14 Jul 2011, 6:16 am
melbi wrote:
Some NTs in uni are nice...but I hate the way they talk to me when I'm depressed or anxious.
QUOTE NT "Does having an anxiety attack help you solve the problem? It doesn't! So just get over it!"
QUOTE NT "You're not the only one who has problems, everyone has their problems in life, so just get over it!"
QUOTE NT "You're not the only one who is stressed, so it's not a big deal, just deal with it."
QUOTE NT "Why are you so depressed? There's nothing wrong with having autism!"
QUOTE NT "Stop using AS as an excuse, you're not the only one who has problems in life."
QUOTE NT "It's easy to talk to people, just open your month."
etc etc etc...anyone has similar expereince? I totally hate it!! !! !! !! !!!ARGH!! !! !! !! !! It also made me realise how hard it is for people to empathise with others.....
QUOTE NT "Does having an anxiety attack help you solve the problem? It doesn't! So just get over it!"
QUOTE NT "You're not the only one who has problems, everyone has their problems in life, so just get over it!"
QUOTE NT "You're not the only one who is stressed, so it's not a big deal, just deal with it."
QUOTE NT "Why are you so depressed? There's nothing wrong with having autism!"
QUOTE NT "Stop using AS as an excuse, you're not the only one who has problems in life."
QUOTE NT "It's easy to talk to people, just open your month."
etc etc etc...anyone has similar expereince? I totally hate it!! !! !! !! !!!ARGH!! !! !! !! !! It also made me realise how hard it is for people to empathise with others.....
Yup this is pretty much what I have to deal with from family since my childhood (especially from my dad) and I'm amazed that I haven't found this thread before. Though my family still thinks that AS is something I will get over with the right amount of discipline. I'm just bitter that I wasn't taken as seriously as I needed to be especially when I was suffering from a lot of anxieties. At times they'll even make fun of me for crying and breaking down over certain situations. I had friends in college that would do this to me all the time. When I started seeking depression and therapy all manner of friends and family were ridiculing and mocking me for it. Some just want to give me their whole "antidepressants is a pharmaceutical scam" lecture instead of informing me on how to properly and safely take them. My family didn't give two s**ts and never bothered to check or keep track of if I took my antidepressants properly. Needless to say alot of hell resulted that I blame their lack of support for. I could go on and on about this. I tell my dad how uncomfortable I am with him poking me and what does he do? He keeps touching me even more believing it's the only cure for such a discomfort. Some people just think that being a jerk will cure people who are different, don't they?
14 Jul 2011, 11:41 am
If someone tried to say that to me I would be waiting for any situation to happen to them so I could say "Get over it". Even the death of a love one I am heartless when it come to people I don't like.
I can see it now the a**hole enters the room and says while holding back the tears. "My mom died last night." I would step up and say "Get over it everyone dies." Then I would wish he would attack me so I could have him arrested and hopefully miss his mom's funeral. 
