Autism and Sexuality: Are They Related?

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True dat.

For me, I just have a lack of sexual attraction to people. I guess I'm more of a personality girl, I'm just extremely picky about guys.

I can't really respond fully to this poll. Typically, I'd select 'heterosexual', because I'm female and am attracted to males. However, I see that you included options like 'transgender', so perhaps you're looking for differences in gender, also?

I'm bi-gendered, in that I sometimes feel female and sometimes feel male. No matter how I'm feeling, though, I am attracted to men. It's just that, when I'm feeling male, I am attracted to GAY men, and when I'm feeling female, I'm attracted to STRAIGHT men.

I present at all times as female, but wish that I could wear male clothes sometimes, as I did growing up. The issue is, though, that when people see a woman in men's clothes, they assume she is a lesbian, and that is far, far from the case with me.

Ah. Gender-identity confusion can happen to anybody. While I always feel like a female (and proud to be so!), I know a couple people who feel they were born with the wrong gentalia. The poor dears get all the wrong tar-brushes. They're called all sorts of things, not limited to various derogrative terms for Homosexual.

I mostly feel female with no gender-preferences, but would rrather be in a romantic relation with a man rather than a woman. Asexual-Heteroromantic. I have no interest in my (non-existant!) boyfriend waving his penis around. They honestly frighten me. Quite badly, in fact.

I think they're two separate characteristics, and sexuality can go any direction in NTs or in Autistics. What I will say, is that high-functioning and Asperger's people, tend to APPEAR to others as Gay, when we're not in all cases. About 80% of people I met from my early teens to now, believe I was or am Gay, and I happen to be straight. Our mannerisms seem to be similar to Gay traits; a different walk with different hand movements, and the perceived aversion to confrontations or fights, and the lack of dating skills in many or even most cases. I will also say that no Gay man has ever thought I was Gay... It's only straight NT men who think that

Charles

Not to sound rude, but find it amusing when it was only the straight men who thought you were gay. The gay men knew you were straight. Makes me wonder, does that make them more understanding?

I am peoplesexual. If Rabbit was a hermaphrodite that spent most of their life being "female" until now it wouldn't make a difference.

Edits: Also, I have been all sorts of things growing up and just picking one is pointless, so that's why I stick with peoplesexual even if I am in a straight relationship now.

Another thing, about the question on the thread, I think it seems a lot of auties have weird orientations because people with unusual orientations (gay, bi etc) are more likely to post about it. Just your run of the mill straight guy might not be as interesting or unusual for people to read about.

I'm starting to do that more. I got a nice lined 3x men's flannel jacket at K-mart recently on sale and wear that when it's cold. In the summer I usually wear 2x size t-shirts. Last time I was at the mall I saw some nice men's shorts I liked and might try them on and get a pair next time I go. They'll go nice with my hairy legs. They are knee length too. I don't like short shorts. I don't like how a lot of pants they have now for females don't go up to the waist.

I'm thinking that since I won't wear a bathing suit maybe I could get long men's swimming trunks. I've seen guys wearing ones down to their knees. If they can wear that then so can I.

Gender Neutral Asexual is not an option and that's what I'm leaning towards so I couldn't pick one...

I do think most gay people are capable of forming emotional attractions to the opposite sex, I wouldn't call mine romantic though.

For a long time I dated men just because of the emotional attraction and I REALLY liked them. Like best friends for me, I don't relate to women the same way and I really wish I did.

I also feel male but won't call myself trans or bigender, I just don't like having a lot of labels and I don't think what I feel is all that uncommon so I don't care, but again, I really wish I was hetero for this reason.

At the end of the day the sexual attractions are much more fulfilling for me than the emotional ones and I have never been sexually attracted to anyone with a Y chromosome in my life. I did have sex with them, though and I would do it again. I don't see anything wrong with homosexual people experimenting.

My theory is that society has created 'expectations' for both genders and I don't even know why. Gender roles are a terrible thing. For me, as a female, I don't feel I need to wear 'female' clothing just because I'm female. I wear whatever I like. You should wear what you want. Don't care what others think. Wearing 'male' clothes doesn't make you any less female. Same goes for guys. People should wear whatever they like without being told they "look like" the opposite sex. It's ridiculous. Why define a gender by things we do to our appearance?? I'm female, but does that mean I should paint my face with make-up everyday? No. Why do most people think they need to appear a particular way? Usually comes down to "because I'm a girl, not a boy" or "because I'm a boy, not a girl." And that's plain wrong. Clothes in a clothes store are just CLOTHES, and that's it. Take your pick.

I wish there was an answer that read 'don't know' - it would be more appropriate for me. On every official test/exam/form I'll tick Heterosexual and leave it at that.

But personally, I'm so much more favourable to the term 'adventurous' - because I can easily see why I would switch different sexualities for different partners. I wouldn't say I was pansexual as I've never fully explored each sexuality and either enjoyed or repulused by it. However, while I'm naturally heterosexual, in the right situation I could see myself with another guy or transgender if only for the experience. It's strange because I don't know how much this maybe influnced by my aspergers or if it's just my corrupted mind.

I've only ever had feelings for women myself but I can't rule out other possibilties until tested.

I am attracted to a very small group of people. Their genitalia doesn't seem to be a factor in this.
They almost always fit into the GLBT "spectrum", which works out fine for me with the "G's"..... not so much with the "L's".
Fortunately I don;t have much of a sex drive and have issues with touch, so questioning it all doesn't occupy a lot of my time.
Pansexual seems to be the closest, but isn't on the list so couldn't vote.
(Thought about Bi, but it just doesn't work. In common usage it covers too much that I'm not)

I'm not sure about my gender or my sexual orientation. I kind of feel that I'm between genders and between sexual orientations. What I mean is that I feel both like a man and like a woman, but more like a man or a masculine lesbian (butch) (I'm biologically female). I guess I'm pansexual, as the other person's gender isn't really important when I fall in love, it's the personality that I fall for. I have a girlfriend now, but can imagine falling for a guy also, at least on an intellectual level.

I agree with this, my fiance and I are both asexual, its not that we don't feel attraction (aesthetic or intellectual), it's more a lack of sexual attraction and urges or lust.
Sex isn't the only reason to crave a partnership. I identify as Bi-Romantic, and he identifies as Hetero-Romantic

Why should 'feeling like a man' or 'woman' have to have set characteristics? Humans seem to latch onto labels and categories and assign traits to things and that's why so many people are confused and even unhappy with themselves. You don't need to label yourself with a gender ever, or a sexual orientation. All you are is you. And that's the only way we should describe ourselves.