cuddle limits at school

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in one classroom for all lessons.

anymore?

I'm struggling with this issue also.
Until very recently I had never really hugged people, but after staying over friends & sleeping in the same bed as them (platonic friends) I've got used to hugs, cuddles, etc.
I even kissed one friend when I tucked them in after the duvet had come off of them.

The other day a friend lent me a drill, and when I returned it I was so thankful. I wanted to give both him & his wife a kiss of gratitude.
Coz ALL of this sort of thing is new to me due to sleeping over in friends beds, my Mother tried to explain to me that it isn't alright to hug or kiss just anybody. They may take it the wrong way & think it is sexual rather than just being coz i like them.

i'm in a school ware alot of the students like hugs.

That is a great pic. I love your Pooh Bear. I think having him at school with you will be wonderful.

It can get confusing. The most important thing is that your heart is pure. And people will help you understand when it is appropriate and when it is best not to hug or kiss.

I wish I could have gone to a school like that. It sounds like a really nice place to go to school. I wish I could have brought a Pooh Bear to school with me. You are lucky that you can.

It's not alright to show this kind of affection. Your intentions may be pure, but your actions will not be perceived that way. You could even be charged with rape or sexual harassment by people who don't understand autism. Ask your parents to explain to you when hugs and kisses are appropriate.

For s**ts and giggles..

I'm not allowed to touch any of my students. The only ones who get a small pass are the kiddies and 1st graders. Everyone else, I'm supposed to turn away from a hug.

I'll lose my job otherwise.

Hugging at a party is totally different than a work place environment.

Is the term cuddle being used for hug? If I had a 5th grader trying to cuddle, I'd feel so uncomfortable. We are supposed to treat them like asbestos. Hands off.

Matthew, your Pooh Bear is adorable.

Most people use the term "cuddle" for more intimate contact. Boyfriend/girlfriend, someone or item you really want to love on. Hug is a very basic generic term. You can hug someone your don't care for. You would never cuddle a person or thing you don't love.

That is why there is some confusion. Cuddle is a totally different at in my book.

I fully and completely get this from a liability standpoint, but I still think it sucks. No, I don't think teachers should be hugging 10 year old kids every day or anything like that.. but I do think it's nuts to eliminate all human contact for fear of sexual harassment accusations when sometimes a simple hug may go a long way depending on the situation at hand. Maybe there's a kid who's mourning a death in the family, or is sad or upset for some other reason, or maybe there's something to celebrate and a high-5 just won't do.. there are plenty of legitimate reasons that have nothing to do with sexual interference where a kid might hug their teacher or a teacher might hug a kid. I just think it's sad that it's automatically assumed to be a bad thing and thus to be avoided like the plague. For some kids, in some situations, a simple hug might just make their entire day/week/month or year. People are affectionate social beings, not robots.

yes hug.

Do you know what really sucks? Being sued and needing to contact a lawyer and having your life ruined. That sucks.

Get hugs from people who are safe.

hugs are calming.

Hugs are calming to me too and I love them. I have people in my life who are safe to hug like people at church or people in my family and friends that are really close. I get lots of hugs from them and that helps me because I know that some people I have to be careful to not hug. But knowing that I can get a hug from my husband or my brother or from people at church is great because I know that there is always going to be someone who can give me a hug without there ever being any question of inappropriate behavior.

I have a great idea for you mmcool, whenever you feel like giving your LSA a hug, maybe you can give one to Pooh Bear and then hand her Pooh Bear and let him give her the hug for you. And if you want a hug from her she can give it to Pooh Bear and hand him to you and he can hug you for her. That way you can get lots of hugs without any problems. You can ask her if that might be a good idea. But I understand how you feel. The truth is that when we hug the brain releases certain chemicals that calm us and that is why you feel like it relaxes you. But I think having Pooh Bear with you can be great and I know that Pooh Bear will be more than happy to help.

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Hugs are calming with safe people.

With all others there are boundaries.

If anyone stated "hug boundaries" for me, I would stop hugging them for fear of over stepping (unstated) boundaries.