17 Mar 2012, 5:43 pm
rebbieh wrote:
Oh I've got another question. This is really the first time I've "met" people who are like me so I hope it's ok I ask. Anyway, I was at work today (working was like hell today by the way, too much people, too much sounds, alarms going off everywhere etc) and I asked one of my managers if I could go drink some water. He smiled and say "Sure, but that's going to be £5 off your wages." I said "Sorry, what?" and he repeated what he said. I understood that he was joking but I didn't think it was funny at all and I had no idea how to respond. So I stood there like a moron and a few seconds too late I tried to be funny and said something like "Well I don't care" and went to get some water. Only I wasn't funny at all and I felt very awkward. That happens a lot. Does it happen to you too?
For stuff like that I just blank them. No response of any kind. If they say something that doesn't earnestly attempt to relate to you, look at them like they're part of the wall.
Like this...
17 Mar 2012, 5:51 pm
BruceCM wrote:
If you get the diagnosis on the NHS, it is official. Certainly, people saying things I don't understand happens plenty, but I'm lucky, work wise. That's mostly been relatively easy, mostly 'literal' stuff & you're usually supposed to ask if you don't know how to do stuff, etc. Finding out you're 'like' us, huh? That'll help! 
Yeah I think I'm quite good at understanding people's facial expressions and stuff, but I've never been good with jokes unless they're exactly my kind of humour. I also fail to understand sarcasm sometimes. Far from always, but sometimes.
17 Mar 2012, 5:52 pm
fraac wrote:
rebbieh wrote:
Oh I've got another question. This is really the first time I've "met" people who are like me so I hope it's ok I ask. Anyway, I was at work today (working was like hell today by the way, too much people, too much sounds, alarms going off everywhere etc) and I asked one of my managers if I could go drink some water. He smiled and say "Sure, but that's going to be £5 off your wages." I said "Sorry, what?" and he repeated what he said. I understood that he was joking but I didn't think it was funny at all and I had no idea how to respond. So I stood there like a moron and a few seconds too late I tried to be funny and said something like "Well I don't care" and went to get some water. Only I wasn't funny at all and I felt very awkward. That happens a lot. Does it happen to you too?
For stuff like that I just blank them. No response of any kind. If they say something that doesn't earnestly attempt to relate to you, look at them like they're part of the wall.
Like this...
Ha, I'll definitely try to remember that next time.
17 Mar 2012, 6:24 pm
Generally, I think, I can tell when people are joking or being sarky (especially since I can be pretty sarky, too, 
). But there's plenty of other 'unliteral' uses of language. I can't even tell when something is a metaphor, let alone work out what it means! 
17 Mar 2012, 6:28 pm
BruceCM wrote:
Generally, I think, I can tell when people are joking or being sarky (especially since I can be pretty sarky, too, ). But there's plenty of other 'unliteral' uses of language. I can't even tell when something is a metaphor, let alone work out what it means!
). But there's plenty of other 'unliteral' uses of language. I can't even tell when something is a metaphor, let alone work out what it means! I think I get most metaphors but I often don't think they make sense. They're often not logical. Do you know what I mean? What other things do you find difficult to understand? Not only when it comes to uses of language, but in general.
17 Mar 2012, 6:42 pm
People!? Racism? Sexism? Homophobia? Etc, et al!
17 Mar 2012, 7:32 pm
How'd you tell people about having Asperger's?
17 Mar 2012, 8:29 pm
Um! I wish I hadn't, mostly? My parents were OK with it, they'd always known I was 'different', so it was some relief, having an 'explanation' for them. If you're looking for advice on it, be very careful who you tell. Possibly, having a printout of the basic info would help, to start with? But I expect you'd do better at that than I did, generally, anyway!
Is it my imagination or are you less confused & more at ease, now? 
18 Mar 2012, 3:10 am
rebbieh wrote:
BruceCM wrote:
If you get the diagnosis on the NHS, it is official. Certainly, people saying things I don't understand happens plenty, but I'm lucky, work wise. That's mostly been relatively easy, mostly 'literal' stuff & you're usually supposed to ask if you don't know how to do stuff, etc. Finding out you're 'like' us, huh? That'll help!
Yeah I think I'm quite good at understanding people's facial expressions and stuff, but I've never been good with jokes unless they're exactly my kind of humour. I also fail to understand sarcasm sometimes. Far from always, but sometimes.
I'm the same
I always seem to miss jokes, or I make jokes which are totally strange and unfunny to others.
I also feel like I can read people fairly well at this point, but I get very very confused by their actions (probably cuz they aren't what I myself would do). And I also can't tell when people like me or not.
18 Mar 2012, 3:12 am
I do have a weird sense of humour, so most people don't get my jokes!
18 Mar 2012, 3:13 am
BruceCM wrote:
Um! I wish I hadn't, mostly? My parents were OK with it, they'd always known I was 'different', so it was some relief, having an 'explanation' for them. If you're looking for advice on it, be very careful who you tell. Possibly, having a printout of the basic info would help, to start with? But I expect you'd do better at that than I did, generally, anyway!
Is it my imagination or are you less confused & more at ease, now?
Is it my imagination or are you less confused & more at ease, now?
Yeah I mean, I don't think I'd tell that many people anyway. And when not having a diagnosis I kind of feel like I can't tell people at all since I guess most people, for some reason, don't really want to believe you unless you've got it on paper.
I think I'm a little less confused, but not sure at all. I mean, there's still a part of me saying I'm probably imagining the whole thing. But to be honest, since I learned my mum thought she'd probably be diagnosed with ADHD or ADD if she grew up now, and she's got most of the traits I've got, it kind of feels like me having Asperger's isn't impossible. Does that make sense?
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18 Mar 2012, 3:42 am
Yeah, since that's what I was saying, earlier! You want a certainty that, bluntly, doesn't exist! There are other forums, if you want to look around & join some, btw. Wish I had the 'authority' you seem to need. OK, so people should accept the 'official' diagnosis but the odds are that they'll know nothing or very little about any Autism. I'd not heard of it before being sent for a diagnosis a few years ago. Then, if they know anything about it, it's from, say, Rainman! Not necessarily useful.
18 Mar 2012, 3:56 am
BruceCM wrote:
Yeah, since that's what I was saying, earlier! You want a certainty that, bluntly, doesn't exist! There are other forums, if you want to look around & join some, btw. Wish I had the 'authority' you seem to need. OK, so people should accept the 'official' diagnosis but the odds are that they'll know nothing or very little about any Autism. I'd not heard of it before being sent for a diagnosis a few years ago. Then, if they know anything about it, it's from, say, Rainman! Not necessarily useful.
Yeah exactly. And also, since you're saying a diagnosis is quite subjective and since I guess the criteria are a bit arbitrary, I'm a bit afraid that if I'd go for a diagnosis I might not end up with one anyway. It must be difficult to decide if someone's got AS or not since people show different traits.
18 Mar 2012, 4:22 am
It is, really, unless you did happen to get to a proper expert (who's dealt with a lot of different Aspies/ Auties). Surely, in your online research, you've found some of the other forums?
18 Mar 2012, 4:31 am
BruceCM wrote:
It is, really, unless you did happen to get to a proper expert (who's dealt with a lot of different Aspies/ Auties). Surely, in your online research, you've found some of the other forums?
Sure, I've found some of the other forums. It's nice just reading what people are writing. I can identify with a lot of it.
18 Mar 2012, 4:48 am
Great, not seen you in any of mine, though?
