Do you have problems socializing with family?

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Typically, the problems lie with the family and not me.

I'm proud to be just an Aspie and not NT and batshit crazy... my two cents.

Plus... it helps to have family members that enjoy similar topics that you like, also are easy-going and not stuck-up when it comes to humor and sharing beliefs/opinions.

Aside from all that, if the convo gets too boring, I can just zone out and think about things I actually care about.

I tend to sit eerily quiet in the corner at family gatherings. Initiating small talk is almost impossible for someone as socially awkward as I am.

I often feel uncomfortable and have meltdowns during family gatherings because of remarks my family members make that hurt my feelings. They like to tease my brother, which bothers me, and they make other comments as well that I don't like. A lot of the time I feel like the "weird one" in my family. I have a couple of cousins around my age, and I don't feel I bond with them as well as they do with each other because of my Asperger's.

I'm genuinely dreading tomorrow, pretty much the entire family's coming over and we'll all be squeezed into a fairly small room, will be a miracle if I get through it, it'll be really awkward too, they'll all be having conversations with each other and as usual I'll be the odd one out because i don't particularly have strong bonds with any of them, can't wait until its over.

I'm not really any better at socialising with my family than I am with anyone else. I can talk to my mom, but tend to go quiet and sort of "fade out" when too many more people come into the picture.

I never had a close relationship with my family & my parents were very critical of my Aspie issues even thou they suspected I was on the spectrum sense I was a toddler. I go to family gatherings & things but I don't socialize much. I'm pretty quiet & keep to myself in general.

Holidays can get very loud and a lot of people are stressed out, so there's that.

My whole family is a little quiet, so I don't think I stand out that much. The only ones who really get rowdy are the kids, or my brother when he's playing with kids. But I definitely start feeling a pull to go back to doing my own thing after 2-3 hours.

Now the in-laws my mother introduced, there we have ex-cons and drama galore...

Well, for my Immediate family, I have little Trouble with my Parents. But, with my Neurotypical sibling I have a lot. Me and my brother often disagree, because things like sensory issues and what games we like to play are usually way different.

I'm ok with them, but I'm lucky enough to he a family who are understanding of, and willing to accommodate, my AS. If that weren't the case I'm not sure how I'd cope.

I went to Thanksgiving this year. Wasn't really enjoyable though. Too many people. Even though they are all family, just too many people. And my family doesn't really care about how I'm doing. I mean they ask, but they don't really don't care about the answer. They're just supposed to ask how I'm doing I guess. I didn't even bother going out for Xmas this year. I'm not Christian and didn't see the point.

My wife's family cares much more about me but they are overbearing and a little ignorant about other people's feelings at times. Both of our families have mental issues. Wife's family probably has some autism in it. Mine does for sure but mainly just my dad, half-brother and maybe a few of my nephews.

Didn't know about autism really until a couple years ago. Took an online test, then got diagnosed for sure, with a couple other issues as well. It seems like once I got my diagnosis, my social life really died down. I don't like family gatherings, or family really for that matter. Once I got married though, it seems like I couldn't visit my friends any longer. I don't have friends right now. But I don't really care to have friends. But there aren't many people out there that I see eye to eye with on very many subjects.

But family for me, just doesn't seem like a good fit. I feel like I was adopted but I wasn't. I really do not fit in with my family, nor do I care to.

Even though I like seeing my cousins for the holidays and summer, I find it really hard to socialize with them. The reason why I find it hard to start conversations with them is because I feel like I can't really relate to them. This has to do with the fact that they are all into is snapchat and sports. I'm not into any of those things. I'm into anime, Pokemon and video games (especially my gameboy color). They don't care for those things at all. All they like doing is being on their phones and that's boring to me. I feel too self conscious to talk about my interests or life with them because I feel like they don't really care about those things. I also think that they might find my interests too young for them. I remember when we were kids, we used to play together and I would show them my video games and they would play them with me. I also remember the laughs we used to share. It's not like that anymore. Everyone is just on their damn phones all the time and I find that extremely boring. I want actual conversations with them that are funny interesting!! But it seems hard to talk to them now. It was easier to talk to them as kids. Now when I see my cousins, I feel like I have nothing to say and I end up playing my video games by myself instead which sucks. I love them but I feel like its hard to talk to them which also has to do with my social anxiety.

yes, my sister is a medical doctor and even looking at her i feel so guilty and ashamed of myself.

jealousy.

my precious lil "parents" were not too receptive and insisted on being right all the time.

it's just easier to avoid them.

I don't have any issues with my older brother, his wife & two daughters. Although the nieces can get quite boisterous at times, which is annoying. It is nice to visit & get an excellent dinner. But I never stay long as the socializing does get to me.

I haven't seen the younger brother for 4 or 5 years now. But I think that is more to me being gay. I didn't realize my other neuro problem until just recently. Just as well anyway as he is a cigarette & pot smoking drunkard!

I've always had problems socializing with my family.

My "family" does not like my :. Unemployment, social awkwardness, personality, gender identity,


My precious lil "parents" used to tell me that "your sister is so smart. Why are you not like that?"

So I constantly and involuntary compare myself to my sister