Neurotypicals are happier than people with AS

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I'm One Happy Aspie
- as long as I don't leave my laptop.


Hahaha! just kidding! I know I'm happy as I can be because I get satisfied with simple things, "a person of simple pleasures". I find myself happy with things I live and I do every day.

Most people that cannot find happiness is because their self-realization idea, THE thing that will satisfied them, the thing that leads their actions and decisions every day OR is always out of reach OR once they get it seems that is not as satisfiying as they expected, OR that the satisfaction provided has a lot of limitations or conditions OR that they never expected to change in their way towards this self-realization so much that finally this is not what they want or thousands of other reasons.

What they don't understand is that happiness lies in you, your mind, and that the less you need to be happy the happier you are.

I think that Aspies can be happier than NT in every day life because we enjoy a lot some basic things, we need less to be happy... you just walk around feeling absurdly amused and happy just to realize how every tree shape is different, or feeling realized by understanding the logic behind things, enjoying the smells, textures and colours... this is the kind of endless happiness we enjoy secretly every day of our lives if not by remmembering by living it. We are persons of simple pleasures.

I think as well we can be more depressed than NT, as intense as the pleasure we get from AS can be, we have a lot of limitations we have to deal with every day. NT's definetly will never get to feel as stressed, comfused, frustrated or rejected as we. Specially with the social issues.

As for in life, sure TN's don't have to deal with the stress of being socially incompetent, but for them to "be social acepted" is like a weight they carry in their lifes too (if not every day like we Aspies).

Their most common mistake is to confuse "social aceptance" with "self-realisation"="satisfaction"="happiness". So they build their life based on what was told to them to be "socially accepted" or "succesful". Like doing things they don't like because of social presion, working to earn money, to pay a nicer car, to pay a nicer house, to pay 5 "socially succesful" kids, to pay a wife, to pay a big TV, to pay "successful pleople" clothes, and then to go to parties to show it off, to pay a bigger car, to go out spending money with other successful people to do nothing really special, etc. Then the money is gone in things that were never meant to make them happy but just "socially accepted". This can never get to an end or lead to satisfaction, as a fact, the happiest or more successful NT's i've met or heard of, they all had a strategy or view in life with an marked AS tendency combined with some social skills.

We aspies build our lifes based in what we find really interesting and enjoyable, and we satisfy ourselves with our laboral recognition or pursuing our particular interests. Sure we buy big TV's and nice cars but we do it because WE LIKE TO, WE WANTED TO and not because if we don't do it we are going to be jugde as less "successful" person, not self-realised or unhappy. The only thing we are missing is to comunicate acertively with the aim of convince NT's from our "self-realisation"="satisfaction"="happiness" to get not only acepted but aswell to have our person less transgressed by them.

(I don't like thinking that NT's are like sheep or something, but the logic behind is that if you dare to do other things you already don't fit in the clasification, right??)



Don't forget my fellas:

Our (social) ignorance is our happiness.

Are they really happier than us? Personally, I feel my highs are higher and my lows are lower... so there's no definite answer there for me.

Are NT's really happier than those with AS? Isn't this a bit farfetched, to include all NT's and all Aspies into this mix?

personally I think they are happier in a they can do more and meet people but they don't attach to much, except other people whereas AS people (or at least me) I attach myself to objects, things that will not betray or hurt me

I dunno, I've seen some pretty miserable NTs. And it's the sheople that are the most miserable from what I've seen.

Insofar as NTs are happier than Aspies, it's because the world is set up by and for the 99.4% of us who don't have autism. But as with any dominant group, our happiness is both (a) tempered by the facts of life that no dominant group status (weatlh, whiteness, straigthness, maleness, lack of "disability," class, etc.) can save us from, and (b) largely dependent on our rather tentative and arbitrary dominance which, if it ever fell, would cause us to lose our advantages. There is probably nothing inherent in being NT that makes you happier. It's the convenience of our lives created by being surrounded by other NTs that makes a lot of things in our lives easier, which helps us to be a little happier. If only 0.6% of the population *didn't* have autism, we NTs might be the ones who struggle, missing important details and sensory information and being ridiculed for our lack of independence and intense focus. In an ideal equal world where the sensory and cognitive quirks of autism were well compensated by practical technologies and NT traits were not overvalued, neither autistics nor NTs would be less happy on average.