ 27 ]
Demisexual 6%  6%  [ 14 ]
Grey-Asexual 4%  4%  [ 8 ]
Heterosexual 45%  45%  [ 100 ]
Homosexual 8%  8%  [ 18 ]
Pansexual 5%  5%  [ 11 ]
Other 4%  4%  [ 9 ]
Total votes : 224

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19 Dec 2012, 7:14 am

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Demisexual is based on attraction, by which I mean the chemical responses in your body that cause arousal when you see someone attractive.


A demisexual who hasn't met the right person is indistinguishable from an asexual person. In fact, many demisexuals used to identify as asexual before their first romantic relationship. If that relationship falls apart and they become single again, they're back to asexual mode, except maybe when they think about their ex.

In contrast, most people, even if they don't know someone, can identify whether they find the person attractive or not. This doesn't necessarily mean they're planning on having sex with the person, just that they know they'd enjoy it if they did. It's like looking at a yummy food and knowing you'll enjoy eating it, but you're not planning on eating it at this moment. (For example, it belongs to someone else.)



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19 Dec 2012, 8:35 am

Curvy women, so that'd be caveman; not that it's all that strong. More asexual than not if it's possible to be more than one, though.

I always thought it was funny that Hans Asperger noted homosexuality as a displayed symptom of Asperger's, or felt that it was worth mentioning anyway (he mentioned it in the behaviors of certain "case studies").



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19 Dec 2012, 4:29 pm

Heterosexual I cannot resist the boobies!!


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19 Dec 2012, 6:22 pm

Voted heterosexual, but grey-A might be more appropriate. Whilst I feel sexual attraction and have something resembling a sex drive, I do not desire to be sexually active and I find the prospect of actually engaging in sex to be disgusting.



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19 Dec 2012, 6:35 pm

Heterosexual, because I get attracted and aroused by certain female attributes and the idea of having sex with a woman.

On the other hand, I'm not sure if I really want to have sex. The idea of intimate physical contact scares me.



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19 Dec 2012, 6:53 pm

Ive done lots of different types of people, sometimes at the same time.


I draw the line at animals, children and poo. Everything else is proboly fine but I reserve the right to add to the list if I every meet and screw a proper freak.



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19 Dec 2012, 7:33 pm

Having never heard of the term demisexual before this post I would have to say that is me. I've never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never had any desire to be romantic with anybody. Thought about it a lot, but that's as close as I've ever come to even remotely desiring romantic contact. As a child I never saw myself as a mother or wife. The thought of both repulsed me so much that I told my parents not to expect any grandchildren or weddings on my behalf because there was no way that was going to happen. Don't get me wrong, I think babies are cute, and so are some guys as well. But my feelings and desires never went beyond thinking they were cute. And I personally think that going on a date to get to know someone new makes no sense. How can people enjoy going out with someone that they barely know, if they know at all? I've asked people this before, but nobody seems to understand how come this doesn't make sense to me.

However, since moving last year, starting school, and finding a new job, I have met a guy that I actually like and seems to like me. And by "like" I don't just mean that he is cute, though that doesn't hurt;) The more I get to know him the more I like him. I hesitate to call it "love" because I don't know what being in love emotionally feels like, but it could be love. I could easily see us getting married and having children and all those things I didn't want before. But I can't see that with any other guy, nor have I ever been able to.



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19 Dec 2012, 8:37 pm

I would say that I'm asexual as far as interest in the act of sex, but I very much desire a romantic relationship with a male. (I'm female.)



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20 Dec 2012, 5:34 pm

AspieOtaku wrote:
Heterosexual I cannot resist the boobies!!


I couldn't help but laugh uncontrollably.



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20 Dec 2012, 5:59 pm

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I think you might be onto something with that "be a genuine friend and honestly express interest" strategy you have going sounds clever. ;)


Seriously, try it. If you think you might like someone just try to put it out of your head and spend platonic time with them being a good friend. If spending time together brings up some definite feelings for them just find the time (and courage of course) to tell them. They might say no to going out with you but it's a much more straightforward approach :)



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20 Dec 2012, 6:09 pm

Tamsin wrote:
Having never heard of the term demisexual before this post I would have to say that is me. I've never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never had any desire to be romantic with anybody. Thought about it a lot, but that's as close as I've ever come to even remotely desiring romantic contact. As a child I never saw myself as a mother or wife. The thought of both repulsed me so much that I told my parents not to expect any grandchildren or weddings on my behalf because there was no way that was going to happen. Don't get me wrong, I think babies are cute, and so are some guys as well. But my feelings and desires never went beyond thinking they were cute. And I personally think that going on a date to get to know someone new makes no sense. How can people enjoy going out with someone that they barely know, if they know at all? I've asked people this before, but nobody seems to understand how come this doesn't make sense to me.

However, since moving last year, starting school, and finding a new job, I have met a guy that I actually like and seems to like me. And by "like" I don't just mean that he is cute, though that doesn't hurt;) The more I get to know him the more I like him. I hesitate to call it "love" because I don't know what being in love emotionally feels like, but it could be love. I could easily see us getting married and having children and all those things I didn't want before. But I can't see that with any other guy, nor have I ever been able to.


Yeah that definitely sounds familiar to me. After being with my first love (and boy did I fall hard and fast) I'm more appreciative of the opposite sex but I still can't join in on the wolf whistle crap with other guys because it feels forced but then I worry that people will think I'm not straight (nothing against LGBT I just don't want to be misunderstood) and even if I feel like personal release I find it hard to find the right porn because most of it is just two people looking at each other than slamming body parts together for ten minutes without the connection I need to feel like it's wholesome (and although I'm definitely not anti-porn I do accept that a lot of the people in porn get mistreated by an unethical industry). I've found that instead of video smut the still shot photography erotica that women find appealing also piques my interest sometimes. I'm not sure if it's because it's more subtle and imagination based or if I like it because I know this is something that aroused the woman who put it on her Tumblr blog hence making some sort of connection with a stranger :roll: I guess that would count as 'emotional cheating'. Sucks to be weird.



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20 Dec 2012, 6:10 pm

I'm asexual (and also aromantic).



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20 Dec 2012, 6:13 pm

I'm straight.


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20 Dec 2012, 7:28 pm

i was probably demisexual in my younger years but now im asexual.. im just not attracted or feel any drive to anyone.
between the sensory overload and the effort it takes to get it,, it seems just like to much work and bother when there are far more interesting things to do.



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20 Dec 2012, 10:00 pm

Heterosexual but I'm not obsessed with sex and don't think I convey a heterosexual stereotype like most people ie I don't play up to my gender; I prefer to be seen as a person rather than a walking representative of my gender/sexuality. I seem to not want to play up my gender/sexuality but still want it to be identifiable up to a point and to attract members of the opposite sex, which is a paradox really. I want people to be attracted to me on my terms, not society's in other words.



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21 Dec 2012, 3:34 am

hetero but have never had a sexual partner nor do I have any interest in obtaining one. have many issues that make sex a very uncomfortable thing to me. do not socialize, do not like physical contact, do not like intimacy, have concerns about trusting other person to be hygienic, on some level I think that sex is repulsive with the sweat and the breathing and the bodily fluids. Which isn't to say that I don't have a normal sex drive. I do. Am fine with watching it in video form but actually physically being involved in that situation with another person... i can't.