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19 Sep 2010, 11:17 am

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No raising NT's is not so cut and dried, they are very complex socially - they are at greater risk for social problems like gangs and drugs and unplanned pregnancies . . . oi vey!

and they need churches to help them feel safe and give them a sense of group identity (belonging)

and they need to feel validated by being included in every stupid fad - Aspie children dress so practically and tend to understand frugality!


Would you like to provide a scientific source for this material? Or shall we just move ahead and consider it bigotry?

As mentioned, having children is like gambling. You never know what you're going to get. But if you go in with hopes and expectations, there's a pretty good chance you're going to be disappointed at the outcome.



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19 Sep 2010, 12:03 pm

NT's have lists and lists of traits to discribe the differences between Aspies and NT's

I just appreciate the aspie qualities so much more than the NT qualities!
I really do celebrate Autism :D

I recognise that the ''NT qualities'' lead to much suffering that we have all experienced first hand.

I have always socially preffered the company of Aspies - I regard NT's as having an incompatible social disability of their own that makes it hard for them to relate to Aspies. I have always found Aspies to have good information and very accurate perspectives. NT's just seem kinda irrational alot of the time - sort of their own schitzophrinia but different, just like autism isn`t schitzophrinia but used to be considered somthing like it untill it was better understood. NT's marginalize themselves from Aspies with thier inane social needs.

I don`t think it`s bigotry to think Aspies are great! or to embrace Aspergers as a positive contribution towards a better future for humanity.



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19 Sep 2010, 12:36 pm

ninszot wrote:
I am hoping for nice quiet independant smart little aspie kids (like their PDD parents)
who don`t need a billion little whiny and vicious NT freinds who will then turn on them and send them home crying.


Quiet. Quiet. All I can say is "good luck with that!" :roll:


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19 Sep 2010, 1:20 pm

ninszot wrote:
I don`t think it`s bigotry to think Aspies are great! or to embrace Aspergers as a positive contribution towards a better future for humanity.


Your appreciation is based just as much on stereotype as your denigration of NTs. You're idealizing Aspies, not genuinely embracing their diversity and uniqueness.


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19 Sep 2010, 1:57 pm

Honestly, I'd prefer not to risk having kids of my own unless I could be sure the odds of them having AS would be near zero.

Why? Because I want my kids to have every opportunity. I don't want them to suffer the pain and rejection I went through because I was unable to interact with "normal" (sic) society. I don't want them to dream big of their futures only to find out there is something about them that makes it near impossible for them to realize their dreams.

Is that selfish? I don't know. Is it any less selfish than wanting kids just like yourself, AS and all?