AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
I mean like the idea, if your car breaks down during a vacation, that can actually end up being the highlight of the vacation.
Now, I know meltdowns are bad. But my idea is, don't make them worse by being harshly critical of yourself. I think the term in psychology is 'catastrophizing.'
In addition, there might be tactics or skills you could teach yourself to moderate meltdowns. For example, the times you very much feel under attack and are highly motivated to get physical, how something like a cross-hand reach where you grab the person's diagonally opposite shoulder? This gives you some protection, and it might be perceived as more defensive and not aggressive. I present this as a fall-back position.
Interesting, I wouldnt really know where to start. I have noticed patterns in my fiances face, he seems to taunt me, or I think he is, so for the first time the other day I saw that expression that he gives before I have a meltdown and I just shouted "NOT GOING TO THIS TIME!" and it worked. I did some jumping jacks to blow off the anxiety building up and I laughed the moment off. Is that what you mean by making it the highlight? Like laughing it off instead of letting it define me? This is all new to me, I just got this diagnosis so I am using things now that I never use to and they are working! So I am "all ears" for some more advice if anyone is willing. My biggest thing is sensory. I get very sensitive to sounds and light so if their is a social issue I am dealing with, then I am more likely to explode even if their is nothing "personal" going on that offends them or me. I just cant carry on conversation when everything is crazy around me.
And I also have meltdowns and/or bog downs and/or anger flashes from a combination of social and sensory. And sometimes it's executive function issues combined with either social or sensory.
27 Apr 2014, 9:50 pm
