I have some questions for the OP
dorkseid wrote:
When I suffered an emotional breakdown following two and a half years of psychological abuse at the hands of my ex-fiancé, nearly everybody from the Libral Arts college I attended decided that since I'm the man in the situation that by default I must be the bad guy and treated me accordingly.
I don't always go to college, but when I do most people there have no idea who I am. -even fewer know what my relationship status is. I suspect either: A.) not as many people held this opinion of you as you may think, or B.) what you are describing is the result of you actively discussing your break-up in conversation with lots of people at your university. In the case of the former, I totally get that feeling of worrying what others think of you, as a fellow anxious person, but hopefully it's not as bad as it seems. In the case of the latter, I wonder if these opinions were more reactionary to escape an uncomfortable situation than a true reflection of their world view or even of their view of you.
dorkseid wrote:
And though these events took place in 2009, I was still being dogpiled and bullied over it by a bunch of feminists on FB as recently as 2017.
How do people bully you on facebook for 8 years? Can't you just unfriend or block them? Also, what did this bullying look like? Were these people posting new things on your timeline or messaging you out of the blue... or are you talking about, perhaps, people's responses to posts (like the the original one made here) blaming your breakup experience on feminism and politics? If the latter, have you considered that people might be responding negatively to your views on politics and feminism, not your actual personal story and/or breakup? It's okay to break things down. You don't have to mash up every stressful thing in your life into one unified theory of everything.
Your breakup sounds terrible, and I'm sorry that happened to you. -but what you are describing doesn't really sound like some huge feminist conspiracy against you (after all, in any proper conspiracy there should be some kind of a goal or gain among the conspirators, and I can't seem to fathom it in this case). It sounds more to me like your ex is kind-of manipulative, and that her friends (I believe they are called "flying monkeys" in some psychology circles) believe her stories more than they believe yours.
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