Do people think your ret*d before they get to know you?

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Yes, they do, most of the time.

It has happened to me in the past.

No, just "weird" and "out there". I Usually only get "out there" when I really AM out there, I'd say there's just something weird about me most of the time.

I don't speak that differently, I just speak fast and I jump from topic to topic, not as obnoxiously now that I'm an adult. I do most of the "jumping" in my head and then I verbalize something completely unrelated to whatever the other person is talking about but I don't speak in jumbled, run-on sentences. I'm actually very succinct, just random.

So most people think I'm really smart because they hear me talking about a lot of different things and using big words xD, but still think that I'm weird.

no i can usually pass very well people may think im quirky or eccentric but definitely not ret*d...

I have worked with ret*d adults, the buzz word these days is "Mentally Challenged". They too, often tend to stim, and many people have associated stimming behavior with retardation. There appears to be more folks in this world who are ret*d, than folks who are autistic, or I have certainly encountered more. This, I assume is the reason folks treat you, like you are ret*d, at first.

Most of the times they think Im wierd or they think Im a serious person.

I try to answer every question thats made during classes and so since I know that most of the time Im right, some people have a problem with that, I think that if I know the answer to the question thats been made and nobody else is willing to answer(checked with one of my teachers who complaint about this and after 5 minutes of waiting she realized no one else was willing to answer). That helps getting rid of the "stupid" stigma and makes you become a teachers pet but I dont care much about this kind of stuff.

Has anyone noticed this thread is eight months old and the OP hasn't been here for five of them?

Just wonderin' 'cause it looks like some are answering as if it's new. For the second time...

Just thought I'd mention it. Not that it really matters.

When I speak, my choice of topics and vocabulary make people think I'm quite intelligent, but my actions and demeanor and awkwardness in "small talk" make people think I'm really spacey or ditzy. I have had many "you're on your own little planet, aren't you" type comments, or hello, are you there?

no, just odd and eccentric - and as they get to 'know' me they realize that I am just as odd (if not more) than they thought.

Peoples first impression of me is that I'm a cynical b***h. I've even had some people say they thought I might be a serial killer or something to that effect.

I have been called that nasty "R" to my face and by customers and others and they dont even try to get to know me. People can be so narrow minded.

I've met a couple asperger folks who looked and sounded ret*d, but their IQ's were way above average. It's quite fascinating actually.

My problem is the opposite way round. People don't realise that I am "ret*d"*, socially and emotionally, in the French sense "etre en ret*d", late, i.e. a development delay.

People tend not to realise I'm Aspie, but they perhaps realise something's a little 'off', like I can launch into monologues (although I don't talk in monotone, I've worked in television and radio journalism and I've had voice training in reading news scripts) and persevere and obsess about stuff, and I'm quite blunt and outspoken, and a former boss called me "rude, abrupt and abrasive".

I'm fairly good at 'pretending to be normal' by now, after all, I've had 40 years of practice. They judge me as having some kind of character flaws, or think I'm a bit eccentric, rather than realise I'm really, y'know, different.

I get "mildly ret*d" quite a bit. Between the autism-spectrum stuff and the Crouzon deformities, people used to assume I have Down Syndrome. I don't hear that much anymore, but people who haven't had a conversation with me still often assume I'm cognitively impaired in ways that I'm not.


Cheers,

TH