Do you care that you're not "normal"?

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Sometimes I don't care, sometimes I do. Right now being not "normal" is getting me difficult to find a job, therefore I am economic dependant, so in this case I care.

I don't socialize, so I don't get out, as long as I don't meet anybody I don't care about what "normal" people do or think.

I did not use to care when I was younger, but as I age and can not seem to make friends I feel very alone. I do not seem to be interested in the same things as other women my age...ie children, online dating, talk shows, celebrity...I'd rather talk about anatomy, art, cinema. Also I feel so empty when seeing couples, groups of friends talking in the coffee shop. When I try to start up conversation they seem to go at lightspeed.

For me, 'normal' is where socializing is instinctual and invigorating; not cognative and exhausting. Maybe there is a better word out there rather than 'normal' to describe that. Oh yea... its called asperger's! Maybe if there were a majority of us with AS, normal would be having it and the NT's would be 'weird'. That leaves the question, how do you define 'weird'?

I worry that if I tell people they'll condescend to me.

Aspergers doesn't make me stupid.

Actually, it has no relevance as to the way I see it as, for years I've had to endure the un-niceness of trying to fit some sort of normal social mold which, simply was not within my grasp therefore, I no longer worry about other people's concerns regarding my unorthodox behavior.


ProfessorX

Having given it years of thought I have come to the conclusion that I actually care less about being not normal and more about everyone else being normal. I'm angry with the rest of the world for persistently being the way they are. Bloody stubborn.

No-one is normal. Of that I am certain...

Yeah, sometimes. I wish I had an easier time with having a social life. I do enjoy whatever my narrow interests are, but it is frustrating to feel like I'm so behind socially compared to others my age.

I'm insanly glad i'm not normal, but i'm allso slightly phycho...Littarly...But who wants too be anuther clone of the common human when you can be different?

I used to care that I was different from everyone, not anymore because different can be cool.

Sometimes, I don't mind being viewed as "eccentric", but there are other times when I wish I was able to fit in more. Sitting on the fringe can feel lonely. I also don't like the anxiety of not being exactly sure how I should act in social situations sometimes, or dealing with the aftermath of inadvertently offending others.

Yes. I do mind not being normal, in the 'fitting in' sense. I DO mind that I am often lonely. I'm not "happy with my own company" like many Aspies seem to be - but since I still find it incredibly difficult to talk to people, let alone make friends, after years of therapy, books, courses etc etc it's quite apparent that I've got no damn CHOICE. Most days I would gladly give up whatever "benefits" Aspieness might bring just to feel like part of the human race. I don't share the "NTs are stupid" mindset that pops up here from time to time, all I see are people having fun, fullfilling, loving lives that I can't have (I've tried. Failed. OK?), to me it's more like a club I would love to belong to, but never can.

No, not now I have found WP

No because I have other Aspie friends and some of what makes me Aspie is good solid stuff.

though i havent been diagnosed YET with AS ive always felt different and i have never cared i prefer to be unique and not be like most people who copy everyone else just so they feel normal