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10 Jan 2021, 10:34 am
MrsPeel wrote:
I dunno, Kraftie, I love stats...
But if you think about it, a stat showing the number of marriages that end in divorce is always going to be a high figure. Because in how many other ways can a marriage end? Even amongst NTs, marriages lasting right up until one passes away aren't all that common, I think?
But if you think about it, a stat showing the number of marriages that end in divorce is always going to be a high figure. Because in how many other ways can a marriage end? Even amongst NTs, marriages lasting right up until one passes away aren't all that common, I think?
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When i was young, a couple of decades ago, i remember checking the numbers...And back then in the mid-nineties to be specific, the divorce rate was already more than half...That figure double in the case of certain professions like law-enforcement agents...
10 Jan 2021, 10:36 am
autisticelders wrote:
I am very new here, but appreciate the same qualities of forum members as I explore and read, I find many I can relate to on many levels. I feel safe here after also experiencing numerous attacks from others on various forums (why should things be different in most online forums than they have been for me in real life?) I accept that and value the places where I can take refuge and not have to be so wary. WP has turned out to be a valuable source of insights and utility, and I am looking forward to settling in for a "long term relationship" with this group. Thanks for putting the feeling into words.
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Quite the contrary...THANK YOU
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10 Jan 2021, 11:24 pm
10 Jan 2021, 11:51 pm
Clueless2017 wrote:
What i experienced yesterday in that FB group of NT females in a relationship with an Aspie was like a mob who avalanched against me...Because my story with my beloved Aspie did not match their story, they immediately resented me...It is not my fault that they have failed to educate themselves on ASD...They are apparently more preoccupied with being right instead of salvaging their relationship...They are there to vent about the inadequacies of their Aspies...And by supporting each other, they perpetuate their misery instead of beginning the healing process...Some of them were discussing divorce...Divorce after 23 or 33 years of marriage...And blaming ASD... 
That is well beyond my comprehension...That is truly ridiculous!! !...I am glad i remembered a study that showed divorce is contagious...And so, i immediately left the group, and i plan to stay away from any such groups...
That is well beyond my comprehension...That is truly ridiculous!! !...I am glad i remembered a study that showed divorce is contagious...And so, i immediately left the group, and i plan to stay away from any such groups...I am an Aspie and my wife is an NT. Perhaps that really doesn't describe it. I would phase it that I am an extreme introvert and my wife is an extreme extrovert. We have been married for over 45 years and it works.
Shortly after we married, my wife began to work in a small factory in California. There were about 200 women that worked there. She told me that during their lunch breaks, the women would often talk about their husbands. Maybe talk is the wrong word. It was complain, constantly complain. They would go into great detail about how their husband did this or did that. [It was like a click, you had to hate your husband in order to join.] So she avoided them. A new girl began to work there. She was almost a newlywed. My wife said she was a nice girl and enjoyed talking with her. But then she began eating her lunch with the click and then she began to join in on the stories. In less than a year she was divorced.
So yes I think there is a contagious element to divorce. But it goes beyond the AS/NT relationships into the NT/NT relationships.
11 Jan 2021, 3:38 pm
jimmy m wrote:
Clueless2017 wrote:
What i experienced yesterday in that FB group of NT females in a relationship with an Aspie was like a mob who avalanched against me...Because my story with my beloved Aspie did not match their story, they immediately resented me...It is not my fault that they have failed to educate themselves on ASD...They are apparently more preoccupied with being right instead of salvaging their relationship...They are there to vent about the inadequacies of their Aspies...And by supporting each other, they perpetuate their misery instead of beginning the healing process...Some of them were discussing divorce...Divorce after 23 or 33 years of marriage...And blaming ASD... That is well beyond my comprehension...That is truly ridiculous!! !...I am glad i remembered a study that showed divorce is contagious...And so, i immediately left the group, and i plan to stay away from any such groups...
That is well beyond my comprehension...That is truly ridiculous!! !...I am glad i remembered a study that showed divorce is contagious...And so, i immediately left the group, and i plan to stay away from any such groups...I am an Aspie and my wife is an NT. Perhaps that really doesn't describe it. I would phase it that I am an extreme introvert and my wife is an extreme extrovert. We have been married for over 45 years and it works.
Shortly after we married, my wife began to work in a small factory in California. There were about 200 women that worked there. She told me that during their lunch breaks, the women would often talk about their husbands. Maybe talk is the wrong word. It was complain, constantly complain. They would go into great detail about how their husband did this or did that. [It was like a click, you had to hate your husband in order to join.] So she avoided them. A new girl began to work there. She was almost a newlywed. My wife said she was a nice girl and enjoyed talking with her. But then she began eating her lunch with the click and then she began to join in on the stories. In less than a year she was divorced.
So yes I think there is a contagious element to divorce. But it goes beyond the AS/NT relationships into the NT/NT relationships.
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The study that i read must have been a study on NT/NT marriages...So, your wife's observations confirm the veracity of said study...And it reinforces in me that i did the right thing to leave said group immediately...
By the way, congratulations on you successful neuro-diverse marriage...It is marriages like yours that inspire me to continue moving forward with my beloved (Aspie) with a positive and optimistic attitude...May God continue to bless your marriage with peace, tranquility and much happiness...
11 Jan 2021, 4:05 pm
CockneyRebel wrote:
I love you Clueless, you're a Sweet Pea.
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Thank you...
11 Jan 2021, 8:17 pm
Clueless2017 wrote:
By the way, congratulations on you successful neuro-diverse marriage...It is marriages like yours that inspire me to continue moving forward with my beloved (Aspie) with a positive and optimistic attitude...May God continue to bless your marriage with peace, tranquility and much happiness...
And may God continue to bless your marriage.
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