Dillogic wrote:
Stilted
Few, if any clues to the underlying subtle handicap upon first meeting. The features of AS are particularly frequent. Early histories vary. Normal range of ability with some peaks of performance. Polite and conventional. Manage well at work. Sometimes pompous and long-winded style of speech. Problems arise in family relationships, where spontaneity and empathy are required. Poor judgement as to the relative importance of different demands on their time. Characteristically pursue interests to the exclusion of everything and everyone else. May have temper tantrums or aggression if routine broken at home, but are polite at work. Diagnosis very often missed. Most attend mainstream schools. Independence achieved in most cases. This group shades into the eccentric end of normality.
I am definitely "stilted" most people have no clue I have it. I pretty much could answer yes to every aspect of this style. I missed a correct diagnosis until I was 15. I was actually diagnosed with ADD before my AS diagnosis. I can be eccentric. But most of my interests are extremely normal just more intense than an NT. I never had a fascination with train schedules or any similar odd interest. I also have a few odd "stimming" behaviors and I mean very odd. Not the typical rocking or hand flapping really. For some reason yawning is something I do for a stimming behavior really odd I know. It allows me to relax and I get upset if I can't do it. I honestly think it is the dang anti-depressants which cause me to have excessive yawning.
Some people actually think I am extremely aggressive and equate my meltdowns with rage. I am extremely non-conforming and have difficulty following rules or being told what to do. I am extremely defiant at times. And non-passive. Some would say I can be arrogant and long-winded as well. Now the opposite can occur when around unfamiliar people. But it is only temporary until I get to know someone. Then it seems I get a sense of boldness common to NTs but the oddness occurs when I speak out of turn and seem to not understand that certain things should not be said. But once I learn what these are I tend to exert self-control over them and do better.
Honestly I have experienced a few of the issues for the other types throughout the years. And I have displayed aggression outside of my home but it is rare but seems to be happening a little more often when not at home. I worked at a job for four years and only had 4 incidents involving aggression.
I have never had any of the things listed for Aloof though. Basically I am mostly Stilted with a little bit of passive and active-but-odd and generally it just depends on the day or where I am and stressors.
21 Jun 2013, 7:15 pm
