Do you feel much younger than your actual age?

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Sometimes I feel like I never got out of Middle School (though it was 'Junior high' back then...

I'm often told I act like a child, but that's the missus for ya...

I've always felt and acted both younger and older (simultaneously) than my chronological age. It is kind of hard to explain.

No, I feel 20 years older than my actual age.

I have a question. If the majority here feel and think younger than their actual age, will your emotional and mental maturity eventually catch up with your physical age or will it always be at a much younger age? Some people here are between 40 and 50 years old, yet feel like they're between 20 and 25, for example.

I ask because my AS ex-husband-to-be is 34 years old and prefers to hang out with girls at the local university who are between 18 and 21 years old. I sometimes worry that these girls will grow up, graduate college, get jobs and acquire a new circle of friends (move on basically) and then my husband will be left behind hanging out with new young incoming students at the university. He'll be older obviously and still hanging out with young kids. I just don't want him to get a reputation as "that creepy old guy".

Also, as an example, will a 50 year old AS male who feels 22 years old emotionally and mentally retain a sexual attraction to girls/women of that age group? Will a 50 year old man be physically attracted and/or sexually satisfied with a 45 year old woman or will they be wanting relationships with a 20 year old despite a vast age difference?

In case you find my questions offensive, I apologize now. I'm just really curious due to personal experience.

i think all people feel younger than they actually are.

No. As a child I exemplified Hans Asperger's 'little professor' description (even complete strangers quickly took to calling me 'old man'), as a teenager I was constantly mistaken for a college student, and as an adult people are finding it impossible to judge my age -- as my speech and body language is exceedingly mature, while my skin is yet devoid of wrinkles, and my hair far from thinning.

I contend that if they'd simply accept that it is possible for a 22 year old to have a brain, they'd be at ease.

I admit I have had some of that too. When I had a PHD asking me questions on history and politics. People I have known who keep saying I am smart even if I did not feel it at the time.

At least I have a reputation among peoples how know to be very play full, e.g. building towers of cups, ashtrays, glasses, coffee pots.

On a deeper level, I do not have a real sense for the seriousness of live. I live very much my life like a big game and do not take anything really important, neither job, relations, money or even health. Even I do intellectual understand the importance of this issues, do not behave so and see other things, like building towers or reading a book, as more important than the real matters of live. This reminds me very much to behaviour pattern found more with children than with adults.

Although I'm nowhere near your example, I've noticed that I'm only satisfied with a partner of my own age (to the extent that at 15, despite being ridiculously libidinous, I seemed incapable of being attracted to even 18 year olds, so I never had the teacher crushes most boys did), but as I age I don't lose my youthful fantasies, which means I retain fantasies of being involved with younger girls as a younger version of myself, yet not as me at my current age. If you follow.

I ask because my AS ex-husband-to-be is 34 years old and prefers to hang out with girls at the local university who are between 18 and 21 years old.

well, there's a good reason for the impending exit for you and him. To be honest, most men of any sort would love to be attractive to women that age. Most are smart enough not to act on it, though.

I did once 'creep out' a woman in her 20s who was doing minor flirting with me until she found out I was in my 50s... Strangely, the look of horror and disgust on her face made me feel better...

it's a male thing.

I think I understand what you're saying, Saerain. My followup question then would be - if the opportunity presented itself where you can actually have sex with younger girls (let's say a girl asks you point blank if you want to have sex), would you act upon it or would the age gap prevent you in some way from going through with it?

OK. You're 22. But let's say you're 34 like my ex-husband-to-be and a 19 year old girl you hang out with asks you to have sex, would you do it?

Hi pakled. We were posting at the same time.

The first thing I thought of when I read your post was, "Wow. He must look really young!"

What's your secret?

Yeah, I do. I feel like I'm still twenty. If I take a close shave, ppl say I look like a kid, so I got a machine that don't shave close. Makes me look unshaved all the time, but that's better than actually look like a kid. I also have kept the weight I had when I was twenty, and the blood pressure. Think it's kind of weird

Is it common for us to look younger? Even one of my aspie friends from school have a baby face. He looks like he is 15. Then when I cut my hair and shaved the face. I got comments on how young I looked. One comment is I looked 10 years younger then my real age.

To be honest here, I actually find it a bit strange that an age gap is often considered to be a barrier in a prospective relationship. If both parties are legally adult, why is it a problem? The girl you met obviously was initially attracted to you, so it's quite a puzzle to me as to why finding that you were the age you are put her off.

If I was social and looking for a partner, I can't really say it would bother me whether he was 18 or 60 if he was also interested.

I think I have a baby face.