well when one of the girls who gave me the business for saying that thing about French hotel room service operators in French class, I didn't feel anything during the apology as I didn't feel anything during the hassling but I understand that she was doing it for herself and she has the right to do that. As long as they don't expect anything from me like exoneration but they want to say it so they can move on, I think we aspies are supposed to be mature and tolerant (as many NTs have tolerated us) and just let them apologize. We don't have to believe them and certainly their apology is not their alibi in the event of further harassment.
Albert Hsu did a terrible thing by trying to get his ex adulteress raped and he made it official by saying he is sorry. I think it was just something he had to do. And it may not be about genuine/sincere remorse but it is acknowledging that we live in a civilization and that we share space with one another.
HSU SAYS SORRY LINK
If someone apologizes, it makes the wrongdoing official but it is very important and valuable if it is the wrongdoer who makes that acknowledgment. He doesn't have to mean it. And yeah, maybe he is saying it so he can continue his lucrative hedge fund career but the intrinsic value of the acknowledgment remains the same. Some people make terrible apologies that are insulting and don't let the issue rest in peace. But some people do try to make the apology as clean and well done as possible even if they harbor ill will towards the person they have wronged. Still that apology without dirt on it is the one that should be valued.
12 Oct 2007, 12:45 pm
