who here on WP has a sense of purpose in life?

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At the moment, helping a friend who has some serious health issues that have really lessened her quality of life. She helps me, as well, when I'm depressed or need a shoulder. It's gratifying when she tells me I'm the one person in her life who doesn't cause her emotional stress. We've known each other just four years, but it has become the best friendship of my life.

Being in a romantic relationship gives me my sense of purpose. I'm dedicated to being there & taking care of my girlfriend as well as I can & I felt that way about both my exes too. I felt lost before I got my 1st girlfriend & when I was single after her.

There was something I felt I really wanted, dreamed of. I don't know if that could count for as a 'sense' of purpose. Times I've had it, or fleeting chances hat I might have it I have felt that I had direction. But as I said fleeting, not reliable and at this point not that probable.

My school years and some not have been about survival. Just getting another day done.

Then I realized I already had something. It may seem strange, but it was a horse for me. She'd been my friend, teacher, partner, student, my passion and love. I realized I had and felt purpose with her, because of her and so every time I've hit the ground, I've gotten back up because I couldn't be what I needed to be for her if I stayed down.

If I was allowed to have a purpose, it would have been PhD maybe in Physics. I still react strongly to that. I had no trouble in school but was forbidden by my father to go past high school. He didn't want his kids to do high school, because we would become superior to him.

But my time has all been taken by saving myself from attacks, measuring up to demands, hiding PTSD, learning eye-contact, and being so good at my job that they let me stay for a few years. I got fired a lot, which was a huge disgrace to the entire family, who disapprove of me anyway.

I was always chased, whether by other children or co-workers following me. I got mobbed at work, all of it. And I worked so hard on office hygiene! but didn't succeed. I was/am terrified of taking a shower but after an official complaint, I had to take a shower, rapidly apply minimum makeup, leave hair wet, fling on a dress picked and washed the night before, grab purse and run like hell to work - 15 min. routine, otherwise I can't go (agoraphobia).

Where in all of this could a purpose survive?

I do not know...
Many aspirations just felt either meaningless or overwhelming to me. I don't see myself going something grand, nor something insignificant.

The closest thing I got would be my own self appointed (although expected) duty to take care of my mom when the day comes.

Beyond from that? I do not know. Maybe I'd just keep watching out for it, keep learning and going as I wait for it...
Maybe if I decided to stop fighting it all and figured how to get rid what holds me back -- spiritually speaking. I somewhat forgot (again and again) how I had done this.

If there isn't and I'm still fighting so to speak, then I'm better off waiting for my own death. No shortcuts of course -- only a long, long wait, struggle or no struggle. Fulfillments in any form are just distractions.
The true way for me to 'hold on' if I seriously am at rock bottom, and do think and feel that I have no real sense of purpose at all.

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My sense of purpose is to love everybody and eat chocolate ice cream.

I don't have any purpose in life.

There is no purpose because there is no endgame. There is nothing proving nor disproving the idea of afterlife but based on our conceptualization of those subjects, there is probably no form of afterlife. We exist, spontaneously through a wide range of biochemical reactions occuring in a stable environment, and eventually we die due to a variety of reasons.

As much as I want to believe in a purpose, I can't. There is no purpose for the Sun, the black hole thousands of LY's away from here nor is there a purpose of the entire galaxy. I think everything simply exists. We don't give a rock a purpose, why would a Human have one?

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Now, if you meant the subjective interpretation of purpose...

My purpose in that case is to simply understand how the world works and live my life the way I want as long as no one gets harmed or otherwise affected (negatively) by my decisions. That is difficult considering I'm a dense autist with limited understanding of what others might feel.

Life can seem quite boring for me so I derive a sense of self fullfillment by setting important short term goals and then working toward those goals. I focus on functioning on a healthy level as much as i can.

i've never minded boredom. it beats terror any day of the week.