Women who have aspergers: A non-issue for them

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But having a partner isn't everything. I am sorry, but you must have a job, friends, family... so then who cares if you're single? Maybe I am saying all this because I don't believe in relationships at all. At least not emotional relationships. But maybe I have a point. Try focussing on the good things in life.

The idea that female Aspies have it easy because they are more likely to have relationships relies on the assumption that love and marriage is the answer to all life's problems. This is not the case.

The reality is that relationships only bring more problems into your life.

This is a bunch of BS. I'm sorry. I'm dealing with the breakdown of a 25+ year marriage caused my my husband's intolerance of my AS traits, so I don't want to hear how good AS women have it.

What a heap of hooey.

~Kate

This is why men with AS have it easy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEVU-YLpM8A

As has been said several times, maybe it's your attitude.
Truth hurts?

Hi there. I am a female and I believe I may have Asperger's. I am single and not so good looking, so often times I feel like giving up as well. I may not know you, but I have faith that you will find someone special. It might not happen soon, or even in a few years, but I believe that once that great person comes along, all of those lonely years will be worth it. All of this probably sounds like a bunch of optimistic BS, but I truly believe you should hang in there because you never know what's in store for you unless you wait it out and see.

This is totally my story, except i'm still 29. I also don't even try anymore, i have got so much pain from females that i've grown to hate them all and spend my time thinking of them humiliating me and thinking of how superior they are. Some girls like me physically but that's it, it takes them just a greeting to notice i'm not normal.

Aspie girls get partners easier because they need it more than us males. They need it more, so they fight more. Being male i can go anywhere i want and have fun alone, i can have a fulfilling life without people, i can devote my life to science, make huge discoveries and be happier than any N.T.

I am in shape and i can fully confirm that looks are completely irrelevant to girls, you can be the most handsome man in the planet and girls will still avoid you if you have no social skills.

I strongly disagree about men liking aspie girls more.

I do know something nobody else seems to know: you are not the "caring guy" you think you are. When girls get away from you, they know what they are doing, you would cause them a lot of pain if they stayed. And what's worse is that you wouldn't even notice it, you would say / do horrible things, she would be hurt and you would carry on like nothing happened. All those males that you call "jerks" actually make their women happy in many ways you don't understand.

Personally, i am gonna try to move overseas and be an alpha male from the start, i have reasons to believe things will be easier, better.

I wish i could say a girl tolerated me for even an hour. I'm sure it would be the best hour of my life if could know what it's like to be less than a foot away from a woman. You had 25 years. You sound to me like a millionaire complaining because he lost a coin.

Yeah.... right.... explain to me why aren't them all breaking up then. They are getting something good or they wouldn't be there. I know relationships are overrated by people who don't have them, but to say that they only bring problems is a lie.

Women "need it more"? WTF?

25 years of someone wanting you to change something you can't change and berating you for it? You really want THAT?

I'd rather be a cat lady.

~Kate

It's a simple truth that the more you have in life, the more you have to contend with; the price of companionship is that you have to share everything, you have to compromise your life and take the other person's needs into consideration. In most cases, the balance is very uneven; it's usually one person doing all the giving and the other person doing all the taking.

Personally, I couldn't live with either extreme. I don't want to be a bully and I don't want to be a doormat. This is why I choose to remain single.

What brings you to that conclusion? It's the stupidest thing i've ever heard. Go and educate yourself on the matter. I am happy and fulfilled with no partner and prefer it that way. And yes, I am an aspie female.

You have the sh*ttiest attitude I've heard.



You lasted 30 seconds with me.

Seconded. I don't "need" a guy. Yes, I would like to have a relationship at some point, but I am quite happy alone right now, thank you very much. And I too can go anywhere I want alone and have a good time- the movies, restaurants, an amusement park, whatever. Unless he means that he has fewer safety concerns going some places alone as a man rather than as a woman. I will concede that point, but I doubt that is what he meant.

Anyway, again...

...if you find yourself hating women because the women you approach reject you.

Then you need to. Need to. Examine your own attitudes towards women, in particular the attitude that you are entitled to a woman and that their rejection of you is wrong and hateworthy on their part because they ought to do otherwise.

Women are allowed to choose whoever we do and don't want to go out with.

The first boy I ever rejected, took it personally, and took to yelling loudly all over the school making up false reasons I rejected him, because he thought he deserved to have me. Even though I had no interest in boys.

And some men never grow out of that. They believe they deserve women and that if women keep rejecting them, then obviously women have the problem. Because women shouldn't have any agency, they should just exist to please men.

And if you hate all women because some women have rejected you then somewhere in you is some variant on that attitude. Because if you really respected women as human beings then you would understand that every single woman has a total right to choose who she wants to be involved with. And that being a misogynist will just repel self-respecting women even more strongly than before, so it's not even in your best interests to hate us.

Couple things to read:

Jaded Men Who Hate Women
Not So Nice Guys

You're generalizing. To be honest, I haven't been able to sustain a relationship that I found in any way meaningful because of both my inability to connect and the general lack of understanding from the other person. I'm not saying relationships are everything, but there are things that can clearly be more fulfilling than marriage/dating/ect. -- at leas this is my experience.



I feel like you're talking about NT girls NOT aspie girls at all. I don't appreciate the generalization and complete separation which you have made between men and women who have aspergers. Yes, some women put forth a lot of effort because they need the contact. Some men do the same. It's not gender to the degree you're making it seem -- it's more personality type and introversion versus extroversion...


And anbuend, I feel as though you made one of the best points towards the OP thus far. Thank you very much. I will check out the links myself.