How is your dating/relationship life?

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Single all my life. Never been on a date.

Female, and my relationship history is pretty terrible. I used to think I understood the whole dating/sex thing and couldn't understand why I was having trouble getting a boyfriend or why every guy I've casually dated found some excuse to not date me anymore. Or even why I'm so uncomfortable when a man shows interest in me. I want the male attention on some level, but I hate being flirted with. Doesn't really make sense. It was only after I discovered I have AS why. I was basically copying what I'd seen other people do when they when they liked someone or what they do within a relationship. I don't understand the dating process or the mind games and usually can't tell if someone is flirting with me unless it's obscenely obvious (and then I don't know how to respond or what to do about it). Some days I really want a relationship. Other days I'm so annoyed by people I can't stand the thought of being around someone that often. Most of my friends are married or engaged now, and I've never even been in a serious relationship, but watching what some of them go through within their relationships are reason enough for me not to even bother. Some of them lie and cheat on each other or say hurtful things. I don't get it.

Doesn't exist. Kinda like an 8-headed serpent.

My boyfriend of 2 years has aspergers, he didnt tell me until we met in person after dating online for a whole year. Now we live together for the past 10 months. Well I keep finding out he lies, he lies about talking to exes and other women Ive caught him sexting/flirting. I dont think he would cheat physically which leads me to believe he has more than aspergers. maybe a pathological liar or narcissistic disorder. I know he has low self esteem and craves praise from others especially women. All his relationships fail, this one is barely holding on as I struggle to understand him. He also lies to friends telling them he works 60 to 80 hrs a week when in reality im lucky if he puts in 20 a week. Anyone else have these added issues with a loved one or yourselves? and btw, im about fed up. no I am fed up. I wasnt given the choice to decide if this kind of relationship was what I wanted to deal with. Advice, if you want to date an NT please disclose your Aspergers and give them a choice.

oh yeah and the obsessive gaming has just about ended us as well nt's need connection with their partner, I heard the gaming is common

I'm a woman and actualy very happy being single, but society keeps trying to tell me I should not be. Maybe it is autism related or maybe it isn't, I just don't have the desire for casual friendships, let alone a romantic relationship. "Romance" just seems like a euphemism for getting into each others' pants. I wouldn't be happy in a celibate relationship either. Being around other people just makes me feel like I am being suffocated; no matter how loving or caring that person seems to be. I don't even know if I would even be able to love someone back. Sometimes I wonder if I am even capable of loving other people. I love my bearded dragon like a sister, but my actual human siblings I could really care less about. How could I love a husband if I can't even feel love for my own family?