Do you not care about how you look?

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I don't care about personal grooming too much, whatever can be done within 10 minutes in the morning. Usually just wash up, brush teeth, foundation and blush. My hair is long and I can do all sorts of styles within a minute (except braids) and hold it with various hair accessories that match my outfit.

As for clothes, I never know whats fashionable but I think I look OK most of the time. I always wear clean, comfortable clothes that flatter my body. Colors usually match or coordinate well, my accessories are simple and classic. As I don't work outside the home my clothes are usually casual, comfortable and rather feminine (think long flowery skirts, peasant top, flower in my hair...etc.). DH thinks I dress very well and quite sexy. I'm sure some people think I dress like a freak but that's ok as I'm not their decoration.

I don't really care how I look since I realized that even if I did look nice/fine, I lack the social skills to be accepted in a wide circle of friends so there is not much point to it. Besides, my real friends will judge me for who I am and not how I dress/look (obviously, I won't purposely look bad though).

why should i care?

I take care to look neat and healthy, being self-employed I have to make a decent impression on my clients but it also makes me personally feel better.

Exactly!

Looks-wise I'm at a disadvantage from the start due to my jaw being asymmetrical and a scar from below my chin to behind my right ear. That's thanks to cancer treatment (radiation & chemo therapy + operations) back in the 90's. The radiation also fried my thyroid which causes bouts of dandruff. I have a buzz cut which is easy to maintain and is much better against the dandruff.

I wear what I like, it's nice when I get good responses from others but it's not my main motivation.
I used to wear all kinds of baggy clothes but I've recently taken to close fitting clothes that match my physique.
I do always wear the same type of clothes, think K-Swiss (several pairs), Levi's 501's & 506's and t-shirts (short sleeves in summer, long sleeves in winter). I tend to stick with brands that are consistent in size, fit and quality as it makes buying clothes online much easier, no return hassle.

I agree with the above. There are so many things that are supposed to be common for HFAs that are so not true of me (i.e. I have great imagination and face recognition) and I don't understand fully why they should be some kind of rule at all. Appearance is the most confusing. I think that I worry about how I look and dress BECAUSE of my autism, not in spite of it.

I am very self-conscious and I always look at myself in the mirror four of five times before I leave the house to make sure I look good. This is because I am ONLY conscious of myself and I have a hard time understanding how others see me. I want to look the best I can. I always thought it was the NTs who often just throw something on and run out of the house; after all, they have a group of other people to focus on and however they look, it is pretty much how everyone else looks. On the other hand, I have no idea how to look. I change my facial hair every few days, for example.

I just know that wherever my head is at the moment, that is exactly how I need to look, which is usually rather odd to some people, but as I work in human services, I learned to conform a little more over the last few years for the sake of clients. There is also the matter of being bullied and teased when I was growing up, which had some influence.

So, yeah, I do care about how I look.