Can others tell you have Asperger's?

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nope, people just think I'm weird.

^ The above is a good point.

There was a teen aged girl at a video store a few years ago who asked me (out of the blue, which was weird). It turned out she had a friend who had AS.

Otherwise, I don't know. I don't know how many people I've met who know what AS is or what it looks like. And I don't look overly weird on the street, where people would go out of there way to let me know about it. (Though I did get some crap in my younger years, so some of how I look on the street is an adaptation that says, "don't f*** with me.")

No, but they can tell that something's wrong, but AS would never come to mind. People have assumed I have OCD, learning difficulties, Dyspraxia, or panic/anxiety disorder, od even ADD.
I do have Dyspraxia and panic/anxiety disorder (Dyspraxia has been diagnosed along with my AS, and I have self-diagnosed the panic/anxiety disorder).

But people have never thought of AS. It's probably because most NTs hold a stereotype with Autism, which is ''Autistic people don't talk and are ret*d.'' And because I do talk normally and am not ret*d, then the disorder doesn't come to mind. I'm not using the stereotype - I'm just telling that from an NT's point of view. I'm not saying all NTs think that, I'm just saying that most do - especially those who don't really know anyone close with it and so don't really have a clue.
It's like with Alzheimer's - I never was aware of the seriousness of the disease. I just laughed at it and thought, ''a person who forgets everything must be really interesting but so funny!'' That is a stereotype, I know. But now that my own Nan has Alzheimer's, I've really come to understand it, and think it's not just about forgetting. There's more to it than that. And it's no laughing matter. Obviously Alzheimer's is different to Autism (since Autism isn't a disease), but I was just using it to demonstrate how little me (or anyone else in my family) understood how with people suffering from Alzheimer's work, and so this is probably how NTs view Autism as.

Most people who get close enough to see the signs just see me as a bit "off" or quirky. If any of them have known it without having been told I'm unaware of it.

I do give off some characteristic vibe - everybody soon knows there is something wrong about me, even when I tried to hide it. It's the same about hiding my intelligence - it's not actually about my REAL trying to hide it on purpose as such, but about my not showing off when it comes to the knowledge I had - after some time of my being like that people always started to refer to me on this or that occassion as to someone intelligent and knowing a lot. I think if someone knew about AS, they would easily guess.

Have a couple of friends, that i instantly had connection with. - When we met neither of us knew about AS. But were all dx'd, and by two different psychiatrists, that are both well in to AS/ASD and AD(H)D ect.
When they recieved their dx, i were told that they knew i'd get it, if i were assessed...
But, i have'nt met any foreigners, who have asked me if... -Thow i have often been called distant, remote and such things...

Of the few people I know currently and the many when I was in school who didn't know about it, they didn't suspect anything more than weirdness, or so I believe.

The only time this ever happened to me was at summer camp. My best friend there told me i reminded her of some of her moms students (her mom teaches special ed.) who have aspergers syndrome. I told her that's how i got into wanting to study autism. So she's the only one i know who really knows i have it and understands it (my two other friends know sort of but don't really know what it is). Other people have asked me, "What's wrong with you???" but they obviously don't think that i have a real disorder, they just think im weird.

The more obvious it is the more easy it is to discern.
Only those who know well about AS or those who have it and know what to look for recognize my traits.

I've had two people who didn't know me well hint that I had AS. They kept talking about it with me and saying that I was weird and made weird facial expressions and said weird things in the same conversation. But they never came out and said that they thought I had AS. They must have thought that I would be offended. Of course, I didn't pick up on their hints. Ironically, I wouldn't have been offended if they had just come out and said it. Looking back, it's hilarious that people tried to hint to a person with AS that she had AS.

The only time this ever happened to me was at summer camp. My best friend there told me i reminded her of some of her moms students (her mom teaches special ed.) who have aspergers syndrome. I told her that's how i got into wanting to study autism. So she's the only one i know who really knows i have it and understands it (my two other friends know sort of but don't really know what it is). Other people have asked me, "What's wrong with you???" but they obviously don't think that i have a real disorder, they just think im weird.

A couple of my mom's friends have a son with it... they were the ones who suggested that I had it in the first place. I recall that I was rather insulted, but after a while of thinking it over, I think they were on to something.

No one has ever mentioned AS to me but then that's probably because those who could bring up the subject don't know anything about AS and those who do wouldn't do it because they don't know me well enough or don't want to make me sad.

The day I learned what AS was and started suspecting that I had it I sent the description to one of the few people I could share it with, a 18 year old roommate of mine. Her response was 'You don't have an illness, it's just your personality'. Which actually made it worse for me because, well, that's exactly what it is - not an illness, but a... peculiarity about the way my brain and personality work, let's put it like this. I'm still in the process of discussing it with the only other person I can tell this to right now and we didn't even get to the point of mentioning the words 'Asperger's syndrome'. However, I feel that she also has this idea about all kinds of autistic people being as described in one of the above posts - ''Autistic people don't talk and are ret*d'. So I don't know if I should even bother to continue the conversation. They both know me as a weird person who has problems socializing etc, but they don't know how far I've actually come these years and how much I've learned using my brains rather than intuition about social behaviour, friends, don't know my story, how devoted I am to my special interests and how many of these I used to have in the past. I do seem quite NT at times and they've seen me like this. Not sure if they realize how many small things have to coincide for me to feel absolutely comfortable and behave like a neurotypical person.

I wish I could talk about it with my family but that's probably even more hopeless(
Ehm, sorry for a long rant.

People can definately tell that I'm not normal, but I don't think enough people know what Aspergers is to pinpoint it on me. A girl from New Zealand who likes me at least in a nonsexual way once flat out asked if I have Autism though.