Offended my aunt with my thank you card

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Michjo
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02 Aug 2009, 8:15 pm

Maggiedoll wrote:
Do you seriously expect anybody to believe that you know, to the extent that the difference between your opinion and fact is pure semantics?

I stated my veiws were an opinion, yet you keep trying to claim i think they are a fact because of the exact words i am using. You are completely ignoring the context. When i stated my veiws were an opinion, it changed the meaning of all the statements. I seriously believe anyone with a basic idea of context (despite how badly worded my posts are and can be), would understand this concept and accept that my statements are intended as opinions, and a unique point of veiw in a thread full of different points of veiw.

I have already stated on these forums various times my difficulties with grammatical/semantic/exact language and how what i say can be misinterpreted. Ironically similar to how the average aspie is misunderstood, because they struggle with context... :roll:

Maggiedoll wrote:
the intent of a letter written by someone you don't know to somebody you know on a forum, based on a sentence quoted from that letter?
Michjo wrote:
Wether the letter was intentionally wrote to convey the negative meaning (it obviously has by the way!) or not is immaterial.

I have already clarified what i meant, yet you are still trying to state i meant something different. The way the letter was wrote (the part we were given) has negative connotations, it has a nasty, hurtful tone to it. That's a fact by the way and the only part of everything i have wrote that i state as a fact, the part of the letter we were given is wrote in a hurtful way. Was the letter wrote in this way intentionally? I can only offer opinions on that question.

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Or are you just being nasty for the sake of it?

Funny, i could ask you the exact same question. :roll:



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04 Aug 2009, 9:00 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:
Well I got a letter in the mail from my aunt saying how disappointed she is in me and hurt for reading how I was shocked when I recieved her wedding present and me saying to my family they may be cheap but they aren't cheap enough to not get us a wedding present.


If you said that in your thank you letter...it would be rude no matter how you worded it.

If you said that to someone else and it got back to them that you said it, then someone is a blabbermouth.

No matter how cheap someone is on their wedding gift (my sister's first wedding one side of the family gave her one gift...a vacuum cleaner), your thank you note should be simple and tasteful....no mater what you really thought of the quality of the gift.



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04 Aug 2009, 9:51 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:
I have yet thank you cards to send out for our wedding presents we got and I have half of it done. I sent a thank you card to my aunt and uncle and I forgot to include my cousin :(
Well I got a letter in the mail from my aunt saying how disappointed she is in me and hurt for reading how I was shocked when I recieved her wedding present and me saying to my family they may be cheap but they aren't cheap enough to not get us a wedding present.


Oh, I can understand them. Really bad wording indeed.

That sounds like 'they are lowlifes, but they better not sink as low as to not get us a present like decent people would' no matter the background.

It's hard to believe anyone did not mean it unless you know they're autistic and understand how autism makes them totally socially deficient in these aspects without meaning harm and being a jerk.

It's the whole 'others have huge trouble understanding autism' thing.


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