Anyone else never been clubbing before?

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Definitely...well I've always thought it is ridiculous when people suggest going out to meet someone new in a bar! About the last place on earth I'd want to do that, lol.

i mean, sure i will meet new people there, in the literal sense of the word "meeting". sure, they may even take a liking to me if i follow certain etiquette rules and present myself in a certain way. but that is not the frickin point, stop telling me to go find people in annoying places and annoying situations, goddammit! right?

Yep. Some time ago I read a post (or perhaps an entire thread) on WP berating the advice "be yourself," on account of it seeming so meaningless at first glance. But it's actually very meaningful here, I think.

I went clubbing once; it was fun, but I don't think I enjoyed it for the reasons everyone else seemed to. It was a gay bar in my area, and I went with a couple friends. That was a fun part, doing something "normal" with them. I also enjoyed watching everyone else dance, and the couple making out against the wall. Being queer, I feel like we don't really have a place in society to feel free enough to do these things with our partners. It was a room full of uninhibited, comfortable, self-expression. That's why I liked it; not for the drinking, or the dancing, though I did a little of both. Not my cup of tea for either.

That being said. It was UNCOMFORTABLY hot and there were way too many people crammed into one room.

here or anywhere. after food and shelter, it's the number one concern in my life

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i think people confuse "being yourself" with "acting naturally". it's true, there are certain things that we just can't do naturally, and we need to do those things in a contrived way. that's part of life. but that has to be confined to its role as the necessary evil that it is. it's something you do, not something you are. if it overtakes your life, then you're doomed to insanity and unhappiness