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means she thinks that things can be so bad at home that living in an abandont apartment can be bether then living home (im not sure but i think tahts what she means)

Unercover Alien you should be yourself,do not let your family both you.

I'm sorry, but I was glancing at questions last night and I thought the thread said "Bad Thoughts" so I said Demons!! !
Blame it on my blonde disorder for blurting out random nonsense. Next time I'll be sure to read what is actually in the posts.

Heres a link to a question i asked on Yahoo Answers a few months ago
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index ... 328AA59yJB


I think it will clarify this for you a little bit.

lol np

thanks its pretty usefull and inspiring

well its more because my life is a little downgrading that im not so much able anymore to act as me
my caracter really changed if you compare it to a few years ago

I'm not sure that running away or leaving home is the answer. It could be, but that would depend on how truly bad the situation is and how capable you are of surviving on your own. You could find yourself in a far worse situation being victimized by predators who will spot your vulnerability and lure you in with promises under the guise of wanting to help you. I don't know how old you are. I am assuming by what I have read that you are under 18 and still in school. My advice would be to find an adult you can trust. Surely there must be someone in your school or neighborhood that you respect and who could act as a mentor to you. Do you have any friends? When I was a teenager I was having a rough time at home and a friend's parents helped me in ways that I wasn't being helped by my own parents. They listened to me although I never really told them how bad things really were, they sensed it. Just to have those people and to be welcome in their home, not to live there, but to visit and have dinner with them occasionally was a life saver for me. Is there anyone in your community that could serve as a mentor to you? Anyone that you admire and who has shown kindness to you? If you are being abused or neglected, you should report it. I understand that sometimes that is hard to do because you don't want to become a ward of the court. But if your life or your well-being or your sanity is being threatened, for god's sake man, tell someone who can help you. I see that many people from WP are truly concerned and want to help you. They are willing to listen and advise and this is good. But you need someone who is physically present in your life to become an advocate for you and help you find a way out of your predicament. You have the power to turn this situation around. Don't accept it. Get help.

well my mother and my brother used to hit me all the time but its recently replaced with ignorance and acting like im a ret*d (really expecialy my mother) always acting like (thats not truth right "name") whenever some one of my familie calls me useless and lazy (my mother thinks that to ofc but really how much times i would bether have smashed her on the face somehimes she gets hysterical and a little psyco)whenever i do something she gets mad as hell at me but when some one els does she dosnt say a thing also my sister is like that and pretty much my whole familie but if you whanna know more details i placed them somewhere on the topic i didnt even tallk'd about school
*edit: ow and yes there is a supportive teacher but i really cant tell em any of my problems he can sort of sense it hes good at that but still im not good at sharing problems thats why i keep myself quiet about my handicaps (recently have alot)

hard to explain in english and stuff

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to tahitii
I meant running away and I had to live in an abandoned apartment for a while with no food, but it was better than living at home. I said free food and board in place of home because someone told that guy that how can it be so bad living at home where you have free food, etc(provided by parent/s)( he was being sarcastic or didn't understand how truly bad things can be sometimes) but sometimes it is that bad that a person would rather leave and have no food or house than stay. Do you see what I mean?

That is a long time to wait when you are 15. Too long, if it's really that bad.

In my case, I never did find a "mentor" who could help me deal with the abuse. I only found nice people who could provide emotional support. For me, the tough part was telling the authorities the truth. Would they believe me and take me seriously? If not, I would have been returned that same day to the same parents, who would have been enraged by my attempt. That was not an irrational fear.

Can you write a letter? Not to us, but to some person in authority? Put it all together so that you can still explain yourself after your brain freezes because of social issues. Describe all the personal, humiliating details. If they knew the truth, would they take you away and put you in a group home?

Do not, under any circumstances, let them keep the letter. Just have it and let the person read it while you are sitting there. If you let the letter out of your sight, they'll make a thousand copies that will go everywhere, and you will never catch them all. And yes, that would be very bad in the future.

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yes i cant wait till my birthday and i do have 100€ to start
and sinds i will find a home for runaway kids i think they would have something like a emotional helper and stuff
if i dont make it to such home i will find some way to live like in an abandont apartment or something but i will find a way eventualy

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There's got to be a legal way. Like someone at school who can set you up and get you into the system.
So that you don't have to spend any time alone with your family after you've told your story.

Why is it necessary to leave the country? I don't know how it works in Holland and Belgium, but I can't imagine that another country can legally help you. I would think that your home country would be responsible.
Can you legally get any job at all in another country without identification? You can't do that here any more.
All you can get is some illegal job which would probably be worse than living with the family.

I wouldn't tell anyone that you have any money at all. $200 is something to hide in a sock or something and forget about it. Just save it for when you are really stuck.

then how do i assign for becoming part of holland i mean there must be a way they just cant let me stay on the streets as kid

Someone at school should know how the system works.

it might be a little risky to talk about this to some teacher at school hell probbely say that running away wont solve
my problems (he even already said that by some reason he knows stuff that ive never told anyone dunno how he does it must be a ability)

Does he know about your family, and does he believe that they are abusive?
Or does he just think that you are the problem, and that they are good for you?

Have you tried writing that letter yet, if only to organize your thoughts?

no but he knows that im depressed and have much problems but im not going to report my familie
for abusive because they dont deserve that title i mean my familie is just well abusive but not in the way of reporting it
they dont abuse me but they hate me and think im a failure and they might be abusive but dunno dont just think they
deserve it it just doesnt feel wright there just bad familie they'll realise that once
*edit:ofc my problems lie at school to
*i mean abusive is more like sexualy relatings or being beat up to pulp<--(this one comes close tbh)