Which one is the Aspie in this video?

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You just can't get beyond the clothing. The clothing has nothing at all to do with it. I'm sorry if her clevage offends you or something, but that's really not that inapprorpiate at all. Lots of people wear things far more revealing to their jobs. The point I was making that is between the two of them, he's dressed appropriately, and she's on the edge of appropriate, but it does not factor in. If she had a high necked blouse and pinned the nametag near her shoulder, it would still be highly inappropriate for him to lean in to see it and for him to stare. As I pointed out quite a while ago, the fact that her dress is so low is likely a style choice made specifically so they could illustrate how inappropriate his leaning in was, because it's a lot easier to see that putting your face near someone else's boobs univited is inappropriate.



I just asked you a question. Did you hear it? Didn't type it, just said it out loud once. I'm guessing you didn't hear it and thus can't respond, much like the receptionist probably didn't hear his question. You can't respond to a question if you haven't heard it.

Beyond that, if he really wanted her name, he could ask again once they were in a quieter place (the elevator) or covertly looked her nametag. He didn't just look; he leaned down to get closer to her nametag. That's invading personal space.

The way she's dressed is done on purpose, as it's showing how people can interpret the [innocent] behaviour of a person with an ASD as entirely different to what it really is.

In regards to her attire, eh, she's not wearing anything inappropriate, it's just that since her bust is probably bigger than average, more flesh is shown than usual for similar clothes than someone who isn't as big, but it's only basic cleavage, nothing inappropriate (so, do we snub her because she can't wear clothes like everyone else due to something she has no say over? This is the same point that the video is making, and it can apply to her too). Since she's actually very conscious of it too, she's probably had many men stare at her in the way she assumes the man here is, and she's fed up with it. All of this is within the context of the film and today's [Western] societies. My sister has similar problems in regards to bust size (as does my mother).

Neither is an Aspie. They are both actors.

I love the way the discussion has progressed to what the receptionist is wearing. Strange that it's OK for the women to show nearly half her chest, yet not OK for the man. Looking forward to the day of true liberation when men's clothing displays a small (but appropriate) amount of scrotum cleavage.

PS In the UK, you'll see many women going to work wearing *far* more revealing clothes than the girl in the video. I thought it was the same everywhere these days (apart from Taliban controlled countries).

If my long-long-long-term memory doesn't fail me, scrota don't have cleavage.

Still more clothing issues topic

In Canada, receptionists are not supposed to wear revealing tops. The odd male oriented retail outlet may allow it to attract customers, but family friendly/government offices have strict rules.

Scrotal openness is not allowed, either. Nuts to that.

The video was kind of set up by the question. It was easy to guess which was supposed to represent the Aspie, but if the situation had not been pre-established as Aspie vs. NT, I would have assumed from the man's expressions, and actions that he had experienced a lack of acceptance on multiple occasions in his past, but I would not have assumed that this is because he is an Aspie, or at least not at first. Not everyone who avoids eye contact, and/or speaks or behaves awkwardly does so because he is autistic or has Asperger's syndrome.

And the secretary's response did seem a bit over the top, but I have had people respond to me that way too. I would have assumed that her behavior wasn't really about how the young man was responding to her, but something else was stressing her, and she was already loaded to explode before the young man walked in. He was just standing in the wrong place at the wrong time when she blew. Many if not most people, in my experience are much more patient, and try to be understanding.

You can't be serious. Forget you're on the internet for a second and think about the real world. People don't dress like that in offices. Sheesh. I am just being realistic. Clothing is a HUGE part of your job if you work in an office. It matters a lot. Supervisors want the "neatly groomed, well dressed" look. To me, it doesn't matter, but believe me, many people would say she was dressed like a cheap slut. People, on the whole, are judgmental. That's why employers insist their employees dress conservatively. If their employees are dressed that way from the get go, they avoid a lot of hassles and that's what they want.




That situation reminds me of AS, which is one of the reasons the receptionist seemed AS to me.



It's no worse than her not answering when he asked her name. Those social faux pas cancel each other out

Go read just about every other post on this past page. I'll wait. Through yet? See how most people agree that it's not that bad and isn't atypical in some countries? It's not unusual attire, and I do work in an office (actually was the receptionist for a while and wore similar things), thanks; our receptionist wears low cuts and isn't in any trouble whatsoever.



No, she probably just couldn't hear him.



She made no social faux pas whatsoever. He made two, and yes, invading personal space is worse than not answering a question you can't hear.

There's more than one interpretation of this video. I have offered another interpretation and have given valid reasons for it. Just because you don't agree with it, and others who participate in this forum disagree, doesn't mean that my interpretation isn't just as valid as yours. Had she worn something else and answered him when he asked her name, it would have been obvious he is the one who is supposed to be autistic. This video kind of muddles it because of how she is dressed and her attitude.
The strange thing is, where I'm at, I see more men act like that guy than I see women act like that girl.
The point is, because she didn't answer when he politely asked her name, he felt like he had to try to look at her nametag in the elevator, which she misinterpretted and reacted by slapping him. If she had asked, "what are you doing?" and laughed a bit when asking, he would have told her, "I asked your name and you didn't answer, so, I was trying to see your nametag." She might have laughed again and then extended her hand and told him her name. That would have been the end of that. Situation resolved.

since the thread has devolved into discussion about cleavage and scrota ( ) ...
i might add, the woman's attire is not at all unusual for temperate and sub-tropical and tropical australia. i think the States on the whole, is probably a little more conservative when it comes to attire. ( i notice this with my two autralian uncles who reside in the U.S. WHen they visit australia, their attire is from another planet almost!!)

what seems most unfortunate is that the male (who is AS) seems comparatively polite and nice, while the female, (presumably NT) is really not very nice at all. where does that leave us? i think it is a fair marker of how things are for many ASD people, who do try to be nice and decent people, and who just cannot keep up with the shifts and changes in dynamic social interaction.

and this thread proves how adept many of us can be at a systematic and cognitive breakdown of social situations and dynamics, if the pace is slowed and we are able to observe and process things at our own pace and in our own ways.

all i know is the real world is a tad brutal for me most of the time...

Israel got first place in sexual liberalism (even above Sweden) in the latest world statistics. In Tel Aviv, where it's always warm, we have gays making love in public parks, with little children and their dogs playing closely around them and their parents smiling sweetly. Attire is very light due to the terribly hot weather and (non-religious) women wear very provocative clothes to work. Even so, this dress was too low-cut for Tel Aviv. Just one more of the very stereotyped details of a very stereotyped video.

P.S. Just like an aspie (me) to not get any scrota cleavage in the most sexual country in the world. Bah.

Clearly the guy. Basically, he was saying things when it wasn't appropriate. He wasn't picking up cues when he could talk. And the tone of his voice.

I knew someone that used to act very similar to that. He was dxed on the Autism spectrum and I used to work with him. He basically would "speak out of turn" a lot. Especially to customers. He was suppose to greet customers and he wasn't warm to them at all, so they just ignored him.

When the lady was walking away and he was trying to ask her name, she was busy talking, not a good time to ask a name.

Personally, I am about half way between the guy and the girl in how I act.

Somebody needs to invent scrotal push-up bras.



Yes, and he's the one who would be the unpopular 'weirdo' and she's the popular one with dozens of friends prepared to listen to her low signal-to-noise ratio non-stop verbiage.

I am repeatedly disagreeing with you because you seem to think her clothing is an indicator of her mental health, which it is not. There is no way she would walk into a doctor's office and they'd look at her and go, "Oh, look at that dress! You're totally on the spectrum." You keep insisting it is inappropriate, as is her behavior, when others have repeatedly pointed out that in the UK (where the movie is based) this is not abnormal. But that's really not the biggest issue; the issue is that you're saying his behavior is normal and acceptable, and it's not; there's just no two ways about that. It is never acceptable to put your head near someone else's chest in a business (or casual friend) situation like that, regardless of intention or prior question. What happens if someone on the spectrum sees your statements that it's ok and goes out and does something like that? He's going to get in a lot of trouble, because in a lot of places, that could easily be considered sexual harrasment, and at very least, he's going to creep someone out. It's not acceptable behavior, even if he does just want to see the nametag.



He didn't ask about her name in an ideal manner. It's all ready been pointed out multiple times that they're in a crowded building, he's a good bit behind her, and she's talking; in any of the three situations, it would be understandable if she didn't hear him, and given it was all three combined, it's almost a certainty that she did not.

Could it have been resolved better after he had leaned in like that? Sure. But he should never have leaned in like that to begin with, and it's completely understandable that she didn't believe his explanation.

And she didn't slap him. That you think she did indicates to me that you have subconsciously skewed it to fit your interpretation.

PEople are completely missing the point of the video. The woman portrayed is supposed to not be an Aspie and they have made sure they have gotten rid of most of the trademarks. All we have left to even take a stab at being an Aspie is her bitchiness which is at best tenuous to say the least. Sounds like a few here are projecting what they want to be considered normal behaviour as that and diregarding normal behaviour as being on the spectrum - which is odd, but I can see why they want to do so.