What do you not understand about the neurotypical world?

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When I complain about something mildly, and other people act like I want the complete opposite. For example, if I was complaining about the cold weather in winter, people say, ''well, you can't expect it to be boiling hot in winter, can you?'' and I'm like, ''no, I just wish it was a little bit less colder than what it is.'' Or when I get upset if people don't speak to me but speak to the person I'm with like my mum (if they don't know my mum), she is always like, ''they were just saying hello to both of us, they don't go 'hello, hello', do they?'' and I say, ''no but they could at least make eye contact with both of us rather than just one and make the other one feel invisible'' then my mum goes, ''well they can't look at me then look at you...'' and I'm like, ''oh, it's not what I want them to do. It'd be more friendlier if they scanned their eyes across so their hello is aimed at both of us, not just at you, sort of thing'', then when I'm trying to explain that, my mum interrupts, ''can we not walk along bickering please?!'' and then I feel really frustrated if I can't get my point across.
Why can't NTs just get this in the first place?

Well, I know why - it's because I worry over such silly things what they wouldn't worry about, so they don't quite know what I want.

I don't understand why everybody has to rush rush rush, go go go. It makes me nervous by how fast we have to do things. I hate being late, I'm hardly ever late for anything. I can't see why people can't just try to relax and slow down though, I can't function when everybody is running everywhere with people full of anxiety. I also hate last minute plans...I literally panic.

I don't know....usually it's the opposite with me. Everyone else is taking their time and relaxed while there's me rushing around, anxiously. And when I say goodbye, it doesn't take so long with me as it does with some people. When I know it's time for me to go, I wait 'til the last conversation had finished then I say, ''look at the time, I'll better get going now'', and I get up straight away and put on my coat and shoes, and I have the last quick small talk at the door then say goodbye a couple of times then go. I get agitated when some people say, ''right, I'll better go now'' but still don't get up for another half hour, then take ages saying goodbye at the door.

I must admit I do rush a lot but that's because society has led me to do it and that doesn't mean I like doing it.

I also don't understand why people have the cheek to criticise me when they ought to take a look at themselves first.
For example, I keep my handbag close to me, across me, all zipped up so nobody could really get into it if they tried. My friend carries an open bag (with no zips) and just shoves a black handbag into it and carries it around, and, really, it's so easy to see and to grab that anybody could come along and grab her handbag out of the open bag and run off with it without her even knowing, and she carries so much money about with her. And we live in an area where bag-snatching is VERY common. And yet she has the cheek to get on to me, when I've got the best idea of how to carry my stuff around while her idea worries me. All she needs to do is get rid of the open bag and just use her handbag to put over her shoulder or across her like I do, and she will be at less risk of having her bag snatched.

I don't understand why it's so wrong to do things alone.

I like to go to shows or out to eat but often I can't find someone to go with, so I go by myself. No big deal, right? But when I'm there, it seems like everyone else is wondering, "What's wrong with her that she's here alone? Is she a hooker? Is she weird? Is something wrong with her?"

I love this one. I have been told countless times that I am a very negative and bitter person when in reality I just call them as I see them. When I tell people that most people are moral cowards, most of my brilliant ideas were stolen from me over the years without credit, I was mercilessly abused and bullied and most women on dating sites are shallow and superficial it's not because I'm being negative but that's been my honest experience whether you agree with me or not. Wish it wasn't but I can't change my perception of reality.

I'm also quick to point out positive things like my wonderful neighbours, great service I get and respect my boss gives me and how fortunate I am to play the sport I love but for some reason nobody complains I'm too cheerful. Bottom line is I'm a realist. I'm someone is good or bad I call it as I see it but apparently this is a bad thing to most people.

I don't get how they sort of pile on top of one another,one of my miserable childhood memories is being on the school bus three to a seat and being SO miserable.I just hated the feel of another person being pushed up against me.Especially during hot weather when everyone is sticky and smelly.I just don't get the hug thing either,why do people you don't know come bearing down on you expecting you to enjoy close physical contact.I want to swat them away.Then they take it personal if you don't hug.The whole chit chat thing I don't get either.A person once called me to tell me she had just finished her laundry and I wondered why the hell would you call someone to tell them that.I've stopped trying to figure most of it out,it makes me tired and frankly my dear,I just don't give a dam.