cuddle limits at school

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i hate hug boundaries

I know what you mean. But still do your best to respect them. That is actually really important. And there are people that you can hug freely like your mum maybe or people in your family. And you can certainly get all the hugs you ever want from Pooh Bear.

I come from a culture where hugging is very uncommon. I have never hugged my family members although I'm very close to them. It's a matter of conditioning to a certain degree. I only feel strange and uncomfortable when I'm hugged. I believe that people can get used to not hugging if they try. It's just my view.

That's ridiculous. If you'd acted on it and been physical with them or got into a relationship, sure, but the fact they said it doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. They can't help their feelings.

I would have quit working for that camp.

Soooo many more hugs than usual on Christmas, so I just thought I'd share here. :p

A few hugs from my closest friend when I swung by Christmas morning with presents, one when we greeted, a couple more before I left. Plus one from his brother, another from his sister, annnnnd one from his dad. His mom missed out :p as I'm told I "give the best hugs," and this is coming from the huggiest person I know - so the compliment means a lot to me.

There were also hugs w/ aunts and cousins later in the evening as people were leaving my aunt's after Christmas dinner, which is pretty normal.

Otherwise hugs aren't allll that frequent in my life. well, they are with my closet friend and with my God kids, but it's not like I hug my parents or siblings regularly. Although, there have been a lot more hugs in my life the last few years than ever before - especially due to my very huggy closest friend, as well as his coworkers at one of his jobs where it's kinda common that they greet me and other regular customers/friends with hugs. Because of him/them I've become more open to hugging others and had my aunt compliment my hug last winter.. she was just all like "oooh, that was nice," as she was surprised at how good of a hug she got from me. what can I say? I'm guilty as charged, I do give the best hugs. :p

My twin brother, on the other hand, doesn't really care for hugging people and never has. He seems so uncomfortable, rigid, and awkward doing it. He pretty much has to force himself to do it when he has to kind of thing.

so anyone who likes cuddles as well.

But of course.. but as others have pointed out here in this thread, cuddles are typically defined as something much more private and intimate than hugs, so chances are people aren't going to really talk about them in very much detail - if at all. It's really rather a lot more personal than a hug ever is.

If I say cuddle it man's hug.
Its just how I use words.

Ok.

But you need to learn that words have definitions that have a common meaning to all people.. so if you use the wrong word for something, people aren't going to understand what you're trying to communicate OR you're going to communicate something entirely different from what you intended to say. It's better that you get in the habit of using the correct words for things so that others aren't confused by what you say or write.

Do you like pooh bears?

I don't think I have ever cuddled anybody. I only want to hug few people. People get so clingy it's unbearable, although if I was drunk it would be an entirely different story.

The extroverted life isn't for me.

They're ok. I don't dislike them, but at 31 years old I've outgrown them. I like that I can give them to my God kids & they enjoy stuffed animals. I don't have any stuffed animals of my own anymore. But I'll admit that before I go to sleep and when I wake up I grab my favourite pillow & give it a good squeeze and think about hugging someone that I love very much. Usually it's the same person, but sometimes it's others. So, I still hug a stuffed something - it's just that it's a pillow instead of a cute toy.

You should try to hug one it would make you happy

I prefer to hug real people, that makes me happy. But I'm not against hugging a stuffed animal if the appropriate opportunity came along. I can see this happening if I am visiting one of my God kids and they're playing with their toys and want me to hug their stuffed animal goodnight or something.

Do you have hypersentivty?