My gripes at ASpartners

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Huh? What troll? Here or there? Huh? I don't think anything there or here is a joke.

One NTW posted that the perfect marriage partner for ASH is a robot.

Well, Hari Seldon married a robot in Asimov's "Foundation" series.

Yikes, must stop reading that forum. It's hard to believe that it's real.

Gawd help me, just saw a thread on that forum "AS = Dementor from Harry Potter"

OMG! I learned something from AS Partners! I didn't know this is what "not if I see you first" meant! I thought it just meant Person A seeing Person B before Person B seeing Person A, like if they were both in the parking lot at the same time.

I find that NT jokes are mostly unfunny.

OH CRAP! I actually followed your link and read some of what was written there!! ! OMG I can't believe these people are for real! "wired against knowing how to truly love and care for someone"????? AARRRGH! I have been accused of that and I hate it!

As far as what you posted, I definitely relate to not being able to coordinate with someone. I don't know what he wants some of the time and even when I do, sometimes I can't do it. What I would like is for the constant expectation that I be "more NT" to go away. It stresses me. When I say that I get accused of "making excuses" and "not trying". And the people on that forum make my husband look SUPER understanding!

~Kate

Alright, now this really pissed me the hell off...
"I know this will sound silly, but I feel that he 'targeted' me as I was easy-going and the sort of person who likes to help people and he probably felt I could 'care' for him.

It feels so good to be able to 'talk' to others who 'get' it as I wont feel so mad now."

Yeah f*****g right, he targeted you... Cuz that's exactly what we do, we just sit back and go "THERE! SHE'LL take care of me for sure!" God, what a b***h. The reality is probably that she tried her ass off to get him.

I thought the same. I didn't know it was an insult like that.

Before reading AS Partners, I didn't know that one group of people COULD think so nastily about another group of people. For example, if I have had a particularly bad experience with an NT one day, and I b***h about it, the most I will say is something like, "NTs are so emo" or "NTs are so boring" or "NTs are so sick". I won't be making all these complex crazy rigmaroles like these NTW make about their ASH, like all the behaviors of their ASH are meant to manipulate them in some extremely convoluted way and their ASH are doing everything with some devious insane scheme in mind and this is how the defunct AS mind operates by default. It's like an exposing of the two neurologies right there on that forum. One has some simple straightforward negative thoughts about the other, and the other big bangs out entire universes, with all the complexities therein, of NASTY about the other.

Ummm, this NTW wants to be autistic? I would not say that I desire zero validation from others, but compared to NTs, my desire in this area is very very very low, so I am probably like what this NTW is describing, and yet, she wants to be this way, the way her ASH might be, and yet, she doesn't realize that her ASH is this way, the way she wants to be, because she is with him, who acts like someone who is this way, not validating her, who requires validation, because he requires much less validation than she does, and so, she can't stand the mismatch between her desire to be validated and the lack of validation she receives, so she wishes that she required much less validation, which would be the case, if she were autistic.

When I was a kid, before I knew that people were people, I required no external validation at all, and that was actually very nice.

I didn't get this:

What was wrong with his compliment? He gave her one like she wanted and she laughs about it. Oh well at least she wasn't hurt by it nor offended.

God some posts on there are so confusing and here is another that annoyed me:





Why didn't she just answer the fricken question and besides I don't think he knew she was missing a word. I wouldn't have known either if she didn't say she indicated she missed a word. But maybe if I saw what she had written, maybe I would have figured it out. Or maybe he was just trying to point out to her she missed a word by asking her what that means. He did laugh so maybe he did know she missed a word and also the fact he said she made the mistake. But what annoyed me the most was her ignoring him. How hard is it to just answer? Seesh.


Also that Spotting an Aspi in the Wild thread is hilarious.






This one was just dumb. I can just imagine an NT going "what?" and I am willing to try that on someone just to see how they react. I did laugh at that sentence but not because I thought it was a joke, just because a laugh came out of my mouth so my husband often thinks I knew he was kidding or found something funny. I mean I would probably say in real life "what?" because it was so abrupt and so confusing but maybe laugh too. But if a "normal" person would really laugh at this, then I guess I have appropriate responses to some things even though they don't match my thinking.

I didn't understand that and never realized that I didn't understand that. It really means that?

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I find that offensive. Why would you laugh if someone says their mother has a mental illness? I guess that just shows that NT people think mentally ill people are funny and want to make fun of them (at least this one does). How do they know you are "pulling their leg"? There are people that have mothers in mental hospitals.

Read all the books on being "normal"? I don't know how to act normal like they seem to think all Asperger's people do and I'd probably have nothing to say in response to that. If I knew them well enough I might ask what she has.

From some of the posts there you would think they were the crazy ones with all the delusions and paranoia they have about their spouse and their intentions and the way they act. They seem to think it's all malicious and planned and done on purpose. If they could easily help it and just act normal all the time then they probably don't have AS.

Sometimes people laugh for no reason. it doesn't mean they are laughing at you or about something you told them. Sometimes it just happens and you found no humor in it but a laugh came out of you anyway. That is what happens to me anyway and people act like I do it on purpose.

I didn't know that either. I mean, that is a dumb joke.

That site is horrible. Makes me wonder what my husband thinks of me. I know I am a pain, but so is my husband so it equals out right?

You keep referencing these absurdities but the search function turns none of them up.