Verdandi wrote:
oldmantime wrote:
they basically are the only options here. granted you could embrace each to a varying degree, but those degrees are formed of those two distinctions.
I don't agree, it's an overly simplistic representation and assigns moral judgments to people who may be overwhelmed by their difficulties.
They're also subjective. Maybe I'm a bit sensitized to the people who have tried to criticize me for "giving up without trying" because I am applying for SSI and tried to claim that I can obviously work because I can type and write well, whereas for
me I am going out and trying my best
after having exhausted all other avenues over the past two decades. An ability to type and write well does not mean I can hold a job doing these things because they are typically in offices (with other people, fluorescent lighting, the necessity to spend much of the day working on a keyboard rather than the option to stop when I need to rest because my arms hurt like hell) and so on.
I know you've accounted for this already, but when most people say things like that? They didn't. They're saying "suck it up."
that funny. someone took me to be diagnosed after i graduated college because they didn't think i could deal with everything on my own. it depends on the people i guess. my mom for example likes to get really pissed off whenever i complain about noise. not as bad as it was when i was younger and not diagnosed, but she's still very insensitive to it. like when i complain about the kids next door banging around. apparently they deserve to do this even if it destroys my life according to her.
and yeah, people can be insensitive. many are insensitive to my foot problems for example. now, because i gave in and listened to them i went from being able to stand all day in shoes every now and then to not being able to stand for more than a couple hours in shoes without significant pain. of course, that didn't matter to anyone i knew and i ended up homeless anyway.