Therapist says I have to act like an adult

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I think "act like an adult" depends on the content. What was being talked about, what the therapist wants the person to do and then saying those words. I always go by context than by words but some people prefer to go by words than by context.

It depends how the message was delivered. If therapist said it in a "should" authoritarian way - you should do this, you should do that - it's assumes that he knows best what is best for you; this is not always the case. Try turning the shoulds into coulds: you could do that; you could choose something else. Turning other people's shoulds aimed at you into coulds that give you back the adult power of choosing, and exercising choice is one hallmark of being an adult.