My mom hates WP

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You are lucky not to live with him. I wish I didn't live with my mother in the rathole apartment in North Hollywood that I do. Nor with the rest of my idiotic family members, who enjoy each others' company because they all have matching annoying qualities. I wish I could strangle, poison or whatever I could think of to do to them. Yes, I think for myself when it comes to the internet, but they don't let me think for myself in anything else. They forbid me to think for myself. They mock me if I try. But someday I am moving the hell away from them and never speak to them again if I choose.

I also wanted to get back with my old boyfriend and she said "He's an a**hole!" and that he already has a girlfriend, which she has no proof of. For her reason I shouldn't get back with him, the former, I'd say "I LIKE those kinds of guys! xD Nice guys nauseate me with their kindness anyway. I roll my eyes at their goody-goodyness.

Despite being the daughter, sister, aunt, and mother of Aspies, my mum was of the same mind for years....not sure what changed with her, but that's how she was when my first brother was dx'ed in '85, and when I was in 2000. She wasn't quite as negative about it, and I have to admit that her attitude of 'there's nothing different about you that you can't change, you're so damn smart, so PROVE it' kinda got me on the fast-track (as fast as I was capable of going, anyway!) to functionality....but people's unwillingness to accept that there really IS something different about us that we CAN'T change IS damn annoying.

I find that this sort of attitude is pretty common among country Europeans, so if that's the group your mother falls into, it explains a lot. I can't really give you any advice on talking sense into her, since my mother COULD NOT be talked to about it for years, but if you were diagnosed with some spectrum disorder, whether or not she accepts our 'out-ness' about Aspergers, for her own good, she should really think some about opening her mind....would help her more than you, in the long run.

Well, it's a bit more than luck. It was hard work being able to afford to move out. To be able to do this, I was a volunteer resident adult in a home for teens coming out of foster care for a while - that meant I didn't have to pay rent or bills - and I worked three paid jobs in order to save up for a downpayment on a small flat. I was often working 80 hours a week - really exhausting. It is hard work to get out of a situation you are used to and achieve independence. But I weighed up the pros and cons and did anything and everything I could to get out. So if you want to move out, don't see it purely as luck. It's hard work, and you have to be really really determined to do it. It's an opportunity very unlikely to be handed to you on a plate.