Do Relentlessly Positive People Annoy You?

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24 Jan 2013, 6:33 pm

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I totally agree

I don't have a problem listening to people talk about how depressed the feel or how something really annoys them - it doesn't affect me badly as I understand them
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You do realize that by you own admission you enjoy the negativity.

Many here do not.

Many here do not wish to talk about suicide while they are trying to eat their breakfast and make a new friend.

Like seriously how can you be so insensitive to other people.

We have no where else to go.

We don't want people not to share things, we simply don't want venting to be done in general when the haven exists for exactly this purpose.

As was said we've all made threads in the haven.

t's simply inappropriate to talk about such things in General.

As many people come here searching for a reason to live.

It's venting or sharing, only when someone wants it to be shared, when it's not consensual it's call dumping and is a form of emotional abuse.

Oh boo f***ing hoo. Someone is suicidal and trying to reach out about it, but your breakfast is being marred!
Try
A. Eating breakfast away from the computer.
B. Not opening threads with titles like "I want to die" or "Really struggling right now", because seriously, it's not like people give threads titles like "I'm Happy ALL The Time!! !" then in the post body go "Just kidding! I'm actually suicidally depressed. Now I will proceed to ruin your meal".
All your problems will be solved!

Calling it emotional abuse is ridiculous. It might be if people were harassing you, personally, with PMs about how bad their life was, but as it is, it's just putting things in a public space where people can easily avoid them.
It's not assault if someone walks into my fist if I'm swinging it in an empty space where people can avoid it easily.

"Calling it emotional abuse is ridiculous. It might be if people were harassing you, personally, with PMs"

Dramatic irony alert! :lol:

Irony is not well perceived by people who have aspergers.

WRONG FORUM ALERT NESSA! :salut:

Don't worry - two people on this forum will hopefully get what I mean

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24 Jan 2013, 6:38 pm

If Stoek is harassing with PMs (as has been indicated in this thread) it is likely appropriate to report this behavior with a copy of said PMs to the mods.

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24 Jan 2013, 6:46 pm

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You may be surprised at how many positive people have gone through adversity.

I heard a story about this one high school kid, a friend of a mentor, who had just started grade 9. He always had a smile on his face. Then my mentor got to know this peer who was in his class. He found out that the boy lived in a poor neighbourhood. His mom had battled depression and was under suicide watch by her family. She had recently killed herself. Yet the boy wasn't feeling sorry for himself. Instead, he continued on with his life and eventually achieved his dreams.

It's kind of just depends on how people look at things. If you get to know someone like me, I have had a hard life but that helps me to put things in perspective. Not much that I go through in my daily life is as bad as what I had went through so I tend to look on the bright side. I would get depressed again if I thought about how much worse off I am than a majority of people. So I can't afford to dislike my life and situation all the time. Sure, I have bad days and I'm not perfect. But I do not agree that people with a positive attitude would make bad friends if someone is going through a hard time.

There are other ways to look at things though. Perhaps having been living a tormented life with a mother in that state, he finally felt a weight off his shoulders that she was gone, hence smiling from the freedom, knowing that she was also no longer suffering. Doesn't necessarily mean he was happy despite his situation. Often it's the poorer people that are less unhappy than the rich anyway.

I fail to see an argument. It seems as if either way, he is seeing the positive in his situation.

Lol I'm not sure about poor people being happier. But sure, maybe some see the more important things in life than money because of being poor. Depends on the person and their situation I guess. I was poor and not necessarily happy about it because my parents were very unhappy and I didn't have access to basic needs because of that.

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24 Jan 2013, 6:48 pm

Verdandi wrote:

If Stoek is harassing with PMs (as has been indicated in this thread) it is likely appropriate to report this behavior with a copy of said PMs to the mods.

I know, it's not my decision to make anyway

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24 Jan 2013, 7:11 pm

nessa238 wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

If Stoek is harassing with PMs (as has been indicated in this thread) it is likely appropriate to report this behavior with a copy of said PMs to the mods.

I know, it's not my decision to make anyway

However, the dramatic irony comment and build up was quite funny.

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24 Jan 2013, 7:12 pm

Verdandi wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

If Stoek is harassing with PMs (as has been indicated in this thread) it is likely appropriate to report this behavior with a copy of said PMs to the mods.

I know, it's not my decision to make anyway

However, the dramatic irony comment and build up was quite funny.

Well it was just too glaringly obvious to not comment

I was a bit alarmed you guessed actually - it was meant to be a veiled comment lol

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24 Jan 2013, 7:16 pm

I saw the post where it was mentioned, so I got it.

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24 Jan 2013, 7:18 pm

nessa238 wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

If Stoek is harassing with PMs (as has been indicated in this thread) it is likely appropriate to report this behavior with a copy of said PMs to the mods.

I know, it's not my decision to make anyway

However, the dramatic irony comment and build up was quite funny.

Well it was just too glaringly obvious to not comment

I was a bit alarmed you guessed actually - it was meant to be a veiled comment lol

haha. Like Who_Am_I I saw it mentioned in an earlier post, and your comment reminded me.

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24 Jan 2013, 7:20 pm

Verdandi wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

If Stoek is harassing with PMs (as has been indicated in this thread) it is likely appropriate to report this behavior with a copy of said PMs to the mods.

I know, it's not my decision to make anyway

However, the dramatic irony comment and build up was quite funny.

Well it was just too glaringly obvious to not comment

I was a bit alarmed you guessed actually - it was meant to be a veiled comment lol

haha. Like Who_Am_I I saw it mentioned in an earlier post, and your comment reminded me.

Well I did quote the relevant part of the post myself

I just hate hypocrisy!

If it had been sent to me, believe me it would have been blasted all over the forum!

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24 Jan 2013, 8:24 pm

ooh, don't us Aspies love an argument eh! :lol:

Methinks this thread is pretty applicable here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt221963.html

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24 Jan 2013, 8:29 pm

I try to be realistic, myself. Things can be bad, but I know from experience, they can be worse. Much Worse at times. Been there, done that. Forgot the stupid T-shirt.
I do find people who are relentlessly positive often become tiresome. That is, being around them feels like a spirit stealing energy right out of my spirit. It can leave me actually tired.
But I have to add, that also goes to people who are CONSISTENTLY negative, 100% of the time. A couple of my family fall in this category. In BOTH cases, I end up withdrawing from them. Or at least tuning them out..
I suppose, like everything else, what matters is the degree. I would never reject a friend just because they are enduring a bad time in their lives. But if someone only wanted me to put on a "Happy Face" when I had lost my only girlfriend, or my dog had to be put down, I would be tempted to harsh words...

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25 Jan 2013, 11:28 pm

Absolutely. Perky makes me want to scream. There is a certain TV chef/talk show hostess (who shall remain nameless so I don't get in trouble for threatening her) who is so positive and perky and "up" I just want to punch her in the face. I have a friend who always sees the positive happy side of everything who I almost wish I could shoot down a couple of pegs to help her get a grip on some reality.

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26 Jan 2013, 12:10 am

Sometimes a positive attitude can be a beautiful thing.

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