Did you think your family members or anyone else had autism?

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Yeah, I guess I got your question.
I see a lot of autistic traits in my friends but I live in the nerd subculture so chances are, many of them do have something.
I also see autistic traits in some of my family members. But I'm too doubtful in my approach to see it the way you described. So there are many people with "I don't know if they are autistic of not" label in my mind.
I just question myself too much to get that far.

Well, I put it in order in my mind by deciding:

Okay, I'm weird. Asperger's Syndrome is a sophisticated name for my kind of weirdness. It's part of the autism spectrum. The less pronounced part.
I have had some mental illnesses. Anxiety, depression, social phobia, something dissotiation-like. These were mental illnesses. They made me unable to function. With them cured I function well, althought often weird ways.
ASD is not a mental illness. It's a weirdness hard-coded into one's mind. Life with it is tough and you are likely to get some real mental illnesses on a top of this.

This is how I settled it in my own mind.

I'm not a violent person at all--but I do get violent thoughts when I get frustrated.

I believe the vast majority of people have violent thoughts, and have a "filter" to prevent them from acting on them.

I fully understood the inquiry you had submitted forthwards.and there are times I,myself have to reword at times for others to decipher properly.

I see autism in my brother (one of them) and my mom. I don't think they are aware of it though, though I definitely see myself as ASD 2. On new years my brother said that he too has problems with knowing the right things to say and conversation bla bla. And sometimes he chews on his thumb.

I sometimes think my mother and father have autism because they can be so emphatetic.

It’s hard to say if there’s anything to distinguish your autism traits from your family’s “normal people quirks”. I think whether or not it’s autism depends on how many of those traits you have and how much it impairs you.

So if someone says “it happens to everybody”, it probably DOES happen to a lot of people. They just don’t result in impairment, and/or they don’t have many other autism traits.

I have started to note some traits in close family members.

I have noticed my mum does not make much eye contact with me when we are together. I also note my father's great focus on Music which was his great interest, to the point he was able to make a career in it. I can see hints of some of the traits in my maternal grandmother, while my paternal grandfather's intense interest i his garden and great ability (he won prizes, and sometimes passed other people specimens and these won the recipients prizes in competition) so I wonder if there has been a lot of DNA wandering around in a bit of a "Sweet Spot" of the spectrum.

With reference to the first post in the thread, I have only actively looked for traits and pondered since being assessed. On the other hand, before the summer of 2014 (age 51) I had essentially no knowledge of autism / aspergers and would have found the thought of anyone in the family being autistic very very unlikely, and in fact I would probably have taken offense at the notion.

I think my little sister did. She used to sit in one spot and rub the bottoms of shoes for HOURS while making a clicking sound with her mouth. But I'll never know because she died when she was just a toddler.

My dad for sure

Did your sister have some other condition. I’m sorry she died so young.