Which "social rule" do you detest the most?

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I feel like people who ask "how are you" care about you----but they don't care about you all that much. That's my view of it.

Another unwritten social rule that I find annoying IRL is that we "should" respect other people's opinions, no matter how stupid those opinions may actually be.

That Aspergers aren’t equal.

That if we don't understand NTs we're the ones that lack empathy but if NTs don't understand autistic people they still have empathy. (Actually I don't think this is a social rule as such but it still irks me as well as confuses me).

That apartments have thin floors so that you hear everything your upstairs neighbour does, but you can't complain because you can't stop them from moving about in their own home, so you've just got to put up with it and live your life with earplugs in.

The crazy idea that people think that wearing shorts in the rain (on a hot day) is socially unacceptable, and not be educated about the fact that rain is actually healthier for the skin in the summer than too much sun.

That dyeing your hair is a trend among women, like women with blonde hair dye their hair black and vice versa. Can't people just be happy with the way they are, appearance-wise?

That tanned skin is ''better looking'' than pale skin, so those of us cursed with pale skin in a country where the common skin colour is pale we have to spend our whole lives tanning our legs and arms to fit in. Racist, if you ask me.

That smoking cigarettes is still a thing in this day and age.

That you've got to be 100% normal in public, which means you must put your personality to one side and just act calm, cool, confident but very neutral, otherwise people will judge you.

That getting drunk is totally trendy and socially acceptable, even though it can make you do such socially unacceptable things like being tactless or too honest, flirting with the wrong people, not recognising emotions or body language, walking with an odd gait, could get aggressive and become a threat to others, etc, etc. Some NTs even laugh admiringly at drunk people.

That putting your hands over your ears at a loud noise in a public place is considered socially unacceptable, or even if you're seen with earplugs in. I wish this was socially acceptable because it doesn't actually hurt anyone emotionally if you do this.

There's an admissible exception to that rule of asking for clarification, and even NTs themselves do this among each other; if someone makes a somewhat derisive comment / veiled pejorative / covert insult, and you detect it, then you could ask them somewhat indignantly "I'm sorry, I don't follow - what do you mean by that? Could you elaborate?" of course, your facial expression and tone of voice have to convey some indignant feeling, b/c if you say it "deer-like" then peers will ridicule you as being "spaced out" or "not all there" or whatever.

Unfortunately it's not just NT's. Autistic people can be like this too, although there's some evidence that autistic people tend to be more objective: People With Autism Make More Rational Decisions, Study Shows.