Do you feel like the odd one out on Wrong Planet?

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Hi Bethanny, I DO want to know about your life. You have aroused my curiosity. I was nonverbal until age 5---an autistic person under the old definition of autistic. I'm relatively "okay" now.

Dear One: how could we give you some intellectual stimulation? I know I can't--because I'm not an engineer.

I do understand that frustration. I left the first autistic forum I discovered because everyone was so much higher functioning than I. Compared to that forum, WP is a veritable haven of diversity. It's certainly lonely to struggle more than the general population and then come into a sequestered place reserved for like-minded people, only to find that you're still one of the outliers. At least there are many figures to look up to here. Nothing gives me greater pleasure than seeing someone with similar issues finding their niche in life and thriving. Independence still seems like a far-off thing to me, but WP has helped me come to grips with my situation and understand what I need to do to move forward in life. It's been invaluable.

These days, I'm a lot more interested in Sociobiology than mechanical engineering. I was trying to get something going over on the Men's thread, but got no resonance.

Not too many people go to the Men's Thread.

You'll do better with some of the people on PPR. You have some jerks there, though, who just want to create an argument.

And even in General Autism Discussion. There's lots of "sociobiology" being discussed there. After all, autism is biological---and it affects people socially.

Hey Goldilocks:

There are more "people of color" here than you think.

I'm a white guy who is married to a black person from Trinidad.

Kraftie, I did not know that! You rock! As does your wife!

I just wish she would understand me better.

She's one of those people who thinks I just "make excuses," and thinks I should make an attempt to be social.

i feel a bit wrong on being here as i don't have a diagnosis and i just found joined the forum because a friend [who his psychologist was investigating where he had or no aspergers] told me that he felt i could have it, he insisted that i seek psychological help because i struggle with lots of things, and actually this is something i heard all my life but never got it because my parents were against it. also, once long ago, i did an aspie quiz on internet and got a very high result, but i know isn't a reliable source. anyway, i found the forum searching about aspergers anyway and i liked it and decided to join. i hope you don't mind it.

Anybody who has a positive view of autism is welcome here.

Alex is not out there asking for "proof" that one is autistic.

We have parents of autistic people, children of autistic people, friends of autistic people---you name it.

And we have many people who are "self-diagnosed" and are not officlally diagnosed.

anyway, sometimes i wanted to have some diagnosis because it would somehow make me feel like i belong to something or at least make me able to understand myself, i'm not sure what it is but i'm sure there is something really wrong with me :/ i just can't find professional help

That can be painful. Been there...

People in the West Indies tend to be communal people, rather than people who value individuality.

She's fine in other ways; but she's always trying to browbeat me because she feels I lack "focus."

She always says, "Can't you get your head out of that tablet for even a moment?"

Yep, that's the one! Couldn't help but watch it and be freaked out at the same time! That was very clever how you made it.

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My life is much more of a mess than you would read about typically on WP. It's like a spiders web of troubles. I would even be a bit embarrassed to admit all of it but I did do a rant months back ''spilling some tea'' out on things. But unfortunately since then, it's gotten so much worse.

I am now seeing a therapist because obviously telling people stuff on forums (venting) isn't quite enough. But I think I'm overwhelming the poor woman as I have had to recount both my childhood, teen years and everything that's been going on as an adult and it's pretty unusually heavy stuff.

If you feel up to it, I wouldn’t mind “hearing” about it.

I would commiserate, definitely. And if this would be a catharsis for you, I’d be very glad.

”Always the new kid” has pros and cons. Didn’t know I had NVLD until an adult and so if it I didn’t move around every few years growing school and socializing as a kid wouldn’t have been a cake walk.