Do you want children some day?

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Great answer, Kazan and thank you for being so respectful.

No. I hate to say this but if I had children, I would resent them and I wouldn't want to put them through that. I know I would be incapable of looking after children properly as I do think I'm somewhat selfish and irresponsible and I feel I would resent my children for taking away a part of my life which I would miss, namely my freedom to do what I want, when I want. Also, I really couldn't handle the responsibility. Thought I'd give an honest answer to that.

EDIT: Changed wording a little bit

I do want children on a biological and emotional level, very intensely. I want a farm of them. I secretly love children but don't know how to communicate with them, without resorting to treating them like noisy pets. Dogs are the only people I'm good with.

On a logical level, I do not want children. I've struggled with crippling loneliness despite being married and have a job that isn't terrible. My husband is great, but having only one friend for a decade is not quite enough. Sometimes I wish I had two friends, or a dog that could talk to me. I'd be happy with either option. I do not wish to saddle my offspring with my mental wiring, which has a 50/50 chance of happening. Those are not fair odds.

So 80% of the time I do not want children, since logic is generally more trustworthy.

yeah the dogs need something to eat

oh my god...you made me spray coffee all over my computer screen with that comment

why are my work colleagues looking at me strangely when I'm trying not to laugh?