Whats your most recent ASD moment?

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Boss informs me about how the workers will be coming in tomorrow to be working on the bathroom floors and I won't be cleaning the restrooms that day. He tells me how they are going to be taking out the grout and replacing it with new grout and I end up talking about floors and and then he says the floor in our building may be original and I said they always change floors in the building and he said it's tough to change a floor design and I said buildings do it all the time, malls do it, the old hotel has done it. Then I told him one example by saying how this one mall that is two blocks from us used to have white, blue, and red tiles and now it's all carpeted and then I tell him how I found out at my old job how the carpets in there were no original and they have always changed the designs of them when they replace the carpets. He then thanks me and I wonder what he was thanking me for.


I didn't ask or else I would have made myself look stupid.

Before rehearsal last night, everyone on the tech team and worship band had to go around and introduce ourselves, say how long we've been going to the church, and tell something interesting about ourselves. I got really anxious when it was my turn, for obvious reasons. I mean, I know some of the people on the team, but I still don't really know them too well. :-/

Luckily, the worship leader came to my rescue, pointed out that I'm clearly not comfortable with public speaking, and said I didn't have to talk. The sound guy said that I was smiling, but I told him that I tend to smile/laugh when I get really anxious.

I watched the ceiling fan spin, not sure for how long, but I focused on it, at least until I got distracted by something else. If there would have been absolutely nothing to distract me, I probably could have kept watching the ceiling fan for hours.

Last night while having a smoke on my balcony and looking at the stars. I started calculating the paths the stars would take across the sky during the night. Weird that advanced mathematics relieves me of stress.

Yesterday was my last day of school. And while everyone else was going to their friends' houses, out to eat, to the mall, or just hanging around after school, I went straight home, turned on my laptop, and went on WP.

It's not like I don't have friends. It's just that most likely, they'll want to go somewhere in a group, and I'm never anyone's first choice to start a conversation with.

I also refuse to become attached to anyone in high school that didn't go to my middle school.

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My nephew Coke needs to eat! Obviously we're related.

Recently I was told that I needed to remember that I'm the one with Aspergers and therefore unlikely to be able to understand the social situation I was trying to have an opinion on. That sucked.

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My apologies, but the "racist" comment wasn't directed at you. Which makes it hard for me to understand your post. You say the original comment was to reflect on you as a female. From what I understand you are female, but you have a male "character". But then you mention something about a sexiest comment you got, but I don't see such a comment from your post. All I'm reading is that you are a very helpful person. I read your post as you've forgot to put in the "point", which was the sexist comment you got and why you got it. But I'd love to hear the full story

The "racist" comment was because I couldn't find a better word (I'm Danish, so my english vocabulary does sometime miss the right words, albeit it happens very rarely).

I put in racist because I felt that telling a person to shut up because they have aspergers, would be like telling an afro-american ...

[to any black people on this forum I apologize if you prefer to be called something different: I DON'T mean to offend. If you are offended please send me a PM and I'll try to clarify]

... to "shut up" and go to the back of the bus. Which did happen in the 60's and prior I believe. I've tried to keep up with american culture, but I may have made a mistake here. Like I said I really don't want to offend anybody on this forum.

In hindsight I think the word "Discriminating" might have been better

But I used the word "racist" because I felt that somebody had treated "GumbyLives" as a second rate citizen and that pissed me off, in my oppinion we are all equal, no matter the skin color or what other quirks you might have.

Ah, LogiXYZ, I can see now how I was so unclear! I'm the one who should apologize now!

I quoted you because it simply reminded me of something that happened once. Then I told what happened back in that earlier time that I was remembering. The sexist part was the idea that all guys and only guys know to take the initiative to clue in and then be helpful. But the Asperger's I may turn out to have (I'm being assessed for the second time now - long story, but it's all in my blog) is probably what keeps me from cluing in, not the fact that I'm physically female. I do like to be helpful, and I try to help whenever I can tell someone needs it. I was like that before this guy made his comment to me, but his comment made me look for more ways to tell someone needs help and to look in more kinds of situations with more kinds of things going on. I think this guy was trying to tell me how to be more like a guy. But women help people out, too. So, it seemed sexist to me for him to think women don't look for opportunities to help anyone.

Does this explanation help? I really hadn't thought you'd directed anything at me in your post, and I understood your comparison of racism to the prejudice someone can face as an Aspie. You said it because GumbyLives mentioned that someone thought that having Asperger's means you always have to be the one who's wrong about all social stuff. GumbyLives was frustrated and irritated by that attitude, because it's not always true. It's not fair to dismiss someone's opinion that way. You were recognizing the prejudice with your comment and comparing it with other stereotyping and ignorance faced by another community. Have I understood your post correctly?

If you feel as though we're still not understanding each other fully, please let me know. I'll be happy to keep trying to clarify and work it out.