Never went through teenage "rebellious" phase

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This was the test I took
http://www.educationquizzes.com/11-Plus ... alogies-1/

Perhaps you you meant matrices reasoning tests, not matrix. I did better on that one than on Code Breaker 1 which I found difficult but I still got 8/10 and I got the same score on matrices 1. The rest of the tests you have to pay for by paying a monthly fee for the site. I only got 3/10 on the Analogies 1.

Holy crap.
I didn't think that someone else had the same experience as me... I started to edit the post for relevant points, but
This was my life for a long time.......

Honestly, I felt like I never really went through puberty (physically yes but ... mentally and all that stuff no).
And then suddenly when I graduated college.... I (spent some time away from them) and I just went through a lot of stuff.... still am.
However, growing up, other than as you mentioned above, I was one of the most rule-abiding and obedient children you could find. It was ridiculous how to-the-letter I was. I followed all of the rules- even the stupid ones.
I was also very obedient and compliant with being mistreated. So, it was certainly not the best thing ever. I don't think it worked so well for myself.
Sometimes being a bit contrarian is not a bad idea.

I did everything they said; I let them push me around; I listened to and did exactly what they wanted- they were very happy, but I was miserable.
I learned later that I could have lived differently, but it certainly provided me with a measure of peculiar perspective.
I remember my parents being upset when I wanted to spend time (and money for the books) to study for the SATs. They thought it was more important to work on my social skills.
It's funny because they were wrong on basically every measure of what they insisted was "good for me". Actually, I can't think of one thing where they were right because what they were really talking about was what is good for them or what they felt or wanted- vastly different from what was for me.

I never did, either. I just took it easy. Got my driver's license at 18, had my first drink at 20, never smoked or did drugs, didn't hang out with losers. Always followed the rules, unless the rule was inconsequential and didn't make sense. I never experienced complete independence from my family, and I don't really desire it either. The world scares the hell out of me and I need their help to deal with it, always have. Fortunately they are understanding and helpful now,which wasn't always the case in the past. My childhood sucked, but basically there was nothing I wanted to rebel against except for school and my own depression, which I managed to do in subtle ways.

Have a drink. Smoke a joint, maybe pop molly or two.

I never had that teenage rebellious phase, because that behaviour was not tolerated in my house. I had a lot of repressed anger and needing release. Guess what happened when I left the house?

I exploded with rebellion.

Drugs, vandalism, screaming outbursts, pyromania, kleptomania, you name it.

Live, take a small risk or two, and just let it out in trickles. It WILL come out.

Whether you're in your mid 20s with a severe drug addiction, a 45 year old mother who is 50000$ in shipping debt, or a father who is cheating on his wife with several women because he never got to do it as a kid.

Your darker side needs to be recognized, or it will come out like a phoenix rising from the ashes.

I wasn't one to drink, do drugs or hang out with the 'wrong' crowd and didn't rebel in the traditional teenage sense but I'd come from an abused family and had some attachment problems.

When I went to live with my grandparents I rebelled against them. I wouldn't tolerate anyone trying to 'control' me.

I guess to an extent, though kind of later than most people seem to go through it. I first had alcohol and smoked some cannabis at the age of 16 when visiting family out of state and hanging out with similar age cousins, but it wasn't a regular thing. I know I'd try and watch movies I wasn't supposed, from 15 to like 17 I shop-lifted a few times, tried to run away one night when I was 14 because my parents weren't getting along and I was upset about hinting of them getting a divorce. I also became rather decent at picking simple locks, nothing to impressive but nonetheless certainly not a skill to show to mom. I mean I certainly wasn't nearly as rebellious as some but I certainly did try to stretch some limits.

Also after graduating highschool a main motivation I had for trying to go to school in other towns away from home was so I could do what I want without worrying about my mom finding out or disapproving of things. My second year of college I ended up dropping out of I went way over-board experimenting with drugs and claiming I didn't care about anything like that I was failing college or if I ended up on the streets and such.

But yeah the vast majority of my childhood and teens where spent more in isolation, I didn't have much friends so spent a lot of time just in my room or walking around outside at home. It wasn't a lack of wanting to partake in more rebellious activities but more lack of opportunity to be honest. I still have rebellious feelings towards the status quo, some of societies expectations of how you're supposed to be and such but not to the extent I'd throw my life away in a fit of rebellion.

I also have PTSD though I am doing quite a lot better coping with it now...but I know that's a factor in some of my more self destructive ways of trying to rebel. Honestly my relationship with my boyfriend has really helped mellow me out in that regard because I care enough that I couldn't bare the thought of having him watch me destroy myself and life.

I never really went through a rebellious phase. I am the oldest sibling so both my mom and dad (separated when I was a toddler) assumed my half sisters would be like me. Unfortunately for them my siblings are not like me in that sense and rebel a lot and often get in "normal " teenage trouble.

Note: I am 23, my half sister on moms side is 16, on dads side I have a 17 year old half sister, as well as a 10 year old half brother.

Still a teenager, but I've never had an urge to do the stereotypical rebellious teenagers things- I'm pretty sure the worst I've done is stay up later than I'm supposed to or not clean my room. The idea of sneaking out and parties and things honestly just freaks me out a little.