"Others have it worse than you do"

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We had a pretty good one, here, in France, coming from Norway but now, as she was not elected for President, she's gone abroad, far far away (in Afghanistan!). I was quite amazed when I read the news this morning.

Actually, "Others have it worse..." is NTese for "I don't give a damn about your problems"; they are not strictly asking you to consider all the world's problems.

I personally have been asked to "stop whining" countless of time despite the fact I'm absolutely not, which caused me to stop asking for help very early in my life; because for some reason, any beg for help no matter how legitimate, falls on deaf ears as far as I'm concerned. "Others have it worse", I heard it tons of time. It's the polite version of "stop whining, I don't care".

Exemple: I recently had, and still have, chest pains and numb left arm (which I understood should have been treated with urgency, normally, being the symptoms of a heart attack). I told my mother and she acted unconcerned and irritated like "would you stop complaining" or "not my fault".
I went to the doctor (by myself, rare, bcz I was really scared) and i've been received with a shrug. He told me that "it's maybe nothing" without any test.

In short, I couldn't communicate the urgency of the situation, and I passed for an hypocondriac, or someone who complain for nothing. Story of my life.

So far I still don't know if I had an heart attack or not, and I still have numb arm/chest pain after effort occasionally.

I wonder if an apathetic surrounding is typical for aspies, who consequently stopped bothering very early and withdrew from society.

Hmmmm........I don't readily share my anxieties and pain at all, so how did I get that way? Looking back, I was like that from quite an early age. I can remember receiving comfort for cuts and bruises, but I also recall not much later I was avoiding my parents' attention for similar accidents, feeling that they would be clumsy and make it hurt more. Could have been the experience of a well-intended mistake or two, and Mum was quite harsh and unempathic about what she thought was only a bit of pain, but my son showed the same tendency to clutch minor injuries to himself a couple of times, and I'd always been a softie with him and had never hurt him physically, because I didn't want to repeat Mum's mistake. I didn't withdraw from society either, particularly in my teens and twenties, although that one aspect of sharing my fears and sorrows has always been absent. I guess nobody around me had done that. Mum and Dad didn't lean on each other that way.

I'd just answer, 'highly unlikely.'
Do they have to medicate and wear sunglasses, listen to music, just to go outside?
How are these people who apparently have it worse than me in a conversation?
Do they have hormone imbalance? Hypoglycaemia? Epilepsy? Chronic migraines?

If so, then they haven't got it worse than me, they have it as bad as me.

This thread topic is of much interest to me.

I too often think about how others have it worse then me. And as the OP said it just makes me go into a vicious cycle of realising how f****d up this world actually is. I don't get these people who are just happy all the time. I think that these people are perhaps a little bit stupid. They are literally blissfully ignorant. And I can't understand how one can be like that.

Tbh I think that life isn't that great at all. There's too much pain in this world for everyone involved. It seems to me like it's some kind of sick joke. We are given life and our only certainty is death.

I was once told that one of my disabilities should only affect my confidence. I would love it if that was my only problem. What it's meant is that I have permanent neck trouble and will never hold a driving licence.

Suggested hindsight reply:
"no more than you're affecting it with your dismissive claptrap"

I do remember suggesting they look it up. (no pun intended)