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11 Aug 2010, 1:29 pm

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That most NTs want to be like everyone else.

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Why keeping up with fashion is so important and why it matters what strangers think.

These kinds of behaviors, in my opinion, are about wanting to feel included, or perhaps the avoidance of feeling excluded. People who are different, tend to get bullied, or certainly have a harder time making friends with quote "most people".

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Their ability to be with others for hours straight without tiring.

This in my oppinion is more about an individual's temperament than an NT / As difference. An extrovert's brain wiring is such that they are stimulated by conversing with others so when they go for hours it builds them up. They don't tire because the activity recharges them instead of draining them. I am an introverted NT, and I too am drained by spending much time with others, but at the same time going long periods without being around others can be just as draining for different reasons. I have to strike a balance. I need solitude and withness in moderation.

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11 Aug 2010, 2:04 pm

Spazzergasm wrote:

It can be anything, illogical or logical. Just post ONE NT habit, preoccupation, belief, or behaviour you don't understand.

For me, why do women like so many purses of so many colours and sizes?!?! I have a little black purse. It's got shoelaces for handles because the old ones ripped off. I use it every day. I like it because it's just bigger than a large pocket. Why do some people feel the need to carry around a stiff brightly coloured bag the size of a sheep? :lol:

NT women use purses as substitutes for their vaginas, just like males use guns and cars as substitutes for their penises.

Some women are always shopping for purses, collecting them, moving stuff into and out of their purses, etc.

They are engaging in socially acceptable, external, compulsive vagina-management activity.

That's my theory, anyways. This occurred to me a few years ago and it struck me as pretty accurate and I keep seeing behaviors in women that reinforce that theory.

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11 Aug 2010, 2:30 pm

Autism Speaks and hatred of people with all disabilities.

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11 Aug 2010, 3:15 pm

I don't understand why for NT females, they'd rather have an emotionally and/or physically abusive boyfriend than an honest well intentioned man.

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11 Aug 2010, 3:18 pm

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I think that's a pretty good theory.

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21 Aug 2010, 12:18 pm

Personal and Social Development Lessons (PSHE)

Ironically, these did not aid my personal or social development: they made me believe that the real world was a dangerous place. Hence my agoraphobia now.

How is sitting with 29 other kids crammed into a tiny classroom listening to an adult pontificate over a whiteboard supposed to simulate real life?

It doesn't. It's anti-real life.
The lesson was basically an excuse for people to muck about and chatter.
It didn't teach many practical self defence techniques or how to deal with strangers.

The lesson also curiously made no mention of developmental or social disabilities.
You'd have thought that it would given that its title was "Personal and Social Development".

But no...we had to have these wretched women promoting their hygiene products telling awful jokes come in, peddling their wares. The jokes were sick and not even remotely funny. Those women still make me ashamed of being alive and female.

Instead of making a big silly song and dance about biological topics, it'd have been much better for me if I'd been discretely handed some leaflets by my doctor.

It was pretty useless trying to discuss emotional, social and biological issues with my family. I felt really disappointed with their lack of emotional support, particularly after being told in Personal and Social Development that I should discuss issues with family.

My family said that the lesson time would've been better spent doing something useful like Maths. I agree with this sentiment.

Actually, I would've prefered a less crowded environment where I could learn at my own pace, but I digress....

The group discussions on grouped tables in Personal and Social Development did not help me to socialise better. I felt overwhelmed and drained because there was too much chatter going on at once. I tend to do much better in one to one discussion anyway. I can also present material to an audience. I never really had a proper group discussion with anyone at home, so I didn't understand why I was being made to do it at school. Also, there was a lack of proper instruction about how to take turns in a group. I found myself talking over other people unintentionally. Also, no conflict resolution skills were taught.

Essential practical life skills like how to fill in chequebooks and forms would've been more useful.

Also, the lesson was far too abstract.
I'd have prefered to have tested the elastic potential or stress toys rather than discussing emotional stress. If I could've experimented with the stress toys, I could've learnt some Physics.

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21 Aug 2010, 5:49 pm

The need to be exactly like everyone else!! !
why cant people just embrace it if they think they are different?

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21 Aug 2010, 11:09 pm

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I understand small talk and pleasantries (it took time to realize that small talk is suppose to be kept light and positive - I used to answer how I really felt in casual social situations - oops :oops:

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What I totally don't understand is how a NT can keep the same expression when they are lying as when they are telling the truth. It doesn't matter if it is a boldface whopper or a little white lie - NT"s have this superpower ability to lie without a trace of evidence (and without any compunctions). I am not saying that NT's are "liars" or that they are all bad - it is just one of those annoying things.

Funny - I don't have a problem with a "little white lie" - if someone loves a pair of shoes, but I think that they look silly - I will say that they "suit someone" or that the person "wears them really well." I like supporting people and making them feel positive about themselves.

Where I get confused is when someone says, "why don't you give us a call when your in town" - and they really aren't being genuine. I mean, if you want to see me - invite me to call. If you don't want to see me - don't say "give me a call." It won't hurt my feelings not to get the invitation - but if I get the invitation and call - it would hurt my feelings to find out - sometimes rather akwardly - that the invitation was just a social "nicety" and not genuine.

I agree....I understand the small talk to a certain extent. You might say hello or ask someone how they are just to be civil or cordial to another human being you are often in close contact with. What I do not understand is asking someone to spend time with you just to be nice. A few co-workers or fellow students who I have sat next to in classes have said that we should get together sometime and not meant it in the slightest. A fellow student once said (at the end of the school semester) that the two of us should have a "regular coffee date" the next school year. I exchanged phone numbers with her and tried to call her and but she never responded. It is not impolite not to suggest making plans and actually spending time with a casual acquaintance. I don't understand why some people feel compelled to do this with people they really don't want to spend time with.

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21 Aug 2010, 11:24 pm

Insurance.
Why waste money trying to ensure something when nothing in life is for sure?
What really baffles me is how many types of insurances there are: Housing, medical, life, car, business, pet... There's even alien abduction insurance for crying out loud!

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21 Aug 2010, 11:52 pm

Why does logic never work in an argument with an NT?

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22 Aug 2010, 12:02 am

Kelpie wrote:

Why does logic never work in an argument with an NT?

Depends on the NT.

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22 Aug 2010, 12:56 am

Why do they give each other a hard time, and rib each other over something, but not really mean it? You should not insult someone or give them a bad time unless it is serious and you absolutely and sincerely believe it.

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22 Aug 2010, 1:02 am

ephemerella wrote:

NT women use purses as substitutes for their vaginas, just like males use guns and cars as substitutes for their penises.

That is some serious BS right there. At least speaking for the male side, sex organs have nothing whatsoever to do with those interests. It's this kind of widespread nonsense that makes me question psychology as a legitimate science.

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22 Aug 2010, 3:16 am

I've always had to scratch my head at why NTs feel the need to drink or do drugs in order to have a 'genuinely' good time at parties. Personally, I've never found the idea of intentionally screwing with my physiology (with drugs, alcohol, or tobacco) all that appealing, really.

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22 Aug 2010, 4:18 am

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22 Aug 2010, 12:28 pm

Why people even bother responding to trolls and they full well know they are one but yet choose to get upset with what they posted. :roll:

Why people even bother clicking on a thread they don't like they full well know that will trigger something inside them.

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