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07 May 2009, 2:33 am
fiddlerpianist wrote:
Professionals can't agree on who has AS and who hasn't. So if they can't even figure it out, why should you? 
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.Maybe because now people are starting to ask awkward questions about why I behave a certain way?
Maybe because ever since I was little, professionals, family and schools have been arguing about it?
Because they were all messing about with these ideas, the label and "treatment" severely impacted my life and may have even stunted me socially.
If professionals can't agree on who has AS and who hasn't, it doesn't sound like a very objective or medically measurable diagnosis.
This is why an objective test is so desperately needed.
These are people's lives we're talking about here.
People should have clear answers when they're assessed and not be messed about or given misinformed or contradictory information like this.
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07 May 2009, 3:46 pm
marshall wrote:
I also wonder how much my lack of social skills is merely due to lack of motivation and practice. I also had friends back when I lived in a dorm. I had frequent contact with the people who lived in the same building as me and I naturally began doing things with them and became friends.
It's different now that I live in an apartment by myself. I just don't have the tenacity or will power to go out looking to make friends. When I don't see people putting any effort to reach out to me I tend not to bother with them. I give up quickly whenever I have to make any extended effort to connect. I'll try to call someone once and if they don't return my call or invite me to join them on their own initiative I'll subconsciously assume the person doesn't like me and never try to talk to them again.
It's different now that I live in an apartment by myself. I just don't have the tenacity or will power to go out looking to make friends. When I don't see people putting any effort to reach out to me I tend not to bother with them. I give up quickly whenever I have to make any extended effort to connect. I'll try to call someone once and if they don't return my call or invite me to join them on their own initiative I'll subconsciously assume the person doesn't like me and never try to talk to them again.
I met people mostly through classes and organizations. The housing system then allowed my group of friends to "coalesce" until we were mostly living in the same building. There was one person, however, who always lived in a different building, and I know I would have been closer with her if this hadn't been the case.
On the other hand, there was a downside to the proximity effect - I was never really sure whether my friends actually liked me, or if they just tolerated my frequent presence because they were too mature to tell me I couldn't eat lunch with them.
I also have to say, if it weren't for the internet, I would've heard almost nothing from my friends after graduation. We're scattered geographically and phone conversations are just too hard for me.
Now that I'm back in my boring suburban town, I have no idea how to meet people.
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08 May 2009, 1:18 am
Amicitia wrote:
marshall wrote:
I also wonder how much my lack of social skills is merely due to lack of motivation and practice. I also had friends back when I lived in a dorm. I had frequent contact with the people who lived in the same building as me and I naturally began doing things with them and became friends.
It's different now that I live in an apartment by myself. I just don't have the tenacity or will power to go out looking to make friends. When I don't see people putting any effort to reach out to me I tend not to bother with them. I give up quickly whenever I have to make any extended effort to connect. I'll try to call someone once and if they don't return my call or invite me to join them on their own initiative I'll subconsciously assume the person doesn't like me and never try to talk to them again.
It's different now that I live in an apartment by myself. I just don't have the tenacity or will power to go out looking to make friends. When I don't see people putting any effort to reach out to me I tend not to bother with them. I give up quickly whenever I have to make any extended effort to connect. I'll try to call someone once and if they don't return my call or invite me to join them on their own initiative I'll subconsciously assume the person doesn't like me and never try to talk to them again.
I met people mostly through classes and organizations. The housing system then allowed my group of friends to "coalesce" until we were mostly living in the same building. There was one person, however, who always lived in a different building, and I know I would have been closer with her if this hadn't been the case.
On the other hand, there was a downside to the proximity effect - I was never really sure whether my friends actually liked me, or if they just tolerated my frequent presence because they were too mature to tell me I couldn't eat lunch with them.
I also have to say, if it weren't for the internet, I would've heard almost nothing from my friends after graduation. We're scattered geographically and phone conversations are just too hard for me.
Now that I'm back in my boring suburban town, I have no idea how to meet people.
Similar here. My problem's never been that I annoy people or that people don't like me. Intelligent people at least seem to like me. They eventually accept the fact that I don't do a lot of small talk or banter and then things are cool. I just have this tendency to drift to a mindset of very low social motivation whenever I'm not in continuous contact with friends.
I can't make friends with people who I don't see every day on a routine bases. If I don't socialize at all for several days I tend to get "stuck" out of the loop with people to the point where it's hard to motivate myself to talk to anyone. This quickly became a permanent state for me in graduate school because I never have the energy to put effort into study and social life at the same time. It's always either one or the other so the natural tendency for me is to drift towards zero social interaction over time.
