Why is it "inappropriate" to.......thread

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Wow! I had been looking for a thread like this for months, because I've always been confused and even irritated as to why so many things are inappropriate to do when out in public. It's not fair being beholdent to act appropriate all the time when some of us find it hard to. I think humans these days are so inconsiderate of people with a learning disability. Wouldn't the world be a better place if nothing at all was inappropriate or embarrassing? I don't think I would be half as self-conscious as I am. Let me re-phraise that. I don't think the word ''self-conscious'' will be in any dictionary. I'm glad I've found this thread!

I've got so many whinges about not being able to do inappropriate things that I don't know where to start, so I will post again once I've read some other people's posts on here and see if I agree with any of them (which I probably will)

I've always been wondering about this too. How come it's inappropriate to burp or fart, but nobody bats an eyelid when someone sneezes or coughs? And sneezing and coughing spread germs, whereas burps and farts actually don't. I've read that burps and farts have harmless bacteria in them (or whatever it's called), and they can't spread any germs (unless you're sick or poo yourself, but that's different). Coughs and sneezes are more dirty and should be embarrassing because they spread colds and flus.

The idea is that if you're being nostalgic, you don't actually like a children's show, you just like to reminisce. At least, I think that's it.

are those things inappropriate then? really? i always thought i hid my underwear to avoid getting raped or something. and sleeping with an opposite sex sibling? really? never knew you couldn't do that...............i discuss sex in public. why not?
by the way a sex question:
why is it inappropriate for a girl to ask a guy she fancies if he wants to have sex? i've done it in the past, in front of his sister, and well, he was only happy about the offer but wow, his sister didn't stop going on about it for a year after. i don't get it.

Why is it ok for a female to ask a kilted male what kind of underwear he is wearing, but a male asking the same question of a female in a skirt is inappropriate?

It's society's beliefs that men are horny perverts, but women aren't.

Also men are supposed to be able to "take it". Some double-standard stuff in there.

You're basically trying to apply logic to a society that doesn't use it much.

It's okay to burp discretely so long as you cover your mouth and say "excuse me" when you are finished. Flatulence is a different matter. It's considered faux no matter what.

Agreed!

Here is my 2 cents worth:

Why is it inappropriate to correct or question a "superior", even when they´re wrong?

If you´re at a work meeting, and they say they want to "raise the standard" of the school, company, or institution, then why do they not want to listen and seem to be actually offended when you give them suggestions as to what they can do to raise the standard?

If somebody says "please, give me an honest answer.....does this dress make me look fat" - why is the honest answer still inappropriate? Why ask the question in the first place, if you don´t want it answered?

Why is it that when I was young, if you coughed you had to put your hand over your mouth, and now suddenly you have to use the crook of your elbow instead......who decides?

Why can´t I sit Indian style in public? I like sitting Indian style.

Why do I have to leave my shoes on at a meeting? I feel more comfortable without my shoes.

If it´s an unseasonably hot day in the middle of October, why does everybody dress as if it were still cold outside....and, worse, why do they all stare at me when I peel off my outer garments, or decide to wear summery clothing- as if I`M the one who´s weird? Can´t they feel the temperature?

Etc., etc.

I can explain the jogging in a suit.

It's expensive, so it seems like a waste to get it dirty and smelly

When people ask things like that dress-thing, they do not always want to actually hear your opinion on it. Sometimes they are just doing what is called "fishing for compliments". That means that they are hoping that you will say something very nice to them. They only add the bit about the "honest answer" so they can pretend they did NOT try to make you flatter them.

The bit about not covering your mouth with your hand anymore when you are coughing has to do with people being concerned about your leaving some kind of germs on your hand which you would then spread whenever you would touch something or greet someone with a handshake. It only came up in this form after the diverse epidemics of the last years.
In a way it is an attempt to make a totally irrational thing seem rational, because originally it was NOT about hygiene to cover your mouth when you were coughing, sneezing, etc. A long time ago (the Middle Ages or even earlier, not quite sure at the moment), people were afraid that the sudden rush of air leaving their bodies might somehow flush out their souls and they hoped to prevent this by somehow catching their souls back with their hands.
That they later invented the story about it being about germs and hygiene just goes to prove that even non-Aspies do not always understand why they are doing or not doing certain things. Human just are irrational in that respect.

As to keeping your shoes on in most public situations, that is just because people are worried that your feet might be smelly and that they would be bothered by your foot-smell. Especially since it would be inappropiate for THEM to point out to YOU that your feet are smelly, so that they would have to suffer the smell for however long the situation would take.

Wow, that is really interesting!




It is my theory that the reason people´s feet smell is because they keep their feet cooped up in tight socks and shoes all day. If we would allow our feet some breathing time, they wouldn´t smell. Feet, in their natural state, don´t smell bad- (at least, mine don´t. )

Besides, it does seem to be "appropriate" to take off one´s shoes in an airplane....at least, most everyone does it. And, being on a long overseas flight, in a place you can´t escape from, is about the worst place to have to smell unclean feet!

And in a meeting, I would be willing to wear slippers, or a clean pair of slipper-socks, to cover up any possible smell. But somehow, I don´t think that that would go over well either......

I've heard that that's also the reason why people say 'bless you'.

Why is it inappropriate to not say I'm sorry when I'm really not sorry?

I think that saying sorry for something you're not sorry about is the most insulting way to lie to anyone and I don't like to lie or be lied to, so I won't.

Regarding not being allowed to question superiors, I think it's a "pecking order" thing we've stuck with since the days of primitive man( what a difference, right?)

Your family does not do that? Mine does, we crack jokes over the stiff's coffin. My youngest siblings and cousins talked about cartoons and spy movies the whole time.

Speaking of funerals, etc.: Why do people look shocked if I say my mother died? Why does everybody say "she passed away", or, they say "now we are going to mourn her passing" (?) To me, this sounds ridiculous. I think of someone passing gas, right into "The Beyond".

But, seriously, death is a natural state. We all die. Why can´t we talk about it normally.... why do we have to use silly words that sound like something else other than death?