Autism? Do you consider it a curse?

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Good point MemberSix and that's why it's better at all times, if possible, to remain sheltered. It really is too cruel.

Or I should say it can be too cruel. It all depends of course on a person's originating environment - and which they have no control over I might add.

I think it'd be interesting to be NT for a short time. It would be, I think, a lot like having somebody else's memories in your head afterwards. Maybe it would help me to understand them a bit better.

Despite the challenges, I have no desire to experience what it would be like to be an NT. I may be biased but for the most part, they seem incredibly insensitive, cruel, sarcastic, egotistical, macho, abrasive, etc., etc. I'd rather be left behind than compete in that type of environment. It's lonely but I'd rather be lonely than be some of these things. I'm sure there are good things too, but right now I'm not seeing it. I never have and I probably never will.

I don't consider the autism a curse, just the way people treat me because of it a curse.

To me, having AS has its good and bad sides. I hate meltdowns and limitations and I get really frustrated with them sometimes. On the other hand, I'm happy that I can see things from a different perspective, react differently than other people and find solutions they can't see. It's frustrating to not be able to do things that come so easy and natural to other people, but on the other hand it's great to have skills that few other people have.

If given a chance to turn into an NT, I wouldn't take it. I'm ok with being different and having AS. It's who I am, it's my reality. If I didn't have AS anymore I wouldn't be me anymore either. I don't think of it as a curse, but maybe as somewhat a challenge.

Your figures are completely off, for one. And I find it interesting that you defend the NT.

No further comment otherwise.

It seems clear from the responses to "Would you take a one-week NT holiday ?" that Aspies are very partisan ... to the point of regarding the wider NT population as 'the enemy'.
Understandable given the victimisation and bullying that goes on.

But I'm still a BIT surprised that there's SO little interest in experiencing neurotypicality.
I thought Aspies were meant to pride themselves on their intellectuality - and yet here we find so many displaying intellectual incuriosity bordering on stubbornness.

It's just that I've met more than one NT who really wasn't all that bad... They communicate in an awfully roundabout manner; they have interests that frankly bore me; they'll tell lies when they think it's better than telling the truth; they're horrible about gossip and such; but past all the differences, most of them don't seem to be malicious... in fact, with an NT, the biggest danger isn't malice, but simply not knowing, not thinking. Being in the majority seems to make it easier to go through life without thinking about the rest of the people in the world.

I don't mind being called stubborn and malicious doesn't have anything to do with what I was attempting to say. Call me stubborn but I'm really not that curious I guess. It's an interesting idea though I'm sure for some.

Some people don't like being autistic. Some people do.

It's very simple if you accept what people say.

But that is a serious question; who is 'the NT'? It would be as if asking who is 'the autistic person'? So far, I found them all very diverse, sometimes welcoming it, sometimes excluding it. There seems to be no 'the autistic person' at least.

I get along fine with many non-autistic people. I also get along dreadful with many non-autistic people. The 2 perspectives make it hard for me to begin understanding a one-sided view of this neurological group.

I found my (now I know it...) autistic bully also very rude, cruel, ignorant and spiteful.
They figured since they fit the AS profile perfectly, those who had trouble with speech, communication and sensory and thus weren't as super Asperger's were... I don't know what, but not worth to be treated like a person.

Apparently, it's character, not neurology. AS is a neurological condition, too. But not a personal disorder that comes with certain personality traits.

Autistic people can be as sweet as they can be cruel, it's up them as a person (and probably other conditions such as PDs) but not up to their autistic neurology.



About being 'NT' for a day.

I would love to!

I would not though, probably.

I'm very interesting in that perspective, seeing how I am imprisoned in mine (as is everyone in theirs). But the idea of the whole change to it, the change back... I am not sure if my curiosity would manage to win over my issues with changes. Perception would change so drastically with an altered neurological state and I can't function with even a minor change.