Do you talk like you post?

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I normally speak the way I type. Sometimes I use a little different vocabulary due to my bad spelling.

I try NOT to speak as I write. People get annoyed with me when I do this because it is frequently over their heads or overly formal. I am very particular about correct grammar and punctuation usage, even in conversation so speaking out loud for me can get to be a hassle. Further, I tend to stutter or talk a lot, very fast, when I am upset, nervous, or excited.

I am more articulate in my posts than in real life. You can delete words, rephrase things and reread things when you're posting. I usually don't do that here. But in real life, I'm still pretty articulate (compared with most people). I sometimes get a little nervous when I speak, but it's usually not too bad and not very noticeable. I don't stutter and I generally speak pretty well, if a bit formally.

I am much more articulate in my posts than in vocal speech. I've gotten much, much better at it with a few years of practice, but there are still a number of pitfalls. Sometimes my brain outruns my mouth and what comes out when I try to speak is pretty much just babbling. Sometimes I just lose track of what I'm talking about in the middle of a sentence.

I've found that I can't talk to people the way I write because in speech, the formal tone and such is interpreted as being condescending or hoity-toity.

In general, if there's a point that I really want to make sure gets across, I will use some form of typed media.

I'm a much better typer. When I talk, I tend to be quiet and don't say much.

That is, unless it's an area of interest. Those times, I can't shut up.

I wish I could articulate vocally the thoughts I seem so adept at putting down in type. I can't really speak easily/rationally about things that aren't "special interests" or "work specific". The moment the conversation veers into social/emotional/personal issues I just clamp down and become completely inarticulate. In social situations, my mind totally blanks and often I can barely respond (and even then, it's generally a "pre-programmed" statement, and doesn't reflect what I'm really thinking).

Outside of "real time" conversation I can form a thought, express an idea or feeling, and use words to construct a meaningful statement. I have the luxury of editing myself until I am content that my monologue is clear and meaningful (gesture/pose/non-verbal blindness simply doesn't enter into an expression built entirely in text).

When I've tried to meet people via the net, the most common reaction has been surprise that I am not as verbally articulate in "Real Life" as I am when I write (well, that and the strange assumption that my physical appearance should somehow correspond to my intellectual sophistication, apparently). Oddly (in my perception, at any rate) this has frequently led net-met people to believe that I am somehow lying about who I am --- How could I possibly be so interesting and appealing in my written words, yet so strange and indecipherable in real life? Gah!

Nick

Yes, I do post in the same manner in which I speak. I have always spoken formally. Eventually, I learned how to speak casually like other people, so I do that sometimes too. The variety in my posts reflects the different ways in which I speak. The redundancy in my posts reflects words and phrases I use excessively while speaking.

Ironic Chef- ditto to what you said.

BTW Is that picture of a man a picture of you?