What social faux pas did you do today?
a person started to talk to me, and i tried to oblige him by listening to what he said.
he was the "boss " of the clients contingent, and he was rattling off many words aimed at my head, and i did not want to listen to him, but i persisted in not telling him that i was not interested, and i listened as best i could.
he said during his conversation "but considering i was a former refugee, i had to provide..etc", and i heard it as "but considering i was a former F.U.G, i had to provide"..la la la la (whatever he said)
i spent much time on trying to figure out what F.U.G stands for, and i listened to nothing else he said because i was obsessed with working out what i thought was an acronym, and when i reported the situation to my girlfriend, she told her mother who spoke to me and straightened out the matter for me.
the meeting went well, but that man did not like me much, however the other people did.
I'm sorry, but this just made me laugh. I do that same thing...
it did not make me laugh. there are endless possible meanings for "F.U.G", and i was caught in a vortex of possibilities that i could not escape. he was talking to a brick wall after i was derailed.
well i was not talking about true acronyms. i was talking about perceived "acronyms" due to phonetic confusion.
it did not make me laugh. there are endless possible meanings for "F.U.G", and i was caught in a vortex of possibilities that i could not escape. he was talking to a brick wall after i was derailed.
I'm sorry if I offended. I am still in "discovery mode" - that's the part where an older adult is diagnosed with Aspergers and I'm suddenly finding out that all my weird idiosycracies also affect others. I did not mean to imply that I was laughing at you... just that it made me smile to realize that somebody besides me does this.
Real or perveived, the reaction is the same.
Last night on the local news, the commentator mentioned that coming up next was coverage of the Spurs v. Clippers game...
What I heard was that coming up next was coverage of the furry slippers game. That took me several minutes to recover from.
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Okay... I just got caught "flying"...
It's a thing I do. I am supposed to dress "business dress" for work but I hate dresses and I can't seem to manage dress shoes. I wear sneakers. Get over it. But I do try to conform to the level of dress code even if I don't wear skirts and dresses.
Anyway, today I am wearing dress slacks with a sleeveless top and a gauzy, filmy over blouse. The blouse tends to sort of flap around behind me when I walk fast down the hall. Well, I grabbed the bottom edges of my blouse and was using it sort of like wings as I speed walked down the hallway and somebody rounded the corner and saw me. I immediately dropped my arms and tried to act like it wasn't me doing that weird s**t.
Not sure what they thought of that one. I didn't make eye contact (after the startled "deer in the headlights" look upon first encounter).
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today I was sitting at school and we were working on a project. (so there was a bout 3 other people with me, who I will refer to as A,B and C. C is a boy,the rest of us are girls.)
so A said "have you guys seen the avengers?" and B said "yah..." and A said "your lying" and B said "nah uh! I don't lie! See? C is beautiful!" and C just starts laughing. And I say "wait... Are you lying? Is C really beautiful to you?" and they all start laughing. And I just sit there with a really confused look on my face.
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daydreamer84
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Today I turned away from a conversation with a neighbour , picking up my book ,mumbling a response and not looking at her. At the time my neighbour was asking me whether her dog (that came up to me and I was absentmindedly petting) was bothering me. I know better than to act like that but I was really absorbed in reading a book on my porch when my neighbour (and her dog) came around to greet me. I was just thinking about getting back to my book and not the lady in front of me. When I thought about this later after finishing my book I realized that she might take this behaviour to mean that she and her dog were bothering me a lot (bedside thinking that I am just rude)! I feel really bad about this because I actually love her dog....he doesn't make a lot of noise like most small dogs and he's very friendly (I'm an animal lover in general too).
Yesterday, I got up and walked away in the middle of a conversation. I realized it was wrong as soon as I stood up, but I left anyway... then I came back and apologized, but the damage was done.
Somebody was talking to me about blah, blah, blah, and I was trying really hard to listen, but then someone else came up to me and interrupted the conversation (NT's seem to be able to do that with pizzazz) and told me that someone across the room had a question about my particular area of interest and I jumped up in the middle of what the other person was saying. They stopped talking abruptly, and I said, "Oh, I'm sorry... that was rude. What were you saying?" But she just said, "no, it's okay." So I left. But when I was done across the room, I came back but she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I guess it really wasn't "okay".
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chtucker18
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After getting into my maths lesson late because I had worked out the time wrong I saw that my teacher was trying to explain how to work out the volume of a cylinder. Since this is unbelievable simple I said to myself out loud: "Seriously, how can someone not know that".
Turns out it was the person next to it that said it, however I knew them so it wasn't that bad.
Had a monthly restaurant lunch with everyone from the office. We were finished and about ready to leave and the waitress came by and asked to pick up the empty plates. The gal across from me had gone (to the restroom, I assume, not left the restaurant) and I said she could take her plate as well.
When she comes back, she says "Oh, they took my plate! I wanted that salad dressing!! !", leaving me feeling quite embarassed as everyone else at the table had heard me tell the waitress that it was OK to take it (no one objected, btw). I immediately apologized and THE BOSS insisted on going to the server and asking for a new container of dressing for her to take home.
Now, in my defense, she had completely cleaned her plate and boxed up the rest, having had the salad at the beginning of the meal. The only thing left on the plate was a small container with this stuff in it. I had no indication that she had wanted to save it. Still, it was one of those situations where I end up saying "How the hell did that happen?"
I was in a park, tanning, and I came across a friend of mine who invited me over in a group consisting of more than 10 people, each of whom I know to various degrees.
I declined, stuttering some BS pretext, just because I didn't know how to greet all those people, and came back home alone.
I declined, stuttering some BS pretext, just because I didn't know how to greet all those people, and came back home alone.
Tha's not a faux pas, tha's a coping skill!
Sorry... that's exactly what I would have done.
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i am not currently being notified by email of any topics i have posted in being updated, so i may not reply to any response because i will not be notified of it.
anyway, here is a collection of a few circumstances that occurred this week.
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on tuesday last week, i was eating a dinner i had ordered at a local tavern (steak in mushroom sauce and seasonal vegetables) , and a girl who has taken an interest in me encouraged me to have 2 alcoholic drinks after i finished my meal, and then 2 of her friends came into the tavern and sat with "us" (i was not interested in company but i try not to be "rude").
the 2 people were a male and a female, and they were in a relationship. the male was thin and scrawny and the female was buxom and "voluptuous" (as some might use as a description).
the girl who i was "with" (she just told me she was going to sit at my table (inferring "whether i like it or not") and who acts like my friend even though i do not know her) was seemingly intrigued at the fact that the couple, although seemingly mismatched, were very compatible.
girl (with me): I'm stunned! You guys have such a beautiful relationship, but you seem very different from each other. What's your secret?
male (of the couple): well (grimaces at his girlfriend) it's because we compliment each other.
female (of the couple): definitely!
girl (with me): That's amazing. You can never tell who is compatible on a superficial level.
me: sorry? i can not think of any compliments i could give either of you, so what compliments do you give each other?
girl (with me): not that type of compliment...
me: well i have a lot to do tomorrow so i will bid you all farewell.
them: bye...
later on, i reasoned that when they said "compliment", they may have meant it in a boolean sense, and so i may have missed out on a more intense immersion in a salient discussion while i was at the tavern.
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my sister and brother in law were nearby to my new house yesterday.
they are much older than me, and they were at my nieces house (about 12 minutes down the road).
my brother in law rang me and said he wanted to visit me at my new house, and i said "ok".
him: g'day mark!!
me: hello
him: yeah can you give me your address so we can come up and drop in tomorrow.
me: how many people?
him: just me and "lynette" (my sister) and "karren" (my niece (who is 2 years younger than me)) and her husband and kids.
me: so how many is that?
him: about 7 or so. you should know how many it is.
me: i have seating for only 2 people in my house, so unless everyone minus 1 wants to stand up while they are here, then ok.
him: why haven't you got lounges?
me: because they are not present in my house.
him: you should get lounges...
me: the shops are shut (it was sunday)
him: i mean in future.
me: yes i will. why are you down here?
him: we're down here because it's the twin's birthday.
me: which one?
him: sorry?
me: sorry i do not know their names.
him: they're twins!.
me: are you saying they both have the same name?
end of transmission and i was not visited the next day (phew) but i do think there maybe some angst associated with me at the moment, but i could not be bothered to speculate about it.
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when someone shows you something they feel proud about, you should like it. similar situations to this have happened before, and i have never learned.
a person i know bought a used car that he liked and he is positively biased as to it's attributes.
he presented it's picture to me via email for my appraisal, and then he rang me and i said to him
me: i don't like it.
him: what?!? why?
me: i just don't like it.
him: but why don't you like it?
me: because i just don't.
him: but what's the reason you don't like it?
me: the reason i don't like it is because it doesn't appeal to me.
him: for f**ks sake!! ! why don't you like it?! is it the color or the design? why?!?!?
me: i just don't like it and that is all i can say..
i hung up then (pretending that my battery went flat) and he has not rang me since.
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there are a few more but i am tired of typing stuff to here, so i will now hibernate
When she comes back, she says "Oh, they took my plate! I wanted that salad dressing!! !", leaving me feeling quite embarassed as everyone else at the table had heard me tell the waitress that it was OK to take it (no one objected, btw). I immediately apologized and THE BOSS insisted on going to the server and asking for a new container of dressing for her to take home.
Now, in my defense, she had completely cleaned her plate and boxed up the rest, having had the salad at the beginning of the meal. The only thing left on the plate was a small container with this stuff in it. I had no indication that she had wanted to save it. Still, it was one of those situations where I end up saying "How the hell did that happen?"
I would have thought she was finished too!
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