are you married/in a relationship?

Post Reply New Topic

Been with hubby for 16 years and married for 13, sometimes I think he's the only person to understand me

I had brief attempts at relationships, one lasted about 4 years but that was kind of casual and didn't involve living together. The other was about 10 years later and lasted one or two months until I had to relocate to the other end of the country.
I lost my 2 closest friends from my teenage years about 4 years ago due to me realising they were just using me and I wasn't experiencing anything friendly from them any more.
So now apart from family and my cat I am alone but it doesn't concern me at all I have found life more peaceful this way.

I am reposting in this forum because someone asked how people met their partners.

I met my fiancé on Eharmony and I doubt we would have met otherwise. Although we lived close by each other I am clueless about picking up signals and he spends so much time playing World of Warcraft and working it probably wouldn't of happened. He is an introvert and I am an extrovert. The thing that held us together for five years is that we have the same core values like family.

But on a cautionary note I'd also look at Romance scams, my partner lost $45k through one.

On another note I am offended by the person who said fat people are lazy. My health conditions caused my weight problems.

I have been married happily for five years.

This pretty much sums up my relationship status.

I am married, almost 14 years.

Married 26 years.
Met wife 35 years ago.
Became romantic 30 years ago.

She saved my life, really.

Also: Pushed me to get a job (20 years now at my current place.) Pushed me to get a house. Pushed me to have kids. The defining elements of my life. She regularly gets me out of troubles caused by my weaknesses and shortcomings. I am the economic engine of the family, but I could not survive without her help. I can't do bills and forms for anything. She calls and knows what to say when I am at a loss for words.

Is there anyone who isn't happily married on WP?

Jesus christ.

Happily married is not what you might think it is. Marriage is extremely difficult. There is nothing easy about it. Sometimes being happily married means that at the end of the day you are really happy that you did not end up killing each other. Even for NT's marriage is not easy and if you add the Aspie factor in it's even harder. It's not all roses and sunshine. It's WORK. Every single day. It's a commitment and the happy part comes when at the end of the day you have made another day together.

It's not all bad either and when you work hard to make it work there is nothing better. But don't for a minute think that it's just eating bon bons and skipping along all day. I doubt there is a more difficult relationship to sustain successfully than the marriage relationship.

And I have actually heard that there are couples out there who have never argued and who have fairy tale marriages, and that may be true but that is not the norm. The majority of us have to really work hard at it all the time. But no matter how hard you have to work at it, it's worth it and that is why we work hard at it and never give up.

I don't know about the rest of you but I may be speaking just for myself here but I think those of you who have been married for a long time know what I mean.

My mom has a saying on her computer that I love. It says, "A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who have decided to never give up on each other." I think that says it all.

On the "fairy tale" marriage thing:

I've been told by many people I share one with my husband. I'm not sure if I believe it, but everyone we know says it. We don't argue, they say we still act like newlyweds. But it's not like we don't have to work at our relationship. I just make sure to let him know every day that I love him -despite our ASD kid and infant daughter running us ragged, his family trying to make our lives miserable, and everything else in this world trying to upset us. Love is work but I wouldn't have it any other way, and not just because I can't stand arguing.